This topic comes up often in a women's group I admin. Situations like this can be terrifying when we are lonely and just want to be loved, adored, cherished, and physically ravished.
Before I realized the breadth of this scam, I had a good-looking military man contact me and I thought okay. I haven't lost my ability to attract a man. I enjoyed the attention. Then after some time conversing, he asked me to send him money and a care package to his "courier" in Nigeria so it could reach him in Afghanistan. Nope. Absolutely not. Blocked, destroyed and threw away my burner.
This is prevalent on Facebook and Instagram, and has made its way to Twitter. What's so sad is these scammers wouldn't have a target if there weren't an underlying problem within our relationships. I think any one of us could be vulnerable, especially if scammers deploy new techniques of their scamdom. Has anyone experienced a time like this?
Sadly, Ms. Holland named in the article did not survive.
Post by worksforme2 on Jul 31, 2019 17:21:51 GMT -5
Ladies aren't the only ones who are subject to attempts at scams. I had been on POF for a while when I got a couple of contacts featuring very attractive and young women. One from Argentina and one from Portugal. Both ladies claimed to be in their late 20's, self employed and seeking to meet a mature male to spend time with when they were in the US. Both indicated they might like to visit me in the US, so would I be interested in a visit? I didn't get a request for money just then but I am pretty sure that would have been coming after a few emails back and forth.
Excellent reporting by the New York Times as usual.
I don't respond to Facebook friend requests from people I don't know. I get some and delete them.
I will engage people on Twitter I don't know if I read their posts and they are sympatico. I've made interesting Twitter friends this way. But I would not send money or stuff. If asked, I would probably block.ive never been asked
Be exceedingly careful. Check people out. Read their posts and check out their friends.
Real relationships can start on the internet. But unless you meet someone in person, they're not a real friend, basically.
Please forgive any typos or poor sentence structure. As I often say, you can have it perfect or you can have it now. Here, I choose now.
This the "Shoutbox" -- basically a site-wide, group chat. (It's only visible to members.)
solodriver: Thanks warmways
Oct 30, 2019 23:36:15 GMT -5
RealMustangGuy: When using a member's username in a post, how does one get it to be in different color and work as a link? I can type in the name but after posting it doesn't look the same as when others use member's usernames in their posts.
Nov 2, 2019 11:37:25 GMT -5
bfar: Just stumbled on this article:https://masculinebydesign.com/sexless-marriage-is-symptomatic-of-emasculated-husbands/ was more than a little disconcerting. Are we digging ourselves further in the hole by trying to be all enlightened and sensitive?
Nov 3, 2019 13:46:42 GMT -5
petrushka: Mate, what's the alternative to all enlightened and sensitive here? Rape? Coercion? Sexual assault? Thanks, but I can do better than being a complete arsehole (or psychopath for that matter).
Nov 3, 2019 21:11:53 GMT -5
bfar: Petrushka... I'm just wondering if we shot ourselves in the foot, as it were, by giving giving up on our strength, and giving in to the feminist agenda of making men irrelevant.
Nov 5, 2019 11:30:21 GMT -5
petrushka: Sorry, I don't buy into that at all. I'm not giving up anything. I've been into the "feminist agenda" for nearly 60 years. Having an empowered partner empowers me. I want strong women around me who take responsibility for themselves and who can face me
Nov 5, 2019 17:20:16 GMT -5
petrushka: I see 'strong men', and controlling bullies, as basically weak, lacking confidence and self esteem -- hence they think they need to assert themselves that way. I loathe patriarchy as much as matriarchy. Partners should be equals.
Nov 5, 2019 17:24:43 GMT -5
petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
worksforme2: You know who I miss ...I miss smartkat and andie..and snowman 12345
Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5