Post some information about your new community when you have time. Not the name of the places but what people do with their time and local activities.
I recently read an article about Mexico banks not being honest and retirees losing money. Monthly statements had the right numbers but when the people wanted to transfer a large amount of money out of the Mexican bank, what was on the bank statement, wasn't withdraw-able.
Post by northstarmom on Jun 7, 2019 21:28:39 GMT -5
I read that article, too, about that Mexican bank that managed to steal thousands from expats. Most of our money will stay in the US.
A big draw for us is that there is an English language community theater where we are moving. We met with some board members last year when we visited. It seems easy to get involved. We already are signed up to take an acting class.
There’s also a meditation center in my type of Buddhism and there are yoga classes. Some expats get involved in animal rescue. I suspect my dog-loving partner will get involved.
I’ve already joined Meet-ups for film lovers and writers. My political party also has a club there with regular meetings. We also plan to take Spanish and continue our workouts by joining a fitness club. I just learned to kayak and plan to go to the weekly kayaking meet-up. I’m also thinking of taking up horseback riding.
Nnorthstarmom, thank you for the information. Your new community sounds more active and has more things going on than I ever imagined. WTG with all of the things you are involved with. The weekly kayaking meet-up is a big surprise to me.
Maybe I keep too busy with just work around the house and fixing things.
Post by northstarmom on Jun 7, 2019 23:31:05 GMT -5
Handy, you always could start a meetup on a subject that interests you. There even are meetups for people who just want to meet and have coffee or a meal and enjoy getting to make new friends. I’ll probably start a meetup in Mexico.
Weird June here. The rain is torrential and the long days of the high latitudes are making me maizy. I am daydreaming of softer, warmer climes. Of all the realistic places, Italy is probably my retirement dream. The Italians are all mad and life would never be dull. The food is amazing and the climate is perfect. Yes, the winters are surprisingly cold but I am used to that. The housing is cheap too. But retirement would be short. I would get in my car and try to drive on Italian roads........
Post by northstarmom on Jun 13, 2019 21:28:55 GMT -5
We made it to our retirement area in Mexico early this evening. About a 2,000 mile drive including a couple of side trips including to a Texas rodeo. The latter was especially interesting to me because during part of his childhood post SM lover lived on a ranch that held rodeos that he participated in. It was interesting learning about the cowboy side of my guy whom I met in a community theater that we both acted in.
They say that doing new experiences together helps keep love fresh. Our 9 day road trip and moving to a new country should help keep our love fresh. Selling his house, discarding so much of our things that we could fit everything we own into an SUV were new experiences, too.
During that time both of us also retired, 3 trees fell on his house during a hurricane and I had to deal with a month of testing to see if I have cancer (Fortunately, I don’t).
They were very stressful new experiences that did strain our relationship sometimes. That we survived and are still in love and are having great sex is a testimony to the fact that once out of a SM there still will be problems but life still can be better than in a SM.
northstarmom- It sounds like you had a very eventful year! I’m very glad you are cancer free! There is nothing like relocating and a long road trip to test a relationship. I’m glad you and your guy made it safely to Mexico and that your love for one another remains strong. It’s all anyone can wish for. Enjoy your retirement!
Post by northstarmom on Jun 14, 2019 11:33:57 GMT -5
We got lost looking for a place to have breakfast but we found an English language community theater that was happy to add us to their listserv for prospective actors! Afterward, we had breakfast at a nice cafe next door.
Post by northstarmom on Jun 15, 2019 8:35:13 GMT -5
As post SM lover is unpacking I see a faded photo of a woman at the bottom of his suitcase. She is busty, smiling fetchingly and wearing shorts that show off her shapely legs as she leans diagonally against a tree like Marilyn Monroe.
Jealous, I assume he is hanging onto a picture of a long ago ex.
Post by northstarmom on Jun 15, 2019 12:04:35 GMT -5
Post sm lover says his mom was a sexual woman who enjoyed men and looking sexy. He said that because his mom obviously enjoyed sex he sought out women who enjoyed sex and he didn’t think less of them for enjoying sex. He thought more of them because they were sexual. As a teen before he ever had had sex he heard older guys talking about how great they felt when their lovers climaxed during sex. He vowed to be that kind of lover. He is an amazing lover.
Post by worksforme2 on Jun 16, 2019 14:25:37 GMT -5
Retiring to another country is something I have often thought about. But I just can't make the numbers work. My home and property is paid for as are my vehicles. Basically I have no debt. When I tally the insurance, utilities, taxes and maintenance costs I come up with an average of between $600 and $650 a month. So far I haven't found any country in the world where I can have a residence with all the amenities as mine does at a cost anywhere remotely close to what it costs me to be here.
This the "Shoutbox" -- basically a site-wide, group chat. (It's only visible to members.)
worksforme2: some better and some worse,..virus seems to be slowing down, but people are beginning to refuse to stay inside,...worst thing I see is Biden leading in the election poles,...but that could be fake news
Apr 20, 2020 16:56:22 GMT -5
mirrororchid: Politics? Is that what we want to happen here?
Apr 21, 2020 6:21:24 GMT -5
petrushka: Certainly not American style politics. Toxic echo chambers.
Apr 23, 2020 16:21:52 GMT -5
petrushka: However, I feel that sexual politics, including political moves that impact the relationships between gender (misogynist, misandrist, etc) definitely deserve room in this context.
Apr 23, 2020 16:22:59 GMT -5
fred: just calculated that i've spent somewhere near 19,000 days (& nights) as a "rejectee".AND that allows for 2,000+ days (& nights) on business travel apart from her. i've chosen to "stay" .....would never do that again, and can't as you see doing the math
May 15, 2020 18:01:15 GMT -5
worksforme2: 19000 days and nights,....damn dude, that's 52 yrs.
Jun 17, 2020 9:19:10 GMT -5
fred: you're a little short works - was thinking this AM, there has NEVER been a day when she indicated desire for me physically (other than for heavy lifting or finance)........LOL...........earlier, i had enough libido for both of us, now i'm left with guilt
Jun 20, 2020 13:11:12 GMT -5
fred: over imposing myself on her rather than simply leaving .....DAMN LOVE ANYWAY !
Jun 20, 2020 13:12:12 GMT -5
mesulina: update everyone, still has not happened. I have now come to accept that I will live with out. It is just different now.
Jun 29, 2020 19:32:31 GMT -5
worksforme2: Sorry mesulina,... but on the positive side you did stock up on toys a short time back,..now might be the time to go for the gusto
Jun 30, 2020 17:42:54 GMT -5
grower: Embrace a change, you will wonder why you waited so long
Jul 9, 2020 11:22:56 GMT -5
grower: Your life clock is ticking away, don't waste all your time. Live some.
Jul 24, 2020 9:53:20 GMT -5
fred: blue guy, i was where you are 30 years ago. stayed.................nothing changed. if i didn't love this nice lady so much i'd be in deep regret. if she doesn't think of you in a hundred "other" ways (as does my wife) GET OUT ! Life is short
Aug 10, 2020 17:43:15 GMT -5
jerri: Yuk on the plucking chicken feathers. If a chicken doesn't get sex and intimacy she just finds a beautiful cock sooner or later. I'd say there's a much higher "philandering" rate than anyone would care to admit. The rooster who is tormented findsa chicken!
Sept 10, 2020 8:23:56 GMT -5
csl: And yet, there is an entire segment of ILIASM stayers.
Sept 10, 2020 22:04:05 GMT -5
jerri: Exactly I have read multiple threads. I was very impressed with all the different solutions everyone has found. Intellectual group and the camaraderie is nice
Sept 11, 2020 9:44:57 GMT -5
Handy: What happened to being light outside until 9:30 PM? It is 7:30 PM and dark now.
Sept 20, 2020 20:46:01 GMT -5
jerri: It's not hot there? I am getting a slight break from the heat! Cheer up buddy!
Sept 21, 2020 0:27:37 GMT -5
petrushka: Well WE are getting closer to summer. Just passed Equinox. I expect the solar panels will start paying for themselves again in the near future. (over the last few months they have merely mitigated the power bills).
Sept 21, 2020 21:00:36 GMT -5