Yes, I’m still standing, like Sir Elton says. I’m going to add another song that helped me to keep standing.
If I ever get the chance to meet Don Henley, I will personally thank him for writing this song. When it first came out during the Eagles’ hiatus, I just gotten out of an intense relationship, and my heart was broken. It was my first really serious relationship. What made it worse was my ex gf was a good friend before we dated. And no, sex was not a problem in this relationship. I heard this song, and it helped put the relationship into perspective. I called her, and we talked. We agreed to be friends again. When we talked about the boyfriend-girlfriend part, both of us had the same phrase - “Been there, done that, got the T-shirt.”
It was in the past, where it belonged. I even set her up with one of my friends. When my wife needed a medieval dress for a concert, I knew my ex gf made medieval outfits. She had a dress for my wife and even altered it for her. We’re not close anymore, but we do exchange messages on social media. I did talk to my wife about the ex gf. I told her that if you appreciate me as a husband, you owe that woman some thanks.
I listen to this song now, and think of my late wife. She was a parasite to me before she died. After her death, she became a saint. Now I can look back on our time together more realistically. She was somewhere in between. It was a little more than “been there, done that, got the T-shirt” with my wife. But listening to to this song helps. Lose the resentment. Forgive. And take whatever good that was there and the lessons learned to your next relationship.
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petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
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Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5