Post by greatcoastal on Sept 3, 2018 7:51:34 GMT -5
last night I ran into a platonic friend (my home inspector) at Wal -mart . He had his two younger daughters with him. I haven't seen him since he inspected the house I bought (6 months ago). We have the same attorney.
His STBX is an alcoholic, he told me she was beating on him again. ( Physical abuse ,and he is a big man) His mediation is next week, he said," I don't think it will go anywhere, she won't agree to anything". He went on to say, " This is the 3rd time, I won't call the police on her because the kids are in the house and I don't want them to see that happen".
Instantly my mind races with quotes, and warnings for him!
It's great to give someone else help. It makes you feel that your entire divorce wasn't done without a purpose, that you learned a lot from it and should pass it along. Yet, it seems like more negative news, as people go "through" the negative times.
my final words where " you will get through it, things will be much better, you will need time to heal".
*You* Brother greatcoastal , will not be able to sort this friends problem for him. *He* sorts out his problem, or it doesn't get sorted out. Just as this *friend* will not be able to be able to sort out his missus problem for her. *She* sorts out her problem, or it doesn't get sorted out.
But its' good that you could, and did, offer him some support and empathy. Given what you have gone through, you'd have some cred with this bloke, and I'd bet he appreciates your input. What he now does (or doesn't do) is on him.
Probably true, but according to wikipedia, less than 1% of domestic violence are reported to the police by men. And yes, I know mostly women are the victims and they are mostly likely to be more injured or killed.
"Studies have found that men are much less likely to report victimization in these situations. According to some studies, less than 1% of domestic violence cases are reported to the police. In the United States 10–35% of the population will be physically aggressive towards a partner at some point in their lives. As abuse becomes more severe women become increasingly overrepresented as victims. The National Violence Against Women Survey for 2000 reported that 25% of women and 7.6% of men reported being victims of intimate partner violence at some point in their lives. The rate of intimate partner violence in the U. S. has declined since 1993."
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! So glad to hear you had a great day
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Jan 24, 2019 20:10:00 GMT -5
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Mar 15, 2019 1:11:10 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
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Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
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Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
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