7 reasons that relationships can be better post divorce

I gather from Brother heelots postings that the facts at this moment are that the joint and divisable net assets for heelots and Mrs heelots is pretty ratshit.
And, were the situation that heelots and Mrs heelots divorced then heelots financial position would still be ratshit - and Mrs heelots would likewise be in ratshit financial shape.

So it comes down to a matter where either way the financial shape is ratshit.

Under such circumstances does one want to have the added problem of being in an ILIASM shithole, or not.

And that is a question that confronts all of us, and a question to which there is no "correct" answer .... just YOUR answer to YOUR unique situation.

Personally, when I was dealing with my situation, I preferred to take my share (over which I had full control and responsibility) rather than remain in a share of a joint situation. This is not a suggestion, nor advice. It is just what I chose under my circumstances.