It's in the past, ten days of the future
Jul 17, 2016 10:14:55 GMT -5
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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 17, 2016 10:14:55 GMT -5
My wife has left this morning for a business/ vacation trip for the next ten days. Not just any ten days her birthday is right in the middle of it.
These trips have happened before, but I haven't had to deal with someone who wants to be so detached. That is what I am giving her as little communication as possible, much avoidance, and off she goes.
I could bore you with the seven or eight little events, leading up to this trip,in the past day or so, (they irritate the fire out of me) that would / should not occur in a marriage before the big detachment. The good part is that the effects seem to be less and less, I am much more numb to it all. I consider it, history to learn from. The sad part is the teens seem that way too, rather numb to the lack of mothering, and seeing their parents not acting as a couple.
Before leaving for ten days, and there will be zero communication, I brought up a few comments to our therapist about her, " I am less than helpful " attitude. He said" what is that even supposed to mean? Your either helpful or your not?" " this from the same person who leaves you in control for ten days with six teenagers and her aging father!" . He then said" she likes to just____." ( wish I could remember that word!) all I can think is " blow smoke".
I plan on filling out all my divorce paperwork while she is gone. And taking my one or two teenagers that have had an easy ride of keeping our entire house a pig sty and once again following through with literally raking there junk off the floor and making them do lots of clean up. I am far beyond worrying about gaining points with my teens!
These trips have happened before, but I haven't had to deal with someone who wants to be so detached. That is what I am giving her as little communication as possible, much avoidance, and off she goes.
I could bore you with the seven or eight little events, leading up to this trip,in the past day or so, (they irritate the fire out of me) that would / should not occur in a marriage before the big detachment. The good part is that the effects seem to be less and less, I am much more numb to it all. I consider it, history to learn from. The sad part is the teens seem that way too, rather numb to the lack of mothering, and seeing their parents not acting as a couple.
Before leaving for ten days, and there will be zero communication, I brought up a few comments to our therapist about her, " I am less than helpful " attitude. He said" what is that even supposed to mean? Your either helpful or your not?" " this from the same person who leaves you in control for ten days with six teenagers and her aging father!" . He then said" she likes to just____." ( wish I could remember that word!) all I can think is " blow smoke".
I plan on filling out all my divorce paperwork while she is gone. And taking my one or two teenagers that have had an easy ride of keeping our entire house a pig sty and once again following through with literally raking there junk off the floor and making them do lots of clean up. I am far beyond worrying about gaining points with my teens!
