Yes, I’m still standing, like Sir Elton says. I’m going to add another song that helped me to keep standing.
If I ever get the chance to meet Don Henley, I will personally thank him for writing this song. When it first came out during the Eagles’ hiatus, I just gotten out of an intense relationship, and my heart was broken. It was my first really serious relationship. What made it worse was my ex gf was a good friend before we dated. And no, sex was not a problem in this relationship. I heard this song, and it helped put the relationship into perspective. I called her, and we talked. We agreed to be friends again. When we talked about the boyfriend-girlfriend part, both of us had the same phrase - “Been there, done that, got the T-shirt.”
It was in the past, where it belonged. I even set her up with one of my friends. When my wife needed a medieval dress for a concert, I knew my ex gf made medieval outfits. She had a dress for my wife and even altered it for her. We’re not close anymore, but we do exchange messages on social media. I did talk to my wife about the ex gf. I told her that if you appreciate me as a husband, you owe that woman some thanks.
I listen to this song now, and think of my late wife. She was a parasite to me before she died. After her death, she became a saint. Now I can look back on our time together more realistically. She was somewhere in between. It was a little more than “been there, done that, got the T-shirt” with my wife. But listening to to this song helps. Lose the resentment. Forgive. And take whatever good that was there and the lessons learned to your next relationship.
Last Edit: Sept 8, 2019 22:00:52 GMT -5 by obobfla
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Aug 29, 2019 12:07:04 GMT -5
worksforme2: Tomorrow is Labor Day 2019, no big plans for the day....thinking seriously of going commando
Sept 1, 2019 11:37:07 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey ironhamster...I just saw your picture on another site and your head wasn't covered. You actually look better without the bandana....
Sept 2, 2019 11:54:55 GMT -5
javba: Dunno Iron Hamster - I have not seen your other photo - I think you ROCK anyways.
Sept 4, 2019 10:11:42 GMT -5
worksforme2: Happened across Tamara68 on another site, messaged her but she didn't respond...
Sept 15, 2019 13:13:02 GMT -5
elkclan2: Dealing with an escaped gerbil. Fun times.
Sept 16, 2019 13:01:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: 1. Hope tamara is doing well. 2. Elkclan2, did you catch the critter???
Sept 17, 2019 15:40:05 GMT -5
worksforme2: Tamara answered me yesterday. She and her partner are moving into a house next week. It's probably about as good as is possible. She didn't comment on the situation with her daughter.
Sept 17, 2019 17:46:02 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Thanks for the update; just hope she is happy
Sept 17, 2019 19:49:55 GMT -5
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Sept 17, 2019 20:40:26 GMT -5
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Sept 17, 2019 21:33:01 GMT -5
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Sept 17, 2019 21:33:16 GMT -5
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Sept 19, 2019 9:09:33 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Another Skype session would be great!
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