Thank you DryCreek - that's the thing that was bugging me - that someone who wants sex 3-4 times a week obviously has something WRONG with them. Not - as others have rightly pointed out - if X wants 3 times and Y wants 1 or none - both have a problem because neither are getting what they want from a relationship.
My partner and I have sex more than 4 times a week. But everyone's happy. It doesn't mean that we're compensating for something else, it's that this is one of the ways we express affection and care for each other, plus it feels good and is fun.
In fact I would go so far as to deduct from Dr. Seth's assertion that "people who want sex 3-4 times a week do so out of anxiety" is slagging off people with a high sex drive and I wonder if Dr. Seth isn't trying to justify his own asexual, or low sex drive, refuser-dom.
He's saying if you want it 4 times a week, you're 'nuts'. I reckon if you say something like that, you're 'nuts'. It makes me wonder how he got his degree .....he doesn't look very scientific to me.
Personally, while I'm more of a 2-3 times a week person, I have also known people who want it every day, and I don't consider that to be crazy either: it is who they are, period. You'd need a lot more data before calling them dysfunctional (anxiety).
In my not so humble opinion the guy is a quack the way he voices his disdain for people with different wants/needs than his own. The way he buys into "men want it more than women" is ignorant. 'nuff said.
The part that made me say “quack” was his recommendations;
Cut your partner off cold turkey and send him/her to a therapist. No mention of talking to your partner. Also no comments section.
Gee, thanks for the self-serving recommendation, Dr. Charlatan!
Post by northstarmom on Dec 27, 2019 13:44:57 GMT -5
3-4 times a week is not “sex all of the time.”
A friend said her now ex husband wanted sex 5-6 times a day. They had been married for many years and were in their 50s. For most people, that would be a problem. Btw after she divorced him, he turned to masturbating several times a day.
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