I read an affair forum for a while and the women got found out less often than the men.
Reading between the lines, wives are more suspicious than husbands, most of the time, women cheaters had better cover stories and GF to back up the affair cover up, and female cheaters didn't spend as much time figuring out where to meet. Most of the male partners paid for a majority of the affair time expenses.
If a spouse is a refuser, it is easy to outsource and not get caught. Your refuser is usually not tuned into your emotional state anyway, so the signs that would be obvious to a normal spouse would be missed by a refuser. Then just have a way to pay expenses that are not traceable, and an untraceable way to communicate, and it can happen.
Post by worksforme2 on Aug 26, 2019 17:22:41 GMT -5
I would think that most wives are highly tuned into the marriage finances. Many husbands turn most of the shopping and bill paying to their wives. It would seem that if one is going to outsource then close attention must be paid to how it's financed. And little things could trip give you away. I confirmed my 1st X's infidelity following our separation when cleaning out old phone and credit card statements. We saved everything because we usually itemized our taxes. As I disposed of really old stuff I looked through the new statements. There I found phone calls to out of state motels and charges on the credit card for restaurants and gas stations in those areas. And my mom and sister confirmed they had the children on those weekends.
Post by twotimesone on Sept 9, 2019 15:59:27 GMT -5
I wrote up a thread some time ago about "Women's Infidelity, living in limbo." and a few women here didn't have exactly have a positive response about what I said. I think alot of women get away with it because many men trust their wives but not the other way around. Personally, for me, I don't fully trust my W.
frednsa: i saw something on the wedding night (in the 60's) should have ended it during the honeymoon. i was played so perfectly. she is so wonderful in almost every other way, so...still wondering...thinking frigidity is a real thing and untreatable
Aug 29, 2019 12:07:04 GMT -5
worksforme2: Tomorrow is Labor Day 2019, no big plans for the day....thinking seriously of going commando
Sept 1, 2019 11:37:07 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey ironhamster...I just saw your picture on another site and your head wasn't covered. You actually look better without the bandana....
Sept 2, 2019 11:54:55 GMT -5
javba: Dunno Iron Hamster - I have not seen your other photo - I think you ROCK anyways.
Sept 4, 2019 10:11:42 GMT -5
worksforme2: Happened across Tamara68 on another site, messaged her but she didn't respond...
Sept 15, 2019 13:13:02 GMT -5
elkclan2: Dealing with an escaped gerbil. Fun times.
Sept 16, 2019 13:01:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: 1. Hope tamara is doing well. 2. Elkclan2, did you catch the critter???
Sept 17, 2019 15:40:05 GMT -5
worksforme2: Tamara answered me yesterday. She and her partner are moving into a house next week. It's probably about as good as is possible. She didn't comment on the situation with her daughter.
Sept 17, 2019 17:46:02 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Thanks for the update; just hope she is happy
Sept 17, 2019 19:49:55 GMT -5
workingonit: Elkclan2 my son's gerbil escaped at the same time as his pet snake. I did not think it was a coincidence!
Sept 17, 2019 20:40:26 GMT -5
hopingforachange: Wow, is been forever since I read the shoutbox.
Sept 17, 2019 21:33:01 GMT -5
hopingforachange: I need to set up another Skype session.
Sept 17, 2019 21:33:16 GMT -5
sme935: Not quite sure if anyone reads it but if there is a female in the Chicago area (40-60 years old) who is interested in chatting with me drop me a message or look at my profile for messenger screenname;
Sept 19, 2019 9:09:33 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Another Skype session would be great!
Sept 21, 2019 10:51:02 GMT -5