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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 19, 2019 20:28:52 GMT -5
Sometimes one spouse will want to introduce a gerbil into proceedings. It's all good if you're on the same page. Are you at the open bar today? ( you seem in a happy mood -nothing wrong with that ) I don't know about a gerbil, but..... maybe a poodle? The dog loves to climb into the bed and get in the middle!! Then proceed to under the bed.
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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 19, 2019 20:38:33 GMT -5
I was just pondering on this question today, with my girlfriend. Ya see she likes/needs sex daily. ( sometimes 3 times a day! Lucky me!)
Me? I am happy to oblige-mostly.( like 95% of the time) However... I am discovering, more and more, that my tank needs a day to refill. I do much , much better every other day. That doesn't stop me from giving. Giving can also have a vast amount of receiving as well ( without me having to always come off)
My question is/was, " that IS a 50% drop off from my needs verses hers? Is that doable? We think so!
A heck of an improvement ,than what I went through for the last 25 yrs! ( the same for her)
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Post by baza on Apr 19, 2019 20:45:57 GMT -5
Sometimes one spouse will want to introduce a gerbil into proceedings. It's all good if you're on the same page. Are you at the open bar today? ( you seem in a happy mood -nothing wrong with that ) I don't know about a gerbil, but..... maybe a poodle? The dog loves to climb into the bed and get in the middle!! Then proceed to under the bed. Anecdote for you Brother greatcoastal . The scene - in bed with my girlfriend at the time. She had a kitten. We are having a root, in the 'standard' position. The kitten is unbeknown to us, in bed too. Obviously attracted by the swaying of the testicles, the kitten starts to bat them about (claws retracted fortunately) like a speed ball. It was surprisingly erotic and I came like a freight train. We could never get the kitten interested in doing it again unfortunately.
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Post by angeleyes65 on Apr 19, 2019 21:08:49 GMT -5
Funny thing when I first got married I got more sex than I wanted. It was fine I enjoyed it anyway just didn't necesarily need it that much. At first I was sore and he didn't seem to care. That should have been a clue. Eventually my sex grew to match his. Fast forward 15 years he throws me over for porn. Having less than I wanted was definetley worse than getting more than I wanted.
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Post by ironhamster on Apr 20, 2019 5:14:01 GMT -5
I will never know, but, obviously, I was able to survive for years with lowering my bar. I have no idea how much my ex raised her bar. I knew it took her three days to recharge before sex again was a possibility, and I could have been happy with sex as little as three times a week. Now, with it over, I know she told friends that anybody that wanted sex three times a week had mental problems. If she had loved me, she would have been as honest with me as she was with others.
In my limited experience, lowering it is easier. I never had to resort to calling her crazy to justify her lack of need.
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Post by shamwow on Apr 20, 2019 5:19:15 GMT -5
Are you at the open bar today? ( you seem in a happy mood -nothing wrong with that ) I don't know about a gerbil, but..... maybe a poodle? The dog loves to climb into the bed and get in the middle!! Then proceed to under the bed. Anecdote for you Brother greatcoastal . The scene - in bed with my girlfriend at the time. She had a kitten. We are having a root, in the 'standard' position. The kitten is unbeknown to us, in bed too. Obviously attracted by the swaying of the testicles, the kitten starts to bat them about (claws retracted fortunately) like a speed ball. It was surprisingly erotic and I came like a freight train. We could never get the kitten interested in doing it again unfortunately. Catnip body wash perhaps?
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Post by ironhamster on Apr 20, 2019 5:21:07 GMT -5
I know of one couple of sexless marriage survivors that are a bit kinky. In order for the woman to know her husband is willing and capable, she practices orgasm denial. He is not allowed to cum for months at a time. I know that sounds cruel, but, he gets daily hand jobs, blowjobs, and sex.
This is one instance of a couple that have found a mutually agreeable way to increase the drive of one to match the drive of the other.
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Post by shamwow on Apr 20, 2019 5:21:15 GMT -5
Sometimes one spouse will want to introduce a gerbil into proceedings. It's all good if you're on the same page. Are you at the open bar today? ( you seem in a happy mood -nothing wrong with that ) I don't know about a gerbil, but..... maybe a poodle? The dog loves to climb into the bed and get in the middle!! Then proceed to under the bed. For the love of God tell me you are not utilizing the poodle in the same manner as a gerbil would be used. Sounds like a trip to the ER.
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Post by shamwow on Apr 20, 2019 5:23:07 GMT -5
I know of one couple of sexless marriage survivors that are a bit kinky. In order for the woman to know her husband is willing and capable, she practices orgasm denial. He is not allowed to cum for months at a time. I know that sounds cruel, but, he gets daily hand jobs, blowjobs, and sex. This is one instance of a couple that have found a mutually agreeable way to increase the drive of one to match the drive of the other. Sounds a bit one sided to me
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Post by ironhamster on Apr 20, 2019 5:25:26 GMT -5
Anecdote for you Brother greatcoastal . The scene - in bed with my girlfriend at the time. She had a kitten. We are having a root, in the 'standard' position. The kitten is unbeknown to us, in bed too. Obviously attracted by the swaying of the testicles, the kitten starts to bat them about (claws retracted fortunately) like a speed ball. It was surprisingly erotic and I came like a freight train. We could never get the kitten interested in doing it again unfortunately. Catnip body wash perhaps? Cats are not trainable. Maybe a remote controlled vibrating nut ring? Dogs are trainable. I got a cold dog nose against my butthole one time, but it really didn't add anything to the experience.
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Post by shamwow on Apr 20, 2019 5:27:49 GMT -5
Catnip body wash perhaps? Cats are not trainable. Maybe a remote controlled vibrating nut ring? Dogs are trainable. I got a cold dog nose against my butthole one time, but it really didn't add anything to the experience. Also sounds a bit one sided to me
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Post by ironhamster on Apr 20, 2019 5:38:10 GMT -5
I know of one couple of sexless marriage survivors that are a bit kinky. In order for the woman to know her husband is willing and capable, she practices orgasm denial. He is not allowed to cum for months at a time. I know that sounds cruel, but, he gets daily hand jobs, blowjobs, and sex. This is one instance of a couple that have found a mutually agreeable way to increase the drive of one to match the drive of the other. Sounds a bit one sided to me Well, they have found something that works for them. I can say, I don't think the orgasm has to be the goal of sex in order to be amazing. She definitely has the intellectual advantage. She likes listening to educational recordings while she edges, and learns a lot during their sessions. Her husband, on the other hand, is just not in a state of mind where he can retain much information.
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Post by ironhamster on Apr 20, 2019 5:39:25 GMT -5
Cats are not trainable. Maybe a remote controlled vibrating nut ring? Dogs are trainable. I got a cold dog nose against my butthole one time, but it really didn't add anything to the experience. Also sounds a bit one sided to me Well, it was only one side, and that was too much as it was. Lesson learned. Dogs out, door closed.
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Post by shamwow on Apr 20, 2019 6:06:07 GMT -5
Also sounds a bit one sided to me Well, it was only one side, and that was too much as it was. Lesson learned. Dogs out, door closed. Last weekend we had to throw the dog out of the room. Not for anything invasive but because he kept licking his paws. Kept us awake lol
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 20, 2019 8:35:07 GMT -5
Are you at the open bar today? ( you seem in a happy mood -nothing wrong with that ) I don't know about a gerbil, but..... maybe a poodle? The dog loves to climb into the bed and get in the middle!! Then proceed to under the bed. For the love of God tell me you are not utilizing the poodle in the same manner as a gerbil would be used. Sounds like a trip to the ER. Just exactly how does one utilize a gerbil when engaged in a sexual act?
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