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Post by lonelyhubby on Apr 19, 2024 7:05:23 GMT -5
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Post by m76 on Apr 19, 2024 7:12:14 GMT -5
Just watched #8, very true. This guy seems to get it. I'll have to watch the rest of the video later.
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Post by mirrororchid on Apr 23, 2024 4:43:45 GMT -5
#3 is huge at ILIASM.
Enormous issue when a partner is depressed and self-care is desperately obsessive.
Refusers may see their desire for celibacy as a need not met by refused spouse's relentless requests (drives work that way).
This may lead to #6, a need to explore resentments and reconcile them, on both sides. A resentment for long term deprivation. A resentment for demands or badgering of something not freely given. This may require identification and reconciliation over a potentially unrelated empathic rupture.
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Post by ironhamster on Apr 27, 2024 12:18:15 GMT -5
Nowhere in the wedding vows does it say it's anybody's job to make their spouse happy, yet a lot of divorces happen because "I'm not happy."
Yes, he's right. Emotional and sexual needs are both important, but the former is pretty subjective. If I had spent enough time on my refusing wife to keep her happy, I could not have even had a successful stay-at-home job.
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