saarinista, I am quite independent because of the past, leading to not wanting to be rejected or criticized. Being independent also helps keep me busy so i don't over think "what comes next" in the treatment plan. I also have instructions to walk a lot so that helps with the recovery and dissipates some frustrations. I would like to ride my bike but that is out for another month
I am not suppose to drive but when my W drives she hits so many bumps and it isn't pain free. She is way too up tight driving. When I drive I know where many of the bumps are. Form a stop I start out slow, apply minimal power and brake very gently. With my W it is gas, then brake, then gas, come to a quick stop. She doesn't like to drive and her anxiety shows.
During a check-up today, I am going to be taking an experimental drug that might result in birth defects so I had to sign a paper promising not to get anyone pregnant. This part was verbal. I also got asked on paper and in private about someone "forcing me to have sex." My W, daughter and her man were in the exam room with me at the time.
Me, I am feeling fit as a fiddle but still have restrictions that limit what I should do or not do.
These doctor-hospital visits did uncover two things that could have killed me in short order, and now they are being treated. That is sort of a plus.
The cauterization turned out OK in the long run. No having to get up and go to the potty every hour or every 1/2 hour. It did cause shrinkage so much so I had an in-ee for a while but the nurse had to inspect and clean the the area with a special wipe. There was nothing the least bit sexual about it. I also got over my dread of adult diapers and pooping in bed, well that happened too.
Yea, it was rough for a couple of days but the doctors and nurses said what I went through was common with other people with the surgery I had so don't worry about the embarrassing events.
I can say that I has so much excellent care in the hospital that it made me want to hug every care giver, but no, I just said "thank you" every time someone came to check on me. The care I got was 2 to 4 times more than I ever expected.
I see the humor in the idea of me not using the appendix so no loss. It was the foot of colon removed because the appendix and colon were cemented together and what was found in it that removed section that caused some serious issues.
I am on the mend and have a bunch of doctors I work with, so that is good.
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petrushka: Thank you! Had a great party with the boardgamers group (and BBQ, cakes and cards!)
Jan 18, 2020 20:14:00 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! Sounds like a wonderful way to celebrate
Jan 18, 2020 22:10:28 GMT -5
frednsa: yaaaaiiiiiieeeeoooooouuuuuuuuuueeeeeeeekkkkkkkkk ! OK, if feel better now.....
Feb 29, 2020 18:14:01 GMT -5
petrushka: Glad you got that off your chest ;-)
Mar 6, 2020 23:35:38 GMT -5
worksforme2: It is a sad day here in my small town, the only cinema has closed...it's probably close to 30 miles to get to one now...
Mar 7, 2020 19:48:28 GMT -5
worksforme2: Since our esteemed governor has declared a state of emergency here in NC (a total of 12 cases so far) the hording of toilet paper has begun. Is diarrhea a part of covid 19? I see Lowes and Home Depot have quick install toilet retro fit bidets.
Mar 13, 2020 10:34:57 GMT -5
petrushka: I've no idea what it is with the toilet paper hoarding. I walked out of a supermarket yesterday and saw a woman with the jumbo sized trolley and some 4x 18 roll packs of toilet paper. Nuts. Completely nuts. Incidentally, a bidet is definitely the way to go
Mar 14, 2020 6:18:43 GMT -5
petrushka: Even her little 5 or 6 year old was questioning her purchase!
Mar 14, 2020 6:25:44 GMT -5
petrushka: One of my favourite quotes for the last 30 years: "don't ever look a sheep in the eyes, the intellectual vacuum may suck your brains out". Well, let's all drink to the sheeple! (besides, alcohol is a good disinfectant).
Mar 14, 2020 6:31:26 GMT -5
frednsa: so...............i'd like to tell her when she "attempts to placate me": have you ever been invited to a party where you knew for certain that you WEREN'T wanted ?
Mar 19, 2020 15:57:05 GMT -5
worksforme2: Former Miss Hawaii tests positive. Being the gallant lad that I am I have offered her the use of my guest bedroom to "shelter in place"..
Mar 23, 2020 20:34:21 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey tamara68, there is a covid19 positive cat in Belgium, watch out for it.
Mar 30, 2020 14:05:56 GMT -5
tamara68: @worksforme I think I have to be more careful for all infected people. Most likely I already have Covid19
Apr 1, 2020 3:29:42 GMT -5
worksforme2: tamara68.....it's been a couple weeks since you posted you may have the covid19 virus. hopefully you are feeling better and are on your way to renewed health
Apr 11, 2020 5:31:38 GMT -5
tamara68: @worksforme thanks, yes I am feeling better. How is it in the USA?
Apr 14, 2020 1:57:26 GMT -5
worksforme2: some better and some worse,..virus seems to be slowing down, but people are beginning to refuse to stay inside,...worst thing I see is Biden leading in the election poles,...but that could be fake news
Apr 20, 2020 16:56:22 GMT -5
mirrororchid: Politics? Is that what we want to happen here?
Apr 21, 2020 6:21:24 GMT -5
petrushka: Certainly not American style politics. Toxic echo chambers.
Apr 23, 2020 16:21:52 GMT -5
petrushka: However, I feel that sexual politics, including political moves that impact the relationships between gender (misogynist, misandrist, etc) definitely deserve room in this context.
Apr 23, 2020 16:22:59 GMT -5
fred: just calculated that i've spent somewhere near 19,000 days (& nights) as a "rejectee".AND that allows for 2,000+ days (& nights) on business travel apart from her. i've chosen to "stay" .....would never do that again, and can't as you see doing the math
May 15, 2020 18:01:15 GMT -5