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Post by snowman12345 on Apr 27, 2018 18:01:42 GMT -5
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Post by baza on Apr 28, 2018 3:10:02 GMT -5
I didn't cheat, but I did get out of my ILIASM deal at a similar age.
But maybe the thought processes were similar.
The article suggests the cheater mentality could be - "he might see it as his last opportunity to “graze in greener pastures” before he’s officially over the hill".
I recall feeling (at a similar age) a bit similar - "if I don't get out of this situation in the very very near future, I'm condemned to be miserable indefinitely".
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Post by choosinghappy on Apr 28, 2018 7:09:56 GMT -5
I’m sorry, I couldn’t get past the line: “When a man is 55 he’s standing on the cusp of this grandpa years...”
?? 😳
You’re only as old as you feel, people!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 28, 2018 20:58:06 GMT -5
"When a man is fifty-five, he’s standing on the cusp of his grandpa years, so he might see it as his last opportunity to 'graze in greener pastures' before he’s officially over the hill."
I already was a "grandpa," thanks.
For me, outsourcing wasn't a red sports car like this article implies. It was what I needed to understand that I am not the problem in my relationship with my wife, that I am not ugly or undesirable, and that I can please a real woman. It has been a wholly positive experience that will help me move on to the next phase of my life. And instead of feeling "over the hill" I now think in terms of how many years I have to make up for decades of lost time, of not being loved.
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Post by surfergirl on Apr 28, 2018 21:17:15 GMT -5
It hit me at 40. I FEEL prime and a woman’s outward beauty is downhill from here. I feel like I’m in a rush.... I know all the counter-arguments. But fuck it — I know my looks matter very much to men. And being 40, not stupid, and knowing how to walk properly in heels gives me a confidence I’ve never had. I just feel alive and I want to share that energy.
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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 28, 2018 21:28:17 GMT -5
At 54 I am no where near being a grandpa...yet. However much of it had to do with seeing, the light, having the fog lift, some really toxic rejection, the reality of 20 years to make up for, the reality that my ex was going to abandon me once she was done manipulating me when the last child reached 18, etc.....
What is interesting is with all those things that occurred, how will I be perceived in the dating world? Also the woman who are age 45 and above whom I will most likely be dating? Are they looking for reassurance only?
I am hoping that my over two years of participating in this forum gives me a much wider outlook and perspective of what will be out their and what to be careful of.
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Post by ironhamster on Apr 29, 2018 20:36:36 GMT -5
It hit me at 50, but it could have happened any time. I had about a year of self discovery before I decided my wife could not and would not be the woman I always thought she would be, if only I just did the right things.
Giving up hope on a hopeless situation was the best thing that ever happened to me.
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Post by tirefire on Apr 30, 2018 18:50:39 GMT -5
I know plenty of guys who are 55 at age 40. Beer gut, sedentary lifestyle, no verve, settling in for a long slow decline with little passion. I also have a good friend who is late 50s and he keeps himself fit and looking great. He's not going to be having an affair or leaving his wife because of age. I'm friends with them all but I know which one I'm going to be. I'm going to be spending my days with a woman with whom I'm in love and having all the good stuff that goes with it. Passion, sex, talking, laughing. That will have nothing to do with my age, nor hers. That's the dream, anyway!
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2018 13:05:12 GMT -5
So I only have four years to go! Sweet.
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Post by elynne on May 13, 2018 6:29:56 GMT -5
It hit me at 44. But not because I felt like I was old. Thank God for my Dad and his genetics! He’s 75 and still not gray! I realized time was ticking when a handsome single divorced dad was smitten with me. It turned out he was quite a bit younger than I am and I had to laugh to myself when I thought of him realizing how much older I actually was!
But that set the gears turning. I may still look young, but how long will that last? How hard will it be to find a partner as I age?
But those fears are not so prominent. I’m smart, kind, slender, pretty, can fix broken computers and broken bicycles. I’m outgoing and passionate. To be honest, I’m much more concerned that I’ll make another bad choice of partner in the future.
How crazy would it be to insist potential dates first pass an attachment style quiz😂? If you’re avoidant, you can keep on walking!
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Post by DryCreek on May 13, 2018 11:32:29 GMT -5
But those fears are not so prominent. I’m smart, kind, slender, pretty, can fix broken computers and broken bicycles. I’m outgoing and passionate. And an accomplished artist, mother, ... that's one helluva package and a really rare combination. It's incredible that your husband doesn't hold you in high regard. "Throwing pearls before swine", I suppose. Go where your gifts are appreciated, and thrive instead of being neglected.
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Post by imstrongernow on May 13, 2018 13:27:04 GMT -5
I'm 48, and the recent thought of "is this it?" has certainly been a strong motivator for me.
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Post by elynne on May 13, 2018 15:43:57 GMT -5
But those fears are not so prominent. I’m smart, kind, slender, pretty, can fix broken computers and broken bicycles. I’m outgoing and passionate. And an accomplished artist, mother, ... that's one helluva package and a really rare combination. It's incredible that your husband doesn't hold you in high regard. "Throwing pearls before swine", I suppose. Go where your gifts are appreciated, and thrive instead of being neglected. Thanks, DryCreek. I’ll take my compliments anywhere I get them. 😉
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Post by solodriver on May 27, 2018 18:00:05 GMT -5
I’m sorry, I couldn’t get past the line: “When a man is 55 he’s standing on the cusp of this grandpa years...” ?? 😳 You’re only as old as you feel, people! Grandmas and Grandpas need love and sex too
Just because we're older doesn't mean we quit or are dead yet!
Everyone deserves happiness, love and attention!
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Post by WindSister on May 27, 2018 19:37:51 GMT -5
I’m sorry, I couldn’t get past the line: “When a man is 55 he’s standing on the cusp of this grandpa years...” ?? 😳 You’re only as old as you feel, people! Grandmas and Grandpas need love and sex too
Just because we're older doesn't mean we quit or are dead yet!
Everyone deserves happiness, love and attention!
This Grandma and Grandpa got chewed out by the young folk for being on our motorcycles instead of being home yesterday as they drove by and wanted to swing in to tend to a screaming baby. "Why aren't you home???" The text read. Um.. we were cruising. Then we had beer by the fire and made love on a new bed in the new guest room to break it in properly. lol. I'm sure his kids wouldn't appreciate that, either. I LOVE this stage of life!!
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