I can see how bird nesting would be a good option for people who just can't stop being anxious about the kids all the time. It would eliminate a lot of hassles about where the kids get dropped off, etc., since the kids stay in one place. And I imagine, you could agree to call first if there's some reason why you want to come over when it isn't your turn.
I'm not overly anxious. But can see how this would work well for anxious kids. Less transition and change.
For me, it's really because of the roommate's job. And it not making sense to pay a mortgage and plus rental for 1 that has to accommodate the kids -- when he's hardly home. I think the house will be a bone of contention. As in... He won't likely want to leave as he has "friends" (1.5 to be exact) on our street. But I am the primary care giver now. Not sure why I should leave and take kids away from their friends. He's supposedly an adult who should be able to continue to adult and maintain his friendship(s).
((Bit pissy towards him today because he did a few things while me and kids were away which are stupid, but irritating.))
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petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
worksforme2: You know who I miss ...I miss smartkat and andie..and snowman 12345
Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5