Yeah, I hit most of them. The ones I didn't: 6: NA. I rarely see friends anymore. 7: NA. I have very little interaction with coworkers. 8: W and I are ALWAYS together outside of work. 15: I don't try to convince myself that "it's not that bad" because I know it is. 19: NA. Neither of us take any overnight trips for work so there's no time to "miss each other". 20: NA. I don't bother thinking about the future much so I don't make plans, solo or otherwise.
Bits of me are dying but others are growing. One step at a time.
Post by caballotierra on Apr 25, 2019 21:11:32 GMT -5
I found that the ones that didn't resonate for me DEFINITELY resonated for my W. She was completely annoyed with ME, didn't miss ME when I was gone, etc.
The one that surprised me was Having Crushes. I had crushes like crazy. I used to think it was a chronic thing and that I had a problem falling in love, that I was in love with the idea of being in love. Now, I realize it just meant that I wanted to find someone who would not treat me like shit. We've been living in the same house, working through a divorce for months now...and I find that I realized I don't have crushes on people anymore! How about that. Now that I'm not in an unhappy confusing marriage, I find that I am now content.
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petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
worksforme2: You know who I miss ...I miss smartkat and andie..and snowman 12345
Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5