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Post by Dan on Feb 20, 2019 7:49:28 GMT -5
I came across this quote today. Might be food for thought for some of you who are -- perhaps like me -- despite the prolonged sexless marriage, still a bit reluctant about the idea of divorce. Here it is: Consider this your writing prompt for today: share your thoughts!
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Post by lessingham on Feb 20, 2019 15:07:32 GMT -5
There was a man who could write, and drink!
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Post by baza on Feb 20, 2019 17:44:14 GMT -5
I'd dispute that "getting divorced" is necessarily "burning the bridges" If one is to cross the bridge, from ILIASM to Singleville, there is no need - usually - to then burn the bridge behind you. The bridge can be left intact. Now, you might not wish to use the bridge as much as you once did, or you may want to walk over the bridge occasionally rather than drive over it regularly, or you may hardly ever use it again. But there is no reason - usually - for you to torch it. There may be good reasons to keep the bridge intact such as the necessity to meet somewhere half way across it when circumstances arise that require matters of mutual responsibility being sorted out. This would apply even with Sister elynne 's bridge - even though that bridge would richly deserve to be razed to the ground. Of course one would need to acknowledge that we are talking about only our end of the metaphoric bridge. If there is an arsonist on the other end of the bridge, then up in flames it may go, and there is nothing you can do about that.
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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 21, 2019 8:54:04 GMT -5
I'm in the boat with baza. I have never been one to burn a bridge unless there was simply no recourse. I am on good terms with both my X's. Even after the divorce my 2nd X and I had sex on several occasions. Most fires are generally short lived, but the loss of the bridge can take a good deal of time to r4estore.
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Post by whuffo on Mar 2, 2019 16:14:52 GMT -5
“If you’re going to burn bridges, make sure you use it to light the way for you”
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