Post by TMD on Aug 17, 2016 23:21:56 GMT -5
LOL. I have been on here a bit recently. Reading up. But not much to say.
I do have an update, though. And I pondered whether or not it belongs in "SM Issues," but realize that it's a direct result of my SM, so here it is:
I got a job! I start in a few weeks. It's an entry level position. The guys who are in charge say that most people in the position usually transition elsewhere in the company within 6-8 months. And they actually liked my resume/skill set. That was a nice confidence boost. After being, primarily, a SAHM for 10 years my biggest concern is my work wardrobe.
How this is update relevant in this topic? The new job will help me secure my exit strategy in a sound financial manner. I'll take a few months to sort out some debt and get a new-ish vehicle (2 of my vehicle's 6 cylinders are misbehaving, even though they were recently replaced). And then I will provide the STBX (eek!) with a proposal (he can choose how we manage the living situation; do we sell house and find our own places, or do we bird nest and leave kids in house, while we rest our heads elsewhere on the days we don't have custody?). I have an electronic draft separation to give him, once we agree on the living arrangements.
I'm an example of a person who took a bit longer to get things moving -- once I realized that everything in my marriage, including sex, is NOT great.
I know it will be tough to transition, but I'm a wee bit excited!
I do have an update, though. And I pondered whether or not it belongs in "SM Issues," but realize that it's a direct result of my SM, so here it is:
I got a job! I start in a few weeks. It's an entry level position. The guys who are in charge say that most people in the position usually transition elsewhere in the company within 6-8 months. And they actually liked my resume/skill set. That was a nice confidence boost. After being, primarily, a SAHM for 10 years my biggest concern is my work wardrobe.
How this is update relevant in this topic? The new job will help me secure my exit strategy in a sound financial manner. I'll take a few months to sort out some debt and get a new-ish vehicle (2 of my vehicle's 6 cylinders are misbehaving, even though they were recently replaced). And then I will provide the STBX (eek!) with a proposal (he can choose how we manage the living situation; do we sell house and find our own places, or do we bird nest and leave kids in house, while we rest our heads elsewhere on the days we don't have custody?). I have an electronic draft separation to give him, once we agree on the living arrangements.
I'm an example of a person who took a bit longer to get things moving -- once I realized that everything in my marriage, including sex, is NOT great.
I know it will be tough to transition, but I'm a wee bit excited!
