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Post by mypaintbrushes on May 5, 2018 19:08:06 GMT -5
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Post by michael on May 6, 2018 2:31:56 GMT -5
I don’t need help with desire. My wife does.
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Post by ironhamster on May 10, 2018 12:28:52 GMT -5
Right. One cannot maintain that which one does not have. I worked to maintain my sexual desire. My stbx? Not so much.
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Post by rejected101 on May 15, 2018 13:03:20 GMT -5
We are back to this ‘responsive desire’ thing. Personally I’m a big believer in it as I have seen it work. When my wife was really making an effort she would make herself more available for sex, I would initiate it, arouse her and once the fire was lit, it burned bright. Unfortunately it’s too easy to slip in to old habits and just become unavailable again.
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tjc
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Post by tjc on May 15, 2018 13:51:14 GMT -5
Same here. When my wife was intentionally working on our sex life, as in having to be the one to initiate, she tended to actually enjoy it more. When we reverted back to allowing her to not to have to initiate, it's been downhill ever since. I guess I think if you say responsive desire in the sense of purposely focusing on rousing your libido, then yes it's a thing.If however if you say that responsive desire is responding to your partners advances, apart from being genuinely interested in increasing intimacy then no I don't believe it t be a thing. You cannot do anything with a partner that has a level of intimacy they are comfortable with if they don't want it to improve.
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