Seems to me that the more you know about a contentious subject (say divorce) the less frightening and intimidating it is.
So, if someone close to you gets divorced, and you know them to be a good person, it will probably give you cause to rethink your attitude somewhat, and maybe not be as "judgey" as you otherwise might be.
And if you are in a dud marriage yourself as someone close to you divorces it may give you cause to think "If I really had to, I could do that" and you might be prepared to look into how a divorce might theoretically shake out in your jurisdiction.
Possibly, if you are considering divorce, then you might be looking to other divorcing / divorced people to be in your support group. You are probably not going to seek support / advice from happily married persons.
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petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
worksforme2: You know who I miss ...I miss smartkat and andie..and snowman 12345
Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5