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Post by worksforme2 on Aug 23, 2016 6:45:32 GMT -5
I got a call from my X Sunday afternoon around 6pm. She had water coming from the bottom of her air handling unit in the closet next to the kitchen and it was making it's way toward the middle of the kitchen floor and along the wall. So I made my way over. The condensate pipe from the drain pan was overflowing as was the drain pan. The fix was relatively simple. I used the shop vac to suck away the excess water in the pan and then reversed the airflow of the vac making it a blower and then blew the drain line clear. It took longer to drive over than it did to fix.
As I was taking my payment in the form of kisses we slowly meandered our way outside to my truck to put away the socket and driver I had used to expose the drain pan. During the 4th or 5th kiss I started to up the ante by holding her butt and pulling her closer. Just as the intimate proximity pointer was beginning to stir she pulled away and said " I have to go, I'm missing Big Brother". WTH...But she was pretty affectionate for a bit, so I'm thinking "you know it's been over a month since we last had sex", maybe she is "in the mood" or could be by the weekend. Wish me luck.....
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Post by bballgirl on Aug 23, 2016 7:23:38 GMT -5
Good luck for the weekend!!
I watch Big Brother too but that's what DVR's are for!
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Post by greatcoastal on Aug 23, 2016 7:49:12 GMT -5
I was with you all the way, until the "maybe she's in the mood" part. If a tv show is more Important than a person, well that is a degrading slap in the face, and should not be tolerated!
My STBX, has spent countless evenings buried in her Ipad playing scrabble games, it's demoralizing!
I remember part of a sermon from our singles pastor back in my 20's. He spoke about love being a commitment to the greatest good of another person. He went on to share a story about his college days and how much his studies were interrupted by people coming to see him and talk to him. He always put his books down and made time for people. People were far more important. He still managed to pass his classes, and isn't that what a pastor( and all of us) is supposed to be learning and doing, people first?
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Post by worksforme2 on Aug 23, 2016 9:41:24 GMT -5
Good luck for the weekend!! Thanks bballgirl....I think you and I are pretty much in sync when it comes to our attitude about sex. You could have been a guy in a previous life. LOL |
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Post by worksforme2 on Aug 23, 2016 10:00:44 GMT -5
I was with you all the way, until the "maybe she's in the mood" part. If a tv show is more Important than a person, well that is a degrading slap in the face, and should not be tolerated! You're right and here is my plan. If I do get her between the sheets I will balance the scales by making it a point to last longer than usual. Once I satisfy her she likes for me to cum quickly. I never do, but maybe I will really work at lasting a long time. Now I'm not talking about f*cking her blind, just until she needs a new prescription. ...Bwahahaha |
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Post by bballgirl on Aug 23, 2016 10:21:36 GMT -5
Good luck for the weekend!! Thanks bballgirl....I think you and I are pretty much in sync when it comes to our attitude about sex. You could have been a guy in a previous life. LOL Sometimes I think I was. I actually have a platonic male friend that I flirt and joke around with and he told me - "that's what I like about you, you think like a man but your not". And with good luck I thoroughly mean that, there's something to be said about the chase and anticipation so the fact that she wanted to watch tv is not a big deal just follow up later in the week and see if she needs you to check on anything else in the house.  |
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Post by DryCreek on Aug 23, 2016 14:08:08 GMT -5
worksforme2, there's something just a little more tolerable about her behavior when she has no rights to your exclusivity, eh? That said, her thinking is still messed up. These days, there is nothing about TV that can't be played back on-demand, after the festivities." Not that it's tit-for-tat, but it's a good thing that her handyman wasn't too busy watching TV to come rescue her mess...
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Post by Deleted on Aug 23, 2016 17:58:40 GMT -5
I got a call from my X Sunday afternoon around 6pm. She had water coming from the bottom of her air handling unit in the closet next to the kitchen and it was making it's way toward the middle of the kitchen floor and along the wall. So I made my way over. The condensate pipe from the drain pan was overflowing as was the drain pan. The fix was relatively simple. I used the shop vac to suck away the excess water in the pan and then reversed the airflow of the vac making it a blower and then blew the drain line clear. It took longer to drive over than it did to fix. As I was taking my payment in the form of kisses we slowly meandered our way outside to my truck to put away the socket and driver I had used to expose the drain pan. During the 4th or 5th kiss I started to up the ante by holding her butt and pulling her closer. Just as the intimate proximity pointer was beginning to stir she pulled away and said " I have to go, I'm missing Big Brother". WTH...But she was pretty affectionate for a bit, so I'm thinking "you know it's been over a month since we last had sex", maybe she is "in the mood" or could be by the weekend. Wish me luck..... So you're rooting more now that you're divorced? |
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Post by baza on Aug 23, 2016 18:51:25 GMT -5
I must admit to being morbidly fascinated about this scenario you are in Brother worksforme2.
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Post by worksforme2 on Aug 23, 2016 20:00:45 GMT -5
So you're rooting more now that you're divorced? Yes and no. We did not do anything for the year we were separated. Then the weekend following our divorce we look a ride on my new Sportster and when we got back to her condo she announced I was going to get lucky. That was the end June. We fooled around again in mid July. So if I can get her pants off this weekend it will be once a month for 3 months. In the marriage it was pretty much quarterly. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 23, 2016 20:38:33 GMT -5
So you're rooting more now that you're divorced? Yes and no. We did not do anything for the year we were separated. Then the weekend following our divorce we look a ride on my new Sportster and when we got back to her condo she announced I was going to get lucky. That was the end June. We fooled around again in mid July. So if I can get her pants off this weekend it will be once a month for 3 months. In the marriage it was pretty much quarterly. This is improvement. Could be she just knows she needs to keep you in her life, or could be that without the baggage associated with the marriage she feels more free to let go. You and I are in the subgroup who still would love to have sex with our ex. I wouldn't even if she offered because it wouldn't be worth wrecking it with my current deal. But I can't deny the desire is still there. Yeah heh my gf would forgive just about anything except violence or sleeping with my ex LOL. |
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Post by worksforme2 on Aug 24, 2016 11:05:04 GMT -5
I must admit to being morbidly fascinated about this scenario you are in Brother worksforme2. I haven't chased the why in this like I did my S/M. Because it doesn't have the meaning for me my marriage did. I enjoy her company, but I also enjoy pumping my tadpoles in her more than others I have had in my bed since our parting. As for an explanation I am of the opinion that she feels more in control and control is a really big thing for her. Being in control puts her in a comfort zone. She sees herself as an alpha female. Without the pressure of meeting her wifely duties the intimacy becomes easier. The alpha female choosing who she will mate with rather than the married spouse obligated to provide sex as a part of the marriage contract. Of coarse I could be wildly wrong in this conjecture but it's as good an explanation as any at the moment. Until a better one presents itself I will continue to take pleasure in her company when that's all there is and avail myself of her favors when they present themselves, all along with added potential of other opportunities for coupling with any new ladies I meet. |
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Post by baza on Aug 24, 2016 21:21:38 GMT -5
My curiosity Brother wfm is because I can't recall a similar dynamic in my membership here (and EP) going back a few years.
So however your deal shakes out, it is going to add to the collective knowledge of the group.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 25, 2016 22:40:24 GMT -5
My curiosity Brother wfm is because I can't recall a similar dynamic in my membership here (and EP) going back a few years. So however your deal shakes out, it is going to add to the collective knowledge of the group. This was one of the main reasons I made my poll on this topic. I too still want to sleep with my ex, and if I wasn't in a deal I'd probably be a lot like wfm, trying and hoping. The difference though from before would be that I wouldn't beg or go to counseling or even put great effort into it. I could shrug off being refused because I no longer rely on her to meet all my sexual and intimate needs. It would just be two single people going on a date. But I always liked sex with her...even better than with my AP. Ok this gets weirder by the line I know. So I wondered if there were many others like this. The poll results indicate otherwise though (small sample size that it is). All of which on the surface, as an aside, seems to indicate that I'm not ready yet to be in a new deal. Except we've been together now for three years and we're still not only happy but in love. And not a "mature" relationship, which is a euphemism for drained of passion. We fuck, we make love, we fight, we kiss, we get bored, we talk, we go out for cheeseburgers on Sunday night. Whenever someone says they have the "secret" to a happy and lasting relationship I figure they have a book on the market, because there isn't any one Master Secret to relationships any more than to learning blues licks. But if I had to credit our success so far to one thing, it would be our mutual acceptance of the fact that we are both colossally screwed up in the head. There are a lot of flatted fifths in our life together. But the greasy parts are the parts that lift us together, which is after all the best way to transcend your troubles: three chords, the truth, and another twisted soul who hasn't forgotten what's important by your side. Which is why I don't sleep with my ex. |
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Post by baza on Aug 25, 2016 23:07:28 GMT -5
Well Phin, I am drawing on nearly 7.2 years of involvement with the EP ILIASM group and about 5 months involvement with this group, and I have a pretty good memory.
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And stories where someone has been divorced, but still roots their ex spouse, are as rare as rocking horse shit.
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I don't like your chances of finding much reference material in here.
But I'd be super interested if you uncover any stories that fit the bill.
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