This topic is near and dear to my heart, too, bballgirl. Thanks for sharing. I struggle with it at various times, but at the core of me I "get it" and embrace The Law of Detachment.
It's a broad concept to discuss.
I resonated with the article you shared. I am both attached and detached from my husband. I love him like no other human being on this earth. I am enamored by him, actually. If I think of losing him for whatever reason, I experience that throat clutch that can only come from grief -- and that's just from the mere thought of losing him. That's my human side, super attached. But, at the same time, I offer him (and me) freedom while I practice "detachment." I know at the core of myself that this won't last forever (nothing does). I am appreciating our love now, and every "now" we get. It's a deep appreciation based on the knowledge it will end some day. Somehow. I don't expect him to be responsible for my happiness and my well being. That's always up to me. Always.
On the topic of dying/death, I think here in the States, especially, we avoid the "death of things." Other countries celebrate death and they face it head-on. Dare I say, they are happier beings for it (while they are alive).
All things die. All moments end.
Knowing that is not meant to be a depressing thing, but, rather, quite contradictory, knowing that brings deep joy to the now somehow. It's amazing, really.
It’s important at this point to mention that you can be in a relationship and appreciate your partner for who they are, enjoy objects without needing them to be happy, and seek new promotions or positions without depending on them for your self-worth. And that’s the point we want to get to: that’s living with the spirit of non-attachment.
I will put the Law of Detachment into effect by making a commitment to take the following steps:
1. Today I will commit myself to detachment. I will allow myself and those around me the freedom to be as they are. I will not rigidly impose my idea of how things should be. I will not force solutions on problems, thereby creating new problems. I will participate in everything with detached involvement.
2. Today I will factor in uncertainty as an essential ingredient of my experience. In my willingness to accept uncertainty, solutions will spontaneously emerge out of the problem, out of the confusion, disorder, and chaos. The more uncertain things seem to be, the more secure I will feel, because uncertainty is my path to freedom. Through the wisdom of uncertainty, I will find my security.
3. I will step into the field of all possibilities and anticipate the excitement that can occur when I remain open to an infinity of choices. When I step into the field of all possibilities, I will experience all the fun, adventure, magic, and mystery of life.
Those who feel lovable, who love, and who experience belonging simply believe they are worthy of love and belonging. - Brene Brown
solodriver: Happy Birthday shamwow!!
Oct 11, 2018 20:35:02 GMT -5
shynjdude: Andie seems to have deleted her account here. Hope she's OK.
Oct 12, 2018 9:41:52 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Oh, no! I hope she is okay...
Oct 12, 2018 15:31:30 GMT -5
solodriver: Maybe over what happened last weekend with the discussion board men vs. women
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jetcity: Had to have my cat put down today. He was very old and he let us know it was time this morning. My wife went to visit her mother today So now It’s just me, the cats and dog and a couple cold beers. Now that’s a party right?
Oct 12, 2018 21:57:32 GMT -5
solodriver: So sorry jetcity, I've done that many times over the years, never gets any easier.
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jetcity: I managed to create an avatar! The beard and mustache are kind of funky though.
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misssunnybunny: Welcome, dontstart! Feel free to post in the introduction thread; not many people see/use the shout box. Read and explore here, and hope you find us a helpful community.
Oct 14, 2018 10:41:21 GMT -5
caballotierra: Hey all, I setup a new account since my W figured out my login and was using my posts against me. Since we're going through divorce, I thought it would be safer to remove my old name. Although I feel attached to it.
Oct 15, 2018 16:12:30 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Oh, wow. Sorry that happened to you!
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caballotierra: Does anyone know how to delete my old account? Right now, it's still searchable, which is a problem.
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