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Post by mypaintbrushes on Apr 13, 2018 19:53:53 GMT -5
My h told me he loved me, for the first time in almost 3 years.
I *can’t* say it back to him.
He didn’t say it this morning. He did come downstairs late at night, after going to bed early because he is “so tired”, and interrupted my alone time (which involved battery-powered company).
And I woke up randomly at 2 or 3am wondering what the hell was laying on me, to discover it was his hand. We’ve never, ever cuddled.
And he’s decided, after almost 20 years together, that he suddenly likes hugs.
I want none of it, and he knows it. A week ago, he was literally standing in the way of me leaving the kitchen to walk into the living room. He grabbed the sides of my face and forced me to kiss him. I had to wrench my head away. He got offended when I did.
I am so weirded out by all this behavior, a month after the last shitty thing he did. I talked with my therapist about formulating a solid plan and timeline for making my escape...
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Post by jim44444 on Apr 13, 2018 21:04:07 GMT -5
This shows that he is aware of what he has withheld all of these years. And now that he is losing you he tries to drag you back by giving what should have been given freely.
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Post by mypaintbrushes on Apr 13, 2018 21:29:03 GMT -5
This shows that he is aware of what he has withheld all of these years. And now that he is losing you he tries to drag you back by giving what should have been given freely. I know.
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Post by baza on Apr 13, 2018 21:32:21 GMT -5
"I talked with my therapist about formulating a solid plan and timeline for making my escape..." Please be careful and look after yourself Sister mypaintbrushes . There seems to be potential for this to escalate out of control. Keep your plans covert would be my suggestion.
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Post by tamara68 on Apr 14, 2018 2:25:19 GMT -5
My husband also touched me a couple of times before I left. I found it creepy and very unpleasant. It felt to me like a dog putting his paw on the submissive member of the pack to show who is the boss. Your husband knows he is losing grip.
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Post by northstarmom on Apr 14, 2018 5:33:59 GMT -5
“I want none of it, and he knows it. A week ago, he was literally standing in the way of me leaving the kitchen to walk into the living room. He grabbed the sides of my face and forced me to kiss him. I had to wrench my head away. He got offended when I did.”
There was nothing kind or loving about what he did. It was aggressive, mean and controlling. Please google and read about how to safely leave an abusive partner. There are huge red flags that your partner may become dangerous when he realizes you are leaving him.
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