appleaday
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Post by appleaday on Apr 1, 2018 10:30:45 GMT -5
appleaday - “Having been a refuser in the past...” ??
I was never a refuser with my husband, but when I was younger I was in a long term relationship that almost led to marriage. We started out strong and I truly enjoyed the sex but then something happened...I'm not exactly sure what. I had a traumatic childhood and I think I mentally started shutting down. I couldn't allow myself to feel pleasure so things went downhill and I started avoiding sex like the plague. Anyways, I'm better now, not that it's doing any good in this relationship lol
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Post by DryCreek on Apr 1, 2018 10:51:57 GMT -5
appleaday, you seem to be blessed with something many of us never get: the why, acknowledgement of it, and an honest discussion. Maybe even the prospect of a rational, amicable split. This kind of authenticity is so rare in refusers. Props to your H for owning it.
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Post by nyartgal on Apr 1, 2018 13:14:32 GMT -5
appleaday, you seem to be blessed with something many of us never get: the why, acknowledgement of it, and an honest discussion. Maybe even the prospect of a rational, amicable split. This kind of authenticity is so rare in refusers. Props to your H for owning it. Yes, you are so lucky!! Free yourself and him from something that isn't working. He must feel terrible not being able to participate in the relationship in the way you need, it's not doing him any good either. Well done! You did the work and started the process of setting yourself free...
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