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Post by ironhamster on Oct 20, 2020 4:24:43 GMT -5
 What the consequences for no BJ's? Sex? Right. It doesn't sound like a deal so much as a one sided mandate. Whatever it is, every day the participants choose to live under it, or not. lessingham , you need to dream a bit. Old folks homes are one of the places venereal diseases are spread. I say that as evidence that there are guys older than you getting their rocks off. It's not like shooting pool with a rope anymore. Modern medicine makes sex possible for as long as you want it. One guy I hung out with last summer was 74, now 75. His wife stopped wanting sex. He asked her what he should do, and, she still loved him and wanted to stay married, but told him to get it somewhere else. So, with all the older men dropping out he has five women on rotation. When I told him I wanted to be like him when I reached his age, he laughed and said there were guys younger than me that wanted to be like him right now. Your future isn't set. It is what you make of it. Find your happiness. |
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Post by lessingham on Oct 20, 2020 5:56:48 GMT -5
Yes, it was a one sided kicking. She felt she had the moral high ground and I had to change.
At Christmas the Albert Hall in London used to do mass Christmas singalongs. As the conductor said, there were 4000 voices, who knew who was flat. I loved going to them to bellow away
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Post by csl on Oct 20, 2020 8:14:27 GMT -5
Yes, it was a one sided kicking. She felt she had the moral high ground and I had to change. At Christmas the Albert Hall in London used to do mass Christmas singalongs. As the conductor said, there were 4000 voices, who knew who was flat. I loved going to them to bellow away I love the Big Sings! YouTube used to have them, and used to have entire Songs of Praise programs. Now, you can only get single songs, over here. |
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Post by lessingham on Nov 6, 2020 4:03:29 GMT -5
And to prove the universe has a sense of humour. I had no coins for the car park so used the phone text service. I tapped in the code. I received a text back, how long do you want, Lucy. I replied 3 hours and she replied that I was greedy but it would cost me over a hundred pounds!!!!! Turned out it was a sex text line. She thought it was hilarious when I explained.
The universe is not only weirder than we think, it is weirder than we can possibly imagine.
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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 17, 2021 8:13:07 GMT -5
And to prove the universe has a sense of humour. I had no coins for the car park so used the phone text service. I tapped in the code. I received a text back, how long do you want, Lucy. I replied 3 hours and she replied that I was greedy but it would cost me over a hundred pounds!!!!! Turned out it was a sex text line. She thought it was hilarious when I explained. The universe is not only weirder than we think, it is weirder than we can possibly imagine. You should have explained to her you were in a SM and had been for years. She would have understood the need for a 3hr. session. |
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Post by Apocrypha on Feb 18, 2021 9:22:01 GMT -5
Yes, it was a one sided kicking. She felt she had the moral high ground and I had to change. At Christmas the Albert Hall in London used to do mass Christmas singalongs. As the conductor said, there were 4000 voices, who knew who was flat. I loved going to them to bellow away Cool! fun personal aside for a moment - I am one of the performing members of the Canada-based Choir! Choir! Choir! - which is all over youtube. It was a wonderful place to go and start something new after my separation, and a place where I met many friends. |
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Post by blueguy on Mar 23, 2021 8:09:48 GMT -5
I am still trying to understand why she was against you conversing with your American friends? What did she agree to in exchange for you giving up those things?
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Mar 28, 2021 3:40:12 GMT -5
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Post by lessingham on Mar 28, 2021 3:40:12 GMT -5
She hated my american friend and said it was emotional adultery. She hated the fact we talked about everything every day. She hated what my american friend wanted me to become, better dressed, a writer, a snob. I got in return to ztay in my home and to keep the life I have. No lightening bolt of divorce.
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Post by shamwow on Mar 28, 2021 8:29:23 GMT -5
She hated my american friend and said it was emotional adultery. She hated the fact we talked about everything every day. She hated what my american friend wanted me to become, better dressed, a writer, a snob. I got in return to ztay in my home and to keep the life I have. No lightening bolt of divorce. Were the conversations inappropriate for a married man? If not, then she should pound sand. If so, then you might want to have an appropriate conversation with her as to why you can't have similar conversations with your wife. My initial guess is that it's difficult to have intimate conversations with someone who holds a sword over your head. And for the record, I don't usually sing out loud, but the voices iny head do. |
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Post by blueguy on Apr 14, 2021 21:59:47 GMT -5
I had a WTF moment today. I’ve been pretty stressed at work lately and my wife knows today was not a good day. She had the gall to tell me “I wish I could take the stress away. I wish there was something I could do to get you in a better mood and take the frustration away.”
Really??? Gee, I can think of something that would easily help put me in a better mood!
It didn’t help that I’ve started this new supplement that is supposed to lower cortisol levels. For guys this helps increase free testosterone. Not to be too TMI but my balls were aching today that I know only relief would help with. I even told my wife this today and she said that she shouldn’t have to take care of it all the time. Boy do I wish I had a FWB right now....
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Post by lessingham on Apr 15, 2021 3:23:57 GMT -5
I am sorry blueguy but I am laughing at your dilemma. Here, take these pills, they will cure you but the side effects are yiu will be as horny as a teenager. Hee, thank's doc. Can I get them for my wife too?  No, sorry. Get well, enjoy the buzz of horniness. Msy you meet someone worthy of it. |
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 15, 2021 8:50:41 GMT -5
It didn’t help that I’ve started this new supplement that is supposed to lower cortisol levels. For guys this helps increase free testosterone. Not to be too TMI but my balls were aching today that I know only relief would help with. I even told my wife this today and she said that she shouldn’t have to take care of it all the time. Boy do I wish I had a FWB right now.... I can commiserate with your experience. When I 1st realized how much our sex life had fallen off a cliff I ask myself why? I realized I was not initiating any more so I saw my doctor and had some tests done. My testosterone was way, way low. He wrote me a prescription and within a relatively short time my libido came roaring back. Unfortunately my W at the time did not view this favorably. So there I was, boner protruding out like a rudder, and her unmilling to take hold of the tiller. I didn't realize it then but it was the beginning of the end. After so long I tried to convince her that me having a FWB would solve things for both of us, but I couldn't sell that to her. Maybe you might have better luck. |
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Post by blueguy on Apr 15, 2021 19:18:08 GMT -5
It didn’t help that I’ve started this new supplement that is supposed to lower cortisol levels. For guys this helps increase free testosterone. Not to be too TMI but my balls were aching today that I know only relief would help with. I even told my wife this today and she said that she shouldn’t have to take care of it all the time. Boy do I wish I had a FWB right now.... I can commiserate with your experience. When I 1st realized how much our sex life had fallen off a cliff I ask myself why? I realized I was not initiating any more so I saw my doctor and had some tests done. My testosterone was way, way low. He wrote me a prescription and within a relatively short time my libido came roaring back. Unfortunately my W at the time did not view this favorably. So there I was, boner protruding out like a rudder, and her unmilling to take hold of the tiller. I didn't realize it then but it was the beginning of the end. After so long I tried to convince her that me having a FWB would solve things for both of us, but I couldn't sell that to her. Maybe you might have better luck. Totally understand. I went to my doctor at the time over 10 years ago asking about having my testosterone levels checked as my libido was through the roof and she agreed to checking it. Much to both our surprise I was on the low end; somewhere where an 80 year old should be. Interesting too as I never had, or still have ED issues, nor did I ever have desire issues. Over the years with fits and starts I took testosterone injections and every time I got on them my wife refused to deal with my even more increased libido. She's the reason I stopped several years ago. I'm sure my testosterone levels are still on the lower side and that may explain my mood, which was so much better when I was taking the injections, but I couldn't deal with no outlet for my sex drive. Several years ago, thinking it could possibly be her birth control, I offered to get snipped so that she could stop taking birth control. Nope, that didn't change a damn thing once I had that done. |
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Apr 20, 2021 19:30:54 GMT -5
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Post by flounder on Apr 20, 2021 19:30:54 GMT -5
“ And for the record, I don't usually sing out loud, but the voices iny head do.”
-shamwow
Happens to the best of us.
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Post by blueguy on Apr 20, 2021 22:12:07 GMT -5
Had another WTF moment. I told myself several times in the past not to ask for it. What did I do? I asked for it over the weekend and was rejected, then asked last night because I was horny. I was told “ask me again tomorrow (today) and I’ll say yes”. Yeah right.. I didn’t even bother and she never brought it up.
On a side note, I sometimes will joke about another woman wanting me when I see those dating app commercials. This evening my wife had the gall to say “if that’s what you want”. “I’m not going to scream after you saying come back, because if that’s what you want I won’t stop you. I’m not going to make you stay with me if you really don’t want to.” WTF?? I can’t tell if she’s joking or not, and she knows I’ve never ever really wanted to leave. She knows sex is a huge issue in our marriage though.
I just want to feel wanted and desired. She’s told me in the past she only gets turned on after we start, even though I feel like I’m having to jackhammer in at first because she doesn’t get aroused very easily. She’s told me women don’t have the wonton desire like men do. I call BS.
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What the consequences for no BJ's? Sex?
No, sorry. 
