Post by northstarmom on Sept 3, 2018 9:48:53 GMT -5
Psychology Today article with interesting implications for the single and for those coupled.
“Across many research studies, insecure attachment is associated with greater odds of being single, or if partnered, being in unsatisfying relationships. And not surprisingly, people who report troubled relationships with their parents tend to have more difficulty in adult relationships.
Along related lines, secure attachment is associated with a greater chance of being partnered, and if partnered, enjoying a satisfying relationship. Taking it a step further, they report that anxious attachment and avoidant attachment predispose to singlehood via different paths than does secure attachment. Accordingly, the third model they discuss is singlehood stemming from secure attachment, a conscious choice. This is the least understood, least researched, and least established form of singlehood.” www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/experimentations/201808/the-art-and-psychology-being-single%3Famp
Post by GeekGoddess on Sept 5, 2018 20:13:09 GMT -5
I remember some stuff about attachment and attachment style from back on EP. I don't recall who posted it, but I took some of it to my therapist. She said, at that time, that attachment style issues are really seen in childhood. That cracked me up. She was taught that, I guess, but I couldn't get over the idea - - what do you think, that I just grew out of my childhood problems? (I really wanted to analyze my now-Ex's issues in this area, but I seriously suspect I have attachment issues too - she wouldn't have it, didn't want to examine that angle) So I'm glad to see that the literature treats it as a real issue for adults - - because I know I still have attachment issues. I am working on them, but it's kind of slow progress, by my own measure. I wrote a paper about attachment theory for a class a few semesters ago.
On an unrelated note, I will work the next 6 weeks on a paper about sexlessness in marriage. Fancy that. At least the SM experience has paid off in topics for Psych class.
choosinghappy: Hope you had a great birthday h!
Sept 1, 2018 21:19:34 GMT -5
mrrobot: Hi guys, I don't know if this community is still active - if so, I posted a thread at the forum if anyone could give me some light I'd be really thankful! Cheers
Sept 2, 2018 7:48:17 GMT -5
georgia: Hi...I’ve just joined the group. And I simply need a place to vent and hopefully receive some help dealing with my utterly sexless marriage. After 15 years of marriage our sex life has dwindled to nada, zero, nothing.
Sept 3, 2018 14:48:18 GMT -5
kh: why even marry someone with a high libido if you hate sex
Sept 4, 2018 4:28:42 GMT -5
javba: kh - fast forward 2 kids and 20 years later I have not resolved the problem you're looking at. Now I have cracked 51 yrs, have lesser chances of finding someone, not as market-able. You may want to reconsider "child is 8 mon old" with a 50% divorce rate
Sept 4, 2018 10:07:57 GMT -5
DryCreek: mrrobot, georgia, kh - welcome! I see a couple of you have posted your stories in the forum. I think not a lot of folks use this chat because you can only see it on laptops, not on phones. georgia, please do post your story and vent here. We get it.
Sept 6, 2018 10:29:43 GMT -5