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Post by isthisit on Jan 18, 2019 14:57:58 GMT -5
Thanks for the update endthegame. I have been wondering how things were going for you. I am delighted that your anxiety is reducing and you quality of life is improving.
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Post by workingonit on Jan 18, 2019 15:17:06 GMT -5
Three months on... I get the keys to my new place in 3 weeks. It's been hard, but one thing I know for sure, I feel better than three months ago. MUCH better. Something I have recognised, I have felt a loss, something missing. It's anxiety, the albatross, the intractable problem. It's not her, the loss of the marriage, it's the absence of the angst of being in a SM. After so long living with that extra zip of angst running through your psyche do you miss it?
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Post by Deleted on Jan 19, 2019 0:49:41 GMT -5
Three months on... I get the keys to my new place in 3 weeks. It's been hard, but one thing I know for sure, I feel better than three months ago. MUCH better. Something I have recognised, I have felt a loss, something missing. It's anxiety, the albatross, the intractable problem. It's not her, the loss of the marriage, it's the absence of the angst of being in a SM. Wow! So happy for you endthegame!! Go grab your happy!!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 19, 2019 0:53:35 GMT -5
After so long living with that extra zip of angst running through your psyche do you miss it? I don’t want to step on ETGs toes by answering, but I know that for me, not only do I not miss the angst, but I have been able to tap into a wellspring of energy and joy that I could never access while with my ex. It’s truly a miracle, almost as though you don’t realize how heavily weighted down you are until the weight is lifted. And then you realize you can fly!!
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Post by endthegame on Jan 19, 2019 15:01:35 GMT -5
Thanks all. Regards angst, I mentioned maybe two months back something was missing, I felt... Odd. It took a while to realise it was the angst that was gone. A good friend told me about trauma bonding, maybe that's what it was? Whatever, I feel so much better. The weight lifted almost immediately. I'm not saying it's easy, this is truly hard and energy sapping to do, yet it's not as soul sapping as the SM.
Elle. I have signed up to do a MA in fine art. Some energy is returning, I see a future of not wading through mud, not arguing (debating) about the simplest of things.
It's only from the other side one can begin to see how a SM holds self development back.
I'll drop by in a month or two with an update.
Thanks all, and good luck with your choices.
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Post by shamwow on Jan 19, 2019 20:29:25 GMT -5
Three months on... I get the keys to my new place in 3 weeks. It's been hard, but one thing I know for sure, I feel better than three months ago. MUCH better. Something I have recognised, I have felt a loss, something missing. It's anxiety, the albatross, the intractable problem. It's not her, the loss of the marriage, it's the absence of the angst of being in a SM. Good for you, brother!
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Post by deborahmanning on Jan 20, 2019 1:29:41 GMT -5
Thanks all. Regards angst, I mentioned maybe two months back something was missing, I felt... Odd. It took a while to realise it was the angst that was gone. A good friend told me about trauma bonding, maybe that's what it was? Whatever, I feel so much better. The weight lifted almost immediately. I'm not saying it's easy, this is truly hard and energy sapping to do, yet it's not as soul sapping as the SM. Elle. I have signed up to do a MA in fine art. Some energy is returning, I see a future of not wading through mud, not arguing (debating) about the simplest of things. It's only from the other side one can begin to see how a SM holds self development back. I'll drop by in a month or two with an update. Thanks all, and good luck with your choices. -You sound well grounded and ready for flight. Keep us informed! Dee
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Post by baza on Jan 20, 2019 1:44:44 GMT -5
I think it was nyartgal who coined the term "Oppositeland" (might have been WindSister ) Anyway welcome to the neighbourhood Brother endthegame .
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Post by WindSister on Jan 31, 2019 22:53:40 GMT -5
I think it was nyartgal who coined the term "Oppositeland" (might have been WindSister ) Anyway welcome to the neighbourhood Brother endthegame . It definitely was not me though I'd love to take the credit. It's a great place to be, though.
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Post by WindSister on Jan 31, 2019 22:55:09 GMT -5
Three months on... I get the keys to my new place in 3 weeks. It's been hard, but one thing I know for sure, I feel better than three months ago. MUCH better. Something I have recognised, I have felt a loss, something missing. It's anxiety, the albatross, the intractable problem. It's not her, the loss of the marriage, it's the absence of the angst of being in a SM. What a journey. It cam just keep getting better. Believe!
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