Wedding rings

Even though I am still married, I don't. My fingers swell, and wearing a ring is a health risk. I am not much for any jewelry, either. My wife has the same condition, and she doesn't wear hers either.

I'm not much for jewelry, but after wearing my wedding ring for a few months, I got used to it. And it was a great thing to play/fiddle with during meetings or just when thinking hard at work.

One evening at work after a long period of burning the cigar at both ends -- not eating or sleeping much -- I suddenly lost it. I noticed it was gone on the drive home. I went back to the office to look for it, even removing the "P" trap from the kitchen sink to see if I had dropped it there. Then I tore the truck interior apart. I have no idea where it could have gone. I suspect I dropped it somewhere and someone found it and kept it.

Or, it's still here in the office hidden for someone to eventually find.

Or it fell in the toilet and got flushed.

So, I don't have one any more.

I've worn mine since the day they were placed on my finger, 18 and 19 years ago, respectively. I only remove them when I have to perform sterile procedures (and put them on my necklace).

I went all of 2013 without wearing mine. This was when Numbnuts was engaging in some pretty bad behavior associated with addiction he later sought treatment for. He stuck with it, and I started wearing my rings again.

I always have mine on, except when working around machinery (it's a safety hazard).

My stbx never wore his after the ceremony. He just didn't want to. He claimed wedding rings attract women. I didn't let it bother me, I probably should have written all these little things down to make it more easy for myself to see earlier signs of trouble. Nothing by itself was a big deal but now I'd say to young me, "run!!"

I wore mine at first. I was never as obsessive as some of my friends who never took it off, or if they had to put it back on asap. It was always just jewelery to me and came off for showers or sleeping or messy projects or working out, etc. And then when he broke the spell I was under during our engagement and early marriage where I didn't even see other men, I started not wearing mine either except if I was dressing up or if I was traveling. A way of letting him know I didn't care about him as much as he didn't care about me. That's when I should have left, 15 years ago and 5 years before it went completely sexless.

I wore mine for a long time, but stopped when I found ILIASM. But I was working away from home a lot during that period and I would wear it when I was home to avoid any hassle. Eventually, I stopped wearing it altogether and told him I don't wear it at work for safety reasons.

Honestly, I think telling him that was what caused him to file for divorce. He knew it was over, had never cared about me, and was willing to do anything to get custody of the children.

ETA: I already had an attorney and was planning to file, but I hadn't filed because I was waiting to meet the six month minimum for the Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction Act in our new state away from him. Instead, he lied in court documents and claimed that the children had never left our previous state where he was still living and filed before I could hit the six months. Just clarifying that I always said I had left him when the kids and I moved and he remained behind, with my blessing.