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Post by angeleyes65 on Jul 22, 2020 22:58:05 GMT -5
Right now we can all use a laugh  |
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Post by ironhamster on Jul 23, 2020 1:49:47 GMT -5
Lol! I suspect my ex gets an orgasm or something like that whenever she gets an alimony payment, and thanks herself for getting the house, the car, the jewelry, and the clothing. of course, we all know why divorces are so expensive. Because they're worth it.
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Post by saarinista on Jul 24, 2020 0:49:58 GMT -5
Lol! I suspect my ex gets an orgasm or something like that whenever she gets an alimony payment, and thanks herself for getting the house, the car, the jewelry, and the clothing. of course, we all know why divorces are so expensive. Because they're worth it. Well you would have looked silly in her dresses though. So it all worked out. 😏 |
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Post by ironhamster on Jul 24, 2020 2:10:47 GMT -5
Lol! I suspect my ex gets an orgasm or something like that whenever she gets an alimony payment, and thanks herself for getting the house, the car, the jewelry, and the clothing. of course, we all know why divorces are so expensive. Because they're worth it. Well you would have looked silly in her dresses though. So it all worked out. 😏 ROFL! So true. Yeah, not my style, not my kink. |
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Post by worksforme2 on Dec 4, 2020 9:23:07 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Dec 11, 2020 9:31:09 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 10, 2021 10:26:52 GMT -5
A different strategy for building a retirement fund  |
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Post by jerri on Jan 11, 2021 2:59:23 GMT -5
Lol! I suspect my ex gets an orgasm or something like that whenever she gets an alimony payment, and thanks herself for getting the house, the car, the jewelry, and the clothing. of course, we all know why divorces are so expensive. Because they're worth it. How did she get it all? Wow! |
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Post by ironhamster on Jan 11, 2021 11:09:41 GMT -5
Lol! I suspect my ex gets an orgasm or something like that whenever she gets an alimony payment, and thanks herself for getting the house, the car, the jewelry, and the clothing. of course, we all know why divorces are so expensive. Because they're worth it. How did she get it all? Wow! She didn't quite get it all. I kept 30% of our marital assets. By law, it should have been 50%, but I started off as a nice guy, giving her the house to minimize the damage to our teenager's world. I got no brownie points for that, as my wife's lawyers started a nickel diming project and the judge never took my side in any of that. I've been bitter, but, I do my best to not let things I cannot change bother me. I am less than three years out, and despite the imperfections of this world, I'm happier now than if I had stayed. |
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Post by jerri on Jan 13, 2021 3:20:13 GMT -5
How did she get it all? Wow! She didn't quite get it all. I kept 30% of our marital assets. By law, it should have been 50%, but I started off as a nice guy, giving her the house to minimize the damage to our teenager's world. I got no brownie points for that, as my wife's lawyers started a nickel diming project and the judge never took my side in any of that. I've been bitter, but, I do my best to not let things I cannot change bother me. I am less than three years out, and despite the imperfections of this world, I'm happier now than if I had stayed. Shocked that the lawyers got away with that. That was nice if you. Guessing a big battle would cost more. |
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Post by ironhamster on Jan 13, 2021 7:24:20 GMT -5
She didn't quite get it all. I kept 30% of our marital assets. By law, it should have been 50%, but I started off as a nice guy, giving her the house to minimize the damage to our teenager's world. I got no brownie points for that, as my wife's lawyers started a nickel diming project and the judge never took my side in any of that. I've been bitter, but, I do my best to not let things I cannot change bother me. I am less than three years out, and despite the imperfections of this world, I'm happier now than if I had stayed. Shocked that the lawyers got away with that. That was nice if you. Guessing a big battle would cost more. One of the problems of appealing is that the loser pays court costs and legal fees of both sides. That's a no win coin flip. Heads, my daughter loses, tails, I lose. My advice is to not sign anything without giving it time to sink in. If you go in trying to be nice, and your STBX chooses to be greedy, stop playing nice. My first problem was that I was giving my ex an unsustainable amount of money to ease her transition, and the judge chose to set my temporary support at that amount. That gave me a certain level of duress just to get it over. I talked with another guy that hadn't gone that route and had dragged his case out for nearly three years at that point without settlement. It is possible to play hardball, but, start early with the guidance of a lawyer. |
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Post by jerri on Jan 14, 2021 2:23:28 GMT -5
Shocked that the lawyers got away with that. That was nice if you. Guessing a big battle would cost more. One of the problems of appealing is that the loser pays court costs and legal fees of both sides. That's a no win coin flip. Heads, my daughter loses, tails, I lose. My advice is to not sign anything without giving it time to sink in. If you go in trying to be nice, and your STBX chooses to be greedy, stop playing nice. My first problem was that I was giving my ex an unsustainable amount of money to ease her transition, and the judge chose to set my temporary support at that amount. That gave me a certain level of duress just to get it over. I talked with another guy that hadn't gone that route and had dragged his case out for nearly three years at that point without settlement. It is possible to play hardball, but, start early with the guidance of a lawyer. I have no children of my own, but raised a step son when he was very young. I think I would be toast in a divorce because my step son would either stay out of it or get my H the best lawyer because he is a federal prosecutor. Not that I want a divorce. I think I would lose my wealth. IDK |
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Post by petrushka on Jan 14, 2021 2:40:25 GMT -5
One of the problems of appealing is that the loser pays court costs and legal fees of both sides. That's a no win coin flip. Heads, my daughter loses, tails, I lose. My advice is to not sign anything without giving it time to sink in. If you go in trying to be nice, and your STBX chooses to be greedy, stop playing nice. My first problem was that I was giving my ex an unsustainable amount of money to ease her transition, and the judge chose to set my temporary support at that amount. That gave me a certain level of duress just to get it over. I talked with another guy that hadn't gone that route and had dragged his case out for nearly three years at that point without settlement. It is possible to play hardball, but, start early with the guidance of a lawyer. I have no children of my own, but raised a step son when he was very young. I think I would be toast in a divorce because my step son would either stay out of it or get my H the best lawyer because he is a federal prosecutor. Not that I want a divorce. I think I would lose my wealth. IDK
I think you have the right of it, assuming a non-hostile, non-abusive home. However, many people in the old EP were in abusive circumstances. I was in an abusive relationship until I got my sanity check in this group - that is, the EP predecessor. And I was lucky in that I was able to communicate, and that my wife, unlike so many others, actually put a lot of effort into changing her [abusive] behaviour.
Even so, I can never act out - she's too fragile and will become P-A defensive if I so much as raise my voice or frown. But by and large my home life is harmonious. I get cuddles daily.
A home where you're living under constant tension is soul destroying I feel, and at that point the old wealth question becomes secondary. At least to me it does. I once described my first marriage as "I gave her my heart, and she gave it back to me on a silver platter, sliced and diced". It was a question of self preservation for me: get out or die [inside, at least].  |
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Post by ironhamster on Jan 14, 2021 2:50:14 GMT -5
Getting back, for a moment, to the "need a laugh" theme, this comes to mind. It was from a local band that never got any further than a bit of air play. Mackinaw, "I gave her the ring".
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Post by jerri on Jan 14, 2021 2:51:26 GMT -5
I have no children of my own, but raised a step son when he was very young. I think I would be toast in a divorce because my step son would either stay out of it or get my H the best lawyer because he is a federal prosecutor. Not that I want a divorce. I think I would lose my wealth. IDK
I think you have the right of it, assuming a non-hostile, non-abusive home. However, many people in the old EP were in abusive circumstances. I was in an abusive relationship until I got my sanity check in this group - that is, the EP predecessor. And I was lucky in that I was able to communicate, and that my wife, unlike so many others, actually put a lot of effort into changing her [abusive] behaviour.
Even so, I can never act out - she's too fragile and will become P-A defensive if I so much as raise my voice or frown. But by and large my home life is harmonious. I get cuddles daily.
A home where you're living under constant tension is soul destroying I feel, and at that point the old wealth question becomes secondary. At least to me it does. I once described my first marriage as "I gave her my heart, and she gave it back to me on a silver platter, sliced and diced". It was a question of self preservation for me: get out or die [inside, at least]. Wow! It sounds like you are in a much better place! I like that you make it work. We have a very loving, caring marriage. I am very grateful he is also a great buddy! Sometimes an edge where I would love to know what it's like to wake up to sex! Yummy!! I guess you can't always get what you want! ☺ But if ya try some time...ya get what ya need! 😍 |
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