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Post by northstarmom on Jun 10, 2018 19:43:39 GMT -5
"You Can Stop Wondering if You Have Sex More or Less Often Than Other People It doesn’t matter, but you’ve thought about it. By Andrew Kahn Here at Slate, we generally believe that the best way to put a nagging question to rest is to answer it as rigorously as possible. It doesn’t matter how naïve, banal, or puerile the question is: In seeking the definitive answer, one frees the mind to contemplate higher things, like the surface area of God or Melania Trump’s belts. To this end, we once built a tool to inform readers whether they had had a high or low number of sexual partners relative to their peers. Today, we are telling you whether you have sex more or less often than your peers." www.slate.com/articles/technology/moneybox/2017/05/sex_frequency_calculator_do_you_have_sex_more_or_less_often_than_other_people.html
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Post by snowman12345 on Jun 10, 2018 20:41:11 GMT -5
Holy flavored condoms, Batman! I'm a Sex Machine! Yes. Yes, I am. Bwaahaahaaa!
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Post by shamwow on Jun 12, 2018 7:30:14 GMT -5
I wasn't sure how to answer the question. For ballofconfusion and I, it isn't a consistent "how many times per week" since we only see each other every other week. But when we do, we are off their scale. So either I take the average per week which is at the top of their scale or I do it by month which puts us in the middle. Either case, the number is a far cry from when we were in our respective SMs and the "none in the past 12 months" option would have been selected for years on end. I do disagree with their button "it doesn't matter". That was obviously from someone not stuck in a SM.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 12, 2018 9:07:39 GMT -5
If you define yourself as someone who does not have a regular sex partner - which, to be honest, we don't - then comparatively we don't look that bad.
It just pushes off the question of why our spouses aren't regular sex partners, but at least it isn't as depressing from this perspective.
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Post by mackowitz on Jun 12, 2018 13:30:45 GMT -5
My frequency was less than 69% of respondents... Niiiiiiiiiice.
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Post by Carol on Jun 12, 2018 21:15:57 GMT -5
I want to see the poll on how many people in my age group lie about how much sex they are having!
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Post by WindSister on Jun 12, 2018 21:23:49 GMT -5
I want to see the poll on how many people in my age group lie about how much sex they are having! When I was in a SM I thought everyone lied too. But some actually do have sex on a regular basis!
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Post by Carol on Jun 12, 2018 21:51:24 GMT -5
I want to see the poll on how many people in my age group lie about how much sex they are having! When I was in a SM I thought everyone lied too. But some actually do have sex on a regular basis! Really? Must be nice!
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Post by elkclan2 on Jun 13, 2018 5:20:31 GMT -5
Carol - I remember once being in a park and overhearing other women COMPLAINING about how much sex their husbands wanted. FFS. I've been in my relationship for just over a year - and we're currently in a "lull" - a lull for us is still once a day. :-)
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Post by choosinghappy on Jun 13, 2018 8:39:48 GMT -5
Carol - I remember once being in a park and overhearing other women COMPLAINING about how much sex their husbands wanted. FFS. As a woman being refused in a SM, it is always really hard to hear this. And it happens a LOT. Before I found this site it just reaffirmed for me that there must be something wrong with ME since my H had no interest in me while my friends were practically fighting their husbands off with a stick.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jun 13, 2018 9:14:01 GMT -5
When I saw this poll I thought " do I have sex more or less often than other people? I don't need a poll for that, I know the answer it's ZERO, there's no often in the equation."
Then I put in the information and get told that 78% of the people my age are having zero sex in the past 12 months.
That's depressing, ...or maybe not? The more I "put myself out there the better my odds are if I use these numbers that means only 11% of men my age are doing anything about it,and 11% of woman my age.
Putting yourself out there (in the middle and not remaining on the side lines) is an entirely new mess of knots to untangle.
I'm also getting myself mentally prepared to build my self worth and esteem weather that "validation" of being desired happens or not, is an added bonus but not a necessity in my journey moving forwards.
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Post by northstarmom on Jun 13, 2018 9:36:11 GMT -5
I’m 66 almost 67. Post sm lover is 66. We have sex 3 times a week, which I think is awesome. To my surprise, 25 % of those our age surveyed have more sex!!!!!
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Post by pfviento on Jun 16, 2018 20:06:15 GMT -5
Less than 85% of people with a partner in my age bracket. Less than 58% of the rest of all respondents. Well at least now I know math wise just how bad my marriage sucks.
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Post by nyctos on Jun 17, 2018 12:44:21 GMT -5
Amazing how cavalier they are with their assumption that, "it doesn't matter". For some of us on the extreme low end, it matters quite a bit.
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