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Post by ironhamster on May 1, 2019 21:37:29 GMT -5
I did know a couple that broke up over the issue. It was not so much about fitting in as bottoming out. She was a tiny little thing. That would have been a short drama, also. I know this is going to be seen as offensive to some people when I say this, but I have seen plenty of Asian porn and the idea of a well hung Japanese man just does not resonate with me.
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Post by nyctos on May 2, 2019 10:00:44 GMT -5
Who would want to watch a fake reality show about two people just sitting around depressed because they have to use their hands on each other? At least his wife wants to have sex. I'd rather watch a (real) show about a SM. Having said that, I did know a girl who had a boyfriend who was too big, and she said they just "got creative". And I once dated a girl who I couldn't fit in, so we just broke up. Neither case would have made a good TV show. To be honest, I'd been hoping that setting it would get my refuser to understand how damaging it is to constantly withhold. How it can affect the ability to work, to have normal conversations, to simply function as a normal human being. It's not a "fake reality show" -- it's a drama, a scripted series. I'd probably prefer a documentary about sexless marriage too, but there aren't many of those, are there? As it turns out, though it did show the things I'd hoped it would, I don't really know if my wife processed any of it. And I wasn't really find of the ending.
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Post by worksforme2 on May 2, 2019 11:48:55 GMT -5
I wasn't crazy about the ending either. It seems to me the characters will still be looking outside their marriage for any PIV sex.
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Post by nyctos on May 2, 2019 17:49:56 GMT -5
I wasn't crazy about the ending either. It seems to me the characters will still be looking outside their marriage for any PIV sex. Honestly I kind of expected it. PC in Japan is it's okay not to have kids. I kind of anticipate that may change drastically in the next ten years or so.
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Post by worksforme2 on May 2, 2019 18:53:32 GMT -5
MY HUSBAND WON'T FIT
I just had a thought. I have been discussing what's going on in what is basically a soap opera. I guess I'm more in touch with my feminine side than I realized.
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Post by baza on May 3, 2019 7:15:40 GMT -5
I recall seeing a Japanese movie called "In The Realm Of The Senses" or something like that years ago.
In that, the problem was resolved quite simply. During a session of asphyxiation sex the bloke strangled to death. The chick then cut his slug off.
I like the Japanese film genre. Particularly 1950's films by the director Akira Kurosawa, like "The Seven Samurai" which was groundbreaking in its' day.
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Post by deadzone75 on May 8, 2019 12:23:12 GMT -5
Who would want to watch a fake reality show about two people just sitting around depressed because they have to use their hands on each other? At least his wife wants to have sex. I'd rather watch a (real) show about a SM. Having said that, I did know a girl who had a boyfriend who was too big, and she said they just "got creative". And I once dated a girl who I couldn't fit in, so we just broke up. Neither case would have made a good TV show. To be honest, I'd been hoping that setting it would get my refuser to understand how damaging it is to constantly withhold. How it can affect the ability to work, to have normal conversations, to simply function as a normal human being. It's not a "fake reality show" -- it's a drama, a scripted series. I'd probably prefer a documentary about sexless marriage too, but there aren't many of those, are there? As it turns out, though it did show the things I'd hoped it would, I don't really know if my wife processed any of it. And I wasn't really find of the ending. Nah, CSI is a drama. This belongs to the lot of shows that run under the guise of "reality". I'd watch a documentary on SM all day long. But then, I'd probably be watching it alone. Doubt I could get the wife to watch it for 5 minutes before she either got defensive or fell asleep.
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Post by firefollower on May 8, 2019 15:53:44 GMT -5
This thread got me wondering if the way they depict men in media has any influence on how they are treated by their spouses. I can't stand regular television any more because every man it seems is depicted as a stupid bumbling fool. I get it...it's funny. But look a little deeper and I would argue to a certain degree that media influences cultural attitudes about marriage, marital roles, respect for each other....etc . Reality TV shows like the Bachelor create unrealistic expectations of romance. (we can just jet off to New Zealand for a romantic dinner by the ocean) My W loves this show and I suspect that she measures me against this unrealistic expectation.
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Post by Handy on May 8, 2019 17:34:50 GMT -5
Firefollower Reality TV shows like the Bachelor create unrealistic expectations of romance. (we can just jet off to New Zealand for a romantic dinner by the ocean) My W loves this show and I suspect that she measures me against this unrealistic expectation.
I am certain some people expect some of what they view on TV. My W watches home remodeling TV and wants me to do some work similar to what she saw on a 1 hour TV program. "Ain't gonna happen." I tried it on a small basis and got nothing in return. Besides, we really didn't need the remodel project that much.
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Post by northstarmom on May 8, 2019 18:00:06 GMT -5
'Firefollower Reality TV shows like the Bachelor create unrealistic expectations of romance.'
Only if a viewer is very young, naive or very stupid. If someone chooses to marry such a person, they will get what they deserve. Those shows are ridiculous ways of having people choose a spouse.
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Post by firefollower on May 8, 2019 18:52:32 GMT -5
'Firefollower Reality TV shows like the Bachelor create unrealistic expectations of romance.' Only if a viewer is very young, naive or very stupid. If someone chooses to marry such a person, they will get what they deserve. Those shows are ridiculous ways of having people choose a spouse. I agree...I recall reading one of the stories of the couples that hooked up...when the show ended, they hit reality really hard when she went to his house and it was an apartment in the bad of town...she was upset...you mean you are not rich and we can't get on a jet and go to the Bahamas?...too funny. I believe that some adults when they are not happy for whatever reason create these unrealistic fantasies/realities about how their life should be and what they are missing out on. These dating reality shows just perpetuate that unrealistic fantasy. I think your analysis of influencing the very young is spot on...my teenage daughters watch these shows and I already see their attitudes shift towards that is the way romance should be. I find myself telling them...you know it says that this guy is unemployed and the show pays for all of the trips.
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Post by Handy on May 9, 2019 1:20:27 GMT -5
My opinion of most reality shows is they are hidden advertisements trying to get people to spend money they might not have (credit card purchases) imitating what happens in the show.
My W watches a show called something similar to "The Dress" where future brides spend thousand dollars for a wedding dress and all of the accompanying personal drama that goes along with selecting a wedding dress.
Me, I look for bicycles in the GoodWill store and pass the women's wear section and see wedding dresses for maybe $25 or $50 and then think, well that $50 dress means we could put $950 more towards a house to live in.
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Post by saarinista on May 10, 2019 10:34:59 GMT -5
Damn it Handy stop being so practical! 😁😉. Once in a while you have to shoot the moon . That said, I totally agree that these wedding and dating reality shows set people up for a fall and create seriously unrealistic expectations among young, naive women. However as an older woman who never had a wedding, had very few fancy dates and is in no danger of being set up for any falls, I confess that I have started watching The Bachelor & Bachelorette over the last couple years just to jeer at the stupidity. I'm not proud to admit this, 😕 but it's the truth. The way the world is going, we all need some kind of diversion.
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Post by Handy on May 10, 2019 11:36:17 GMT -5
Saarinista, for your next wedding, I will approve a small church wedding. I will even approve a white dress and then a honeymoon some where along the "Skyline Drive" www.virginia.org/scenicskylinedrive/ and www.lookoutmountain.com/Just kidding but both locations have some wonderful scenery. Your second option might be Yellowstone Park. www.nps.gov/yell/index.htm No petting the bison! Jackson Hole is out. When I was there 50 years ago it wasn't expensive. Now, holey cow! Even the workers there have to sleep in tents when they do their summer jobs.
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Post by worksforme2 on May 10, 2019 12:16:35 GMT -5
Damn it Handy stop being so practical! 😁😉. Once in a while you have to shoot the moon . That said, I totally agree that these wedding and dating reality shows set people up for a fall and create seriously unrealistic expectations among young, naive women. However as an older woman who never had a wedding, had very few fancy dates and is in no danger of being set up for any falls, I confess that I have started watching The Bachelor & Bachelorette over the last couple years just to jeer at the stupidity. I'm not proud to admit this, 😕 but it's the truth. The way the world is going, we all need some kind of diversion. Never had a fancy wedding? Just to show you what kind of guy I am, I have had 2. You can have one of mine if you want it.
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