chivalry baby, consider our relationship on the rocks.
Yesterday 10/21/2017 Entered the coffee shop and held door for 2 lovely ladies. The older one grabbed the door. I let go and turned toward the coffee line. I hear "thank you" so I turned back and smiled. She said "Oh I wasn't doin' that for the door. I was [something mumbled and unintelligible... ] this poster." Whatever. I stand in line, get coffee and exit, stopping to analyze the poster and the crime scene:
No fucking clue. Anyone who can solve this puzzle gets the door prize. (see what I did right there?)
Today 10/22/2017 Just dropped off daughter at ballet. Exiting the building, I notice a woman approaching the double doors. I hold open the one I just walked thru. When she gets there she goes right for the OTHER door. Whatever. I let go and start to leave. Immediately, she reaches out and holds both doors for another woman approaching. I didn't feel like waiting to see how anyone figured out how to pass thru both those arms. The other woman didn't seem fat enough to require both doors open. Not hanging around to analyze this one.
If anyone is bored, check out Wikipedia for the ten commandments of chivalry. I FAILED THE HELL OUT OF THAT TEST!!!
chiv'y honey - from now on, hold your own damn door!
Last Edit: Oct 22, 2017 17:13:15 GMT -5 by padgemi
Post by worksforme2 on Oct 23, 2017 8:40:21 GMT -5
I'm with jim44444,...I hold the door for just about everybody. Over the last few years I have noticed that women are less likely than men to say "Thank you". I would say generally only about 1/2 of the women acknowledge the act of curtesy, whereas almost all men do so.
I’m with jim44444 and worksforme2....holding the door for the person coming behind you is just basic good manners. I know in the old days it was a big deal for a man to do that for women, but now I think of it as just the polite thing for any person to do for another person.
Post by WindSister on Oct 24, 2017 12:24:40 GMT -5
Well that was socially awkward on her part. (both stories, actually). There is a man who works next door who always seems to be at the door as I am walking through and it does get embarrassing, but he will go out of his way to ensure he grabs the door for me. I smile and say thanks. When I am in the position, I do it for others, too. Some women (I am sorry, women, it's true) have serious chips on their shoulders when it comes to this stuff.
Those who feel lovable, who love, and who experience belonging simply believe they are worthy of love and belonging. - Brene Brown
Post by northstarmom on Oct 25, 2017 7:14:52 GMT -5
You did the right thing. Sometimes I open a door for myself even though another person has opened the door on the other side. This happens because I already was headed for one door or I was too distracted to change slightly my direction. I don't deliberately ignore a door opened by another.
I also open doors for others. Sometimes they say thanks. Sometimes they walk through another door. No biggie.
What is a biggie is if I'm carrying something in both hands and someone lets a door slam in my face. Long ago this happened when I was carrying my baby and the door slammed on my baby's head. My child started crying and the person just kept stepping.
misssunnybunny: I'm also very sad to see that andie is gone
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jim44444: hmisssunnybunny not only did andie delete her existence here she also deleted her tumblr account. Maybe her hubby found her online postings.
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misssunnybunny: Oh, no! Hope she is okay...
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solodriver: I'm sad andie is gone too. She reached out to me when I first joined the group at a time when I was really sick, and talked to me everyday until I was well again and shared a lot of her stories with me.
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solodriver: I think it is/was under the Welcome tab, but not sure where.
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