update on chatterfox
Sept 13, 2018 21:02:18 GMT -5
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Post by Chatter Fox on Sept 13, 2018 21:02:18 GMT -5
In a nutshell (this is the most brief I can make it so I apologized it's still a bit long winded)...
2005 - married ...nearly sexless honeymoon. Sexless marriage off the bat. One confused fox.
2014 - nearly 10 years of sexless marriage (aside from procreation related romping). 2 kids, a house, and one fox on the brink of a breakdown.
2015 - found EP. Fox experiences denial. The talk happens. The results are in-line with what the EP veterans predict. I get resistance and empty promises. Fox begins individual therapy.
2015 (4 months in) - No changes... Denial ends... Fox goes off the rails. Online emotional affair begins. Divorce plans begin. Mr.Fox tells Mrs.Fox he's done and proves he isn't bluffing.
Remainder of 2015 - Fox falls in love with EA partner. The reset starts with Mrs.Fox.
2016 - the reset continues and gives Fox 2nd thoughts. He decides to give Mrs Fox a fighting chance and proceeds with caution. Eventually Fox decides that the changes are here to stay. Fox VERY reluctantly says goodbye to his new online EA friend (and feels EXTREMELY heartbroken and EXTREMELY guilty for hurting his EA partner)
2017 - therapy ends since things are going well... The reset fades ...then ends... as feared.
2018 - no sex for 10 months. Fox realizes that he's been played.... sexting begins off and on to fill in for nonexistent sex life. ...its just not doing it. Real life outsourcing becomes a consideration but Fox chickens out. Fox considers leaving again. He also considers contacting his old EA partner but decides NOT to say hi unless there is zero chance of another goodbye. He will NOT hurt her again.
Present day - Fox realizes it's a choice to stay. There are a lot of positive aspects of staying. Some days are hard, some are hard (today)... but in the end, hes glad he gets to see his kids everyday and suspects that the grass isn't greener on the other side.
In short, i'm not leaving. I'm not interested in trying to seduce my wife either. I'm just NOT interested in making love with someone who is not interested in making love with me. I'm officially a counter refused to the extreme now. We've gone 10 months without partially because I haven't tried. I'm not deaf, blind, or dumb though. I've learned to trust my gut and its telling me that she's not interested unless she's scared of the consequences of not putting out, and that's NOT what I'm looking for.
I'm REALLY not interested in outsourcing either. I'm kind of jaded on male/female relations to be honest. I've had some bad experiences with my online sexting adventures that have just... hurt. ...emotionally. ...BAD.
I'm just ok with the status quo for now. It's not good but it could be worse. I could write a book, but like I said, I'm trying to keep it short and sweet.
I've learned a ton. I've come sooooo far. I try to look at the positive. I know I can leave ..right.... NOW... if I...CHOOSE. ..and some day I may. Today's not that day though.
2005 - married ...nearly sexless honeymoon. Sexless marriage off the bat. One confused fox.
2014 - nearly 10 years of sexless marriage (aside from procreation related romping). 2 kids, a house, and one fox on the brink of a breakdown.
2015 - found EP. Fox experiences denial. The talk happens. The results are in-line with what the EP veterans predict. I get resistance and empty promises. Fox begins individual therapy.
2015 (4 months in) - No changes... Denial ends... Fox goes off the rails. Online emotional affair begins. Divorce plans begin. Mr.Fox tells Mrs.Fox he's done and proves he isn't bluffing.
Remainder of 2015 - Fox falls in love with EA partner. The reset starts with Mrs.Fox.
2016 - the reset continues and gives Fox 2nd thoughts. He decides to give Mrs Fox a fighting chance and proceeds with caution. Eventually Fox decides that the changes are here to stay. Fox VERY reluctantly says goodbye to his new online EA friend (and feels EXTREMELY heartbroken and EXTREMELY guilty for hurting his EA partner)
2017 - therapy ends since things are going well... The reset fades ...then ends... as feared.
2018 - no sex for 10 months. Fox realizes that he's been played.... sexting begins off and on to fill in for nonexistent sex life. ...its just not doing it. Real life outsourcing becomes a consideration but Fox chickens out. Fox considers leaving again. He also considers contacting his old EA partner but decides NOT to say hi unless there is zero chance of another goodbye. He will NOT hurt her again.
Present day - Fox realizes it's a choice to stay. There are a lot of positive aspects of staying. Some days are hard, some are hard (today)... but in the end, hes glad he gets to see his kids everyday and suspects that the grass isn't greener on the other side.
In short, i'm not leaving. I'm not interested in trying to seduce my wife either. I'm just NOT interested in making love with someone who is not interested in making love with me. I'm officially a counter refused to the extreme now. We've gone 10 months without partially because I haven't tried. I'm not deaf, blind, or dumb though. I've learned to trust my gut and its telling me that she's not interested unless she's scared of the consequences of not putting out, and that's NOT what I'm looking for.
I'm REALLY not interested in outsourcing either. I'm kind of jaded on male/female relations to be honest. I've had some bad experiences with my online sexting adventures that have just... hurt. ...emotionally. ...BAD.
I'm just ok with the status quo for now. It's not good but it could be worse. I could write a book, but like I said, I'm trying to keep it short and sweet.
I've learned a ton. I've come sooooo far. I try to look at the positive. I know I can leave ..right.... NOW... if I...CHOOSE. ..and some day I may. Today's not that day though.