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Post by DryCreek on Aug 12, 2016 19:15:47 GMT -5
@boulderbob... and if you suddenly have no interest in doing the things she wants from you, then what? It's maddening that these people think they can act with impunity, and then get offended if there are consequences.
It's not two unrelated, one-way relationships. It's a two-way street.
If you're the sole breadwinner, how would she feel if you suddenly didn't feel like providing any spending money? She'd be livid; deprived even. Not getting what she expects from the relationship. "How dare he..."
Likewise if you decided to add a live-in girlfriend to the picture. Why not? Oh, she expected monogamy in marriage? How old-fashioned.
There's a pretty clear set of expectations when we marry, even if they aren't called out in writing; to argue otherwise is an insult to intelligence. The fact is, she committed to a package deal, and now she's trying to play a la carte.
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Post by baza on Aug 12, 2016 19:25:38 GMT -5
These little vignettes of your relationship tend to vindicate your position, and re-confirm that your marriage is indeed an ILIASM shithole Brother boulderbob.
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The case that your marriage IS an ILIASM shithole has been made.
Conclusively.
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Next thing that emerges is the question - "Now what ?"
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And the answer to that one is entirely contingent upon what you are actually prepared to do at this moment in time.
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If you are prepared to put the marriage on the line, then you are some chance of bringing the issue to resolution - one way or another.
So where are you at this moment in time Brother boulderbob ?
(there is no "correct" answer to this question, you are either ready to confront the problem head on, or you ain't. There is no "right" or "wrong" answer)
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Post by tamara68 on Aug 13, 2016 2:45:54 GMT -5
My stbx has a different memory about everything in our life. I just found a draft of a letter to his father. A long list of complaints about me and that everything is my fault. I am the most horrible agressive and lazy woman you could imagine. He twists everything around. he has been postponing numerous things for years. And the reason is because I am not a good wife to him. For instance: All our books are still in boxes for more than 2 years since two movings ago because he can't find the right moment for assembling the book case. That is... having me assemble it. The reason is that he expects me to get moody when I am going to assemble it. That part is true, because I would be doing the work and he would sit next to it and comment all the time. When I hear his version of many things, I feel very hurt, sad and angry. All the more reason to end this so called marriage. |
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Post by wewbwb on Aug 13, 2016 9:03:06 GMT -5
My stbx has a different memory about everything in our life. I just found a draft of a letter to his father. A long list of complaints about me and that everything is my fault. I am the most horrible agressive and lazy woman you could imagine. He twists everything around. he has been postponing numerous things for years. And the reason is because I am not a good wife to him. For instance: All our books are still in boxes for more than 2 years since two movings ago because he can't find the right moment for assembling the book case. That is... having me assemble it. The reason is that he expects me to get moody when I am going to assemble it. That part is true, because I would be doing the work and he would sit next to it and comment all the time. When I hear his version of many things, I feel very hurt, sad and angry. All the more reason to end this so called marriage. Maybe I'm old fashioned. Or it's the mechanic in me. But putting things together is my job. If you want to help, fine. Get naked and read the instructions to me. That should make any man motivated enough to do the job. Kids home? Okay. No nakedness, flash me when they aren't looking. I'm a simple man. |
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Post by wewbwb on Aug 13, 2016 9:23:34 GMT -5
I was attacked once by a squirrel. I'm it's bitch. That's a different story(this sort of thing happens to me a lot). Anyway, my wife was NEXT to me when it happened. I told the story to my friend, in front her, she says "when did this happen?" I look at her and said "Really? Your husband gets owned like a Bitch, in front of you, and you forget? WTF?" She say's "I was there?" "Yes, you helped me clean the fur off my mouth." "Oh, yeah, I remember something like that." FML. She killed a great story. That fucker was waiting for me this morning. Attachments:
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Post by tamara68 on Aug 13, 2016 9:29:51 GMT -5
My stbx has a different memory about everything in our life. I just found a draft of a letter to his father. A long list of complaints about me and that everything is my fault. I am the most horrible agressive and lazy woman you could imagine. He twists everything around. he has been postponing numerous things for years. And the reason is because I am not a good wife to him. For instance: All our books are still in boxes for more than 2 years since two movings ago because he can't find the right moment for assembling the book case. That is... having me assemble it. The reason is that he expects me to get moody when I am going to assemble it. That part is true, because I would be doing the work and he would sit next to it and comment all the time. When I hear his version of many things, I feel very hurt, sad and angry. All the more reason to end this so called marriage. Maybe I'm old fashioned. Or it's the mechanic in me. But putting things together is my job. If you want to help, fine. Get naked and read the instructions to me. That should make any man motivated enough to do the job. Kids home? Okay. No nakedness, flash me when they aren't looking. I'm a simple man. I dont mind putting things together as long as I can do it my way. But helping you naked is the best way  |
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Post by wewbwb on Aug 13, 2016 9:51:19 GMT -5
"Pass me the nipple, - I mean wrench. Damm it give me both!"
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Post by tamara68 on Aug 13, 2016 13:32:19 GMT -5
"Pass me the nipple, - I mean wrench. Damm it give me both!" Great cooperation |
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Post by petrushka on Aug 13, 2016 19:15:13 GMT -5
Yes, I have thought about it. But it was expensive, and I had to take off work. But it did make me think about being a single parent and work from home. Yeah it is sad when it seems like it would be simpler and easier to be a single parent. And then you think, Ah but I would miss out on .... what exactly? Oh, that's an easy one! Frayed nerves. Stomach ulcers. Stress headaches. Stress diarrhea. Emotional pain. Deathwish. Running around like an idiot cleaning up their messes. Getting abused for it. All those wonderful things you'd miss out on .... |
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