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Post by wewbwb on Aug 22, 2016 19:03:07 GMT -5
Truthfully at times I can be selfish. But yes, i do feel guilt about it when I am. As for the appreciation? Ha ha ha. You so funny.... FML. |
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Post by pfviento on Aug 22, 2016 21:16:36 GMT -5
Sometimes the issues that we face in a SM are simple. Sometimes they just don't love us. Sometimes we simply need more than they can give. Sometimes we simply need things in a different way than they can give. They get tired of it. They fall out of love with us. The hardest thing to understand and accept is that, We still love them. We wish they could fulfill us. We want them to. Sometimes we make mistakes that they cannot forgive us for. Sometimes, we fail to see that they don't love us because we see them through our own eyes. Eyes that want to see the relationship work. Unfortunately, the heart doesn't have eyes. It simply feels what it feels. Wow. That's incredibly accurate for my situation also. Concisely explains some of what I feel. I'm sorry you had to come by this insight but thank your for sharing it. |
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Post by baza on Aug 22, 2016 22:52:45 GMT -5
"If" - and that is a big "if", one can let the emotional air out of the balloon, and look at our situations objectively, then the resolution of an ILIASM shithole is indeed "simple".
You get out.
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But obviously one ought not confuse "simple" with "easy".
They are very different things.
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The concept, of getting away from a sub-optimal situation, is simplicity itself.
But the "doing", because of the emotional aspects and the logistical aspects of an ILIASM shithole are the major things that turn a simple concept in to a complex and difficult thing to "do".
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The logistical aspects are pretty much arithmetic if you set your mind to it. Manageable.
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The emotional aspects "can" be managed (with great difficulty and pain)
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In short, if you "want" to resolve your ILIASM shithole, you can. It is a perfectly legitimate choice.
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But there is nothing wrong with not being prepared to pay the logistical and emotional tariff that leaving entails short term.
That's a perfectly reasonable choice too.
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The choice, is yours.
The consequences of your choice are likewise, yours.
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