I came across this quote today. Might be food for thought for some of you who are -- perhaps like me -- despite the prolonged sexless marriage, still a bit reluctant about the idea of divorce. Here it is:
When one burns one's bridges, what a very nice fire it makes. -- Dylan Thomas
Consider this your writing prompt for today: share your thoughts!
I'd dispute that "getting divorced" is necessarily "burning the bridges"
If one is to cross the bridge, from ILIASM to Singleville, there is no need - usually - to then burn the bridge behind you.
The bridge can be left intact.
Now, you might not wish to use the bridge as much as you once did, or you may want to walk over the bridge occasionally rather than drive over it regularly, or you may hardly ever use it again. But there is no reason - usually - for you to torch it.
There may be good reasons to keep the bridge intact such as the necessity to meet somewhere half way across it when circumstances arise that require matters of mutual responsibility being sorted out. This would apply even with Sister elynne 's bridge - even though that bridge would richly deserve to be razed to the ground.
Of course one would need to acknowledge that we are talking about only our end of the metaphoric bridge.
If there is an arsonist on the other end of the bridge, then up in flames it may go, and there is nothing you can do about that.
Post by worksforme2 on Feb 21, 2019 8:54:04 GMT -5
I'm in the boat with baza. I have never been one to burn a bridge unless there was simply no recourse. I am on good terms with both my X's. Even after the divorce my 2nd X and I had sex on several occasions. Most fires are generally short lived, but the loss of the bridge can take a good deal of time to r4estore.
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! So glad to hear you had a great day
Jan 19, 2019 16:34:01 GMT -5
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petrushka: Just saw the forecast for Mildura at 47C -- I hope you and Ms. Enna are going to be ok Baz. That's getting dangerous.
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worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
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tamara68: Today it's steak and blowjob day! I suppose the steak is for those who don't get a blowjob.
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petrushka: tamara68 Laughing with tears in my eyes. And my steak is going to be semolina gruel, due to some tummy upset :-\
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misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
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