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Post by greatcoastal on May 16, 2016 8:59:05 GMT -5
This has been a concern of mine, personally, too. I am constantly "scrolling up" a bit to get that out of sight. Anyway, the "quick fix" is just to change the text, so you should see that I have done that just now. To mess with the font or to use an image instead (thanks to unmatched for a candidate image with a very subtle "ILIASM" embossed) would take more fiddling. BRAVO!!! |
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Post by Rhapsodee on May 16, 2016 9:29:34 GMT -5
The logo is very nice, but is there any way to make it more discrete? I screwed up my tapatalk so I use the mobile site. I'm afraid someone will see the huge I LIVE IN A SEXLESS MARRIAGE across the top of my screen. In fact I know my son has seen it. He now pauses at the door if he sees me on my iPad and says "don't worry I won't look." He's a good guy. This has been a concern of mine, personally, too. I am constantly "scrolling up" a bit to get that out of sight. Anyway, the "quick fix" is just to change the text, so you should see that I have done that just now. To mess with the font or to use an image instead (thanks to unmatched for a candidate image with a very subtle "ILIASM" embossed) would take more fiddling. You are so totally and awesomely cool. Thank you! |
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Post by Dan on May 16, 2016 9:56:34 GMT -5
I'd just like to request once again a Discussion Thread where we can talk about living in a long term sexless marriage. Coping tips and advice about finding sex outside the marriage. I think I may know what @jasonl is getting at. The board for Sexless Marriage Issues is currently loaded and overflowing with all kinds of subjects. Many of them are old and have gone dormant, but some are still active. Some may still be of interest to you as a member. Add all of these to the other many many subjects going on, and the increasing number of members, it gets very busy in here. This applies to all boards also getting quite full. I think unfortunately, this cannot be easily avoided. If you approach the site reviewing recent posts and moving down, you have gone through several pages before even getting to posts a few hours old. Especially since this includes the chatty posts that go back and forth. If you don't have hours to sit in front of the site, or if you miss a day, you will miss something important and probably never see it. Or if you are a new guest, you may see a 'conversation' by way of posts. Unless you go into Sexless Issues, the site's original purpose, and dissect it. I think the original board is what you had in mind Jason, or am I barking up the wrong tree? I have to say... I just don't think you are suggesting something "workable". A "sticky" with a single thread will just lead to a VERY long thread that ultimately becomes pulled in many directions, and therefore unusable. A "board" dedicated to those who are dedicated to staying? I dunno. Does that mean we also need a board "dedicated to leaving", and a board for those "still on the fence"? My personal journey has wandered through all of those. A "board" dedicated to "how to outsource"? Egads. It is a tough choice that some folks decide to make, and many individuals here support it. But I don't think that having the forum appear to be "advocating cheating" is a perception we want to leave with newcomers... or outsiders who may be looking to pick a fight, or otherwise disparage the forum. There is admittedly chaos in how the site works: - threads rise and fall
- take a few days off any everything has moved, and so much as been added
- new stuff crowds out the old
- old stuff is dredged up even when we'd prefer it just to fade
- threads get started in boards where other boards a clearly better candidates
- threads are hijacked with new important themes
- threads are hijacked with goofing around and general smartassery
I think we just need to embrace the "lovely chaos" of it all. Furthermore, it is my opinion that there is NO top-down organization that will be a) perfect, b) that everyone will follow perfectly. I'm NOT opposed to creating new boards when there is a CLEAR distinction between one board and the next. But actively dealing with a current SM is a tangled, messy endeavor. Just to muddy the mix: there are TWO OTHER "board organization" options. A) Categories. Note we have one over arching "category" called "General". If we add many more boards, we are probably going to want to add breaking things up in to "categories" rather than one monolithic list of boards. B) Sub-boards. Right now a board is like a folder, in which we store threads (which then contain posts). Well, we can put "board inside boards". Will this be a useful organization? Or confusing? OK everyone: PLEASE comment on the above. |
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Post by Deleted on May 16, 2016 10:28:13 GMT -5
I am NOT an advocate for a "How to Outsource" Board. Because I don't think any of us "advocate" extramarital affairs. However, they are a real part of the discussion.
However, maybe a category for "In Outsourcing Limbo," or just "Outsourcing Issues?" Separate from SM issues And Post-SM. The in-between categories.
I would put Psychological/Psychiatric/Mental Health and Legal issues in a category all their own. Maybe put articles about SM in that category as well.
Can't think of any other things, right now. But, I love that we're being asked for input openly!
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Post by Dan on May 16, 2016 10:35:14 GMT -5
But, I love that we're being asked for input openly! I work in an industry where frank, open, multi-party discussions are the way to achieve consensus and actually build something useful. In fact, modern communication systems like the telephone network and the Internet itself owes its very existence to exactly this sort of cooperation. I'm also a fan of the author of this saying: "The shining spark of truth cometh forth only after the clash of differing opinions." The sentiment is that people don't clash... but our opinions do. Like the hammer working metal on the anvil, it may emit a spark here and there, but the purpose is forging something useful. |
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Post by Deleted on May 16, 2016 10:41:02 GMT -5
I have worked places where it was the "way of work." However, "way of work," seemed to have MANY different interpretations - from "please share constructive solutions," to "let's spend an exorbitant amount of time and money to learn new ways of work, and then go back to how we've always done it." It's nice to see it being proactively practiced, Dan. |
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Post by Admin on May 16, 2016 11:26:37 GMT -5
I'm going to point out to our respectable Admin that you would get as many different suggestions as forum members. At some point you have to make a decision that won't and can't make EVERYBODY happy. Thank you for that. Agreed! The French have an expression when you ask for opinions on a matter: you will hear "tout et le contraire de tout": "everything, and the opposite of everything". Still: the discussion is a useful "taking the pulse" of the membership. At this point, I have more improvements in mind (which I think will be welcomed) than I have time to do in the near future! I'll do easy/important things first (like changing the banner to "ILIASM Forum"), and all else goes on the to-do list as time allows. |
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Post by Deleted on May 16, 2016 20:48:17 GMT -5
How to easily tag members while posting: Step 1: Click insert user link  Step 2: Type in the field provided the first few characters of the username you want to tag  Step 3: Click the name of the member Isabellas39Done!
PS. I used Isabella's example as her current screen name and username is very different. But also because I like her avi and posts :-), are you a technical writer? [g] |
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Post by DryCreek on May 16, 2016 21:48:08 GMT -5
Fiery, are you a technical writer? [g] She's letting a little nerd shine through... ;-) (But very nicely done!) |
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Post by Admin on May 17, 2016 7:22:15 GMT -5
And I would still like to see the thumbs up button change to a much brighter color. I see how my name appears when I like something, but then it becomes a 2-step process to check if I really pressed it. And, if I am 3rd in line, I'm just the 'and 1 more' and then I'm back where I started, can't tell if I pressed it or not. With the help of unmatched, we've darkened the "Like" button for the desktop site. It didn't seem to darken the same on the mobile site, so we will continue our spelunking... |
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Post by Deleted on May 17, 2016 14:08:42 GMT -5
With a slightly more purple-ish thumbs up, expressing our appreciations for one's posts, just got far more pleasant! Thanks Admin and unmatched for making it possible, and to @elle for noticing it! Now please @elle don't go changing your haircolour  Not a chance, remember I'm naturally pink anyway - it's my default. Awesome!! Love the new purple button! Off to like a bunch of posts.  |
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Post by Admin on May 18, 2016 7:33:28 GMT -5
The questions is: what if I wanted to delete my profile (not that I want to, but hypothetically speaking) and delete everything with me? Already available: "members can delete a whole post of theirs". (Use the "gear" icon.) According to this, there is no way for me to allow: "members can delete a whole thread if they started it". There IS an Admin screen that allow me to do each of those operations. I would consider any request to do so on a case-by-case basis. If a member feels this is necessary to request, do this FROM YOUR ACCOUNT, BEFORE YOU DELETE YOUR ACCOUNT. Requests received AFTER your deletion would be approximately impossible to verify. There is one more place your "fingerprints" might be left, however: if you were Quoted by someone else, or mentioned by username (with or without the "@"). This is very difficult to clean up. If you don't want to leave ANY traces here, the only sure fire way is: don't post. After that, the best approach is create a separate identity (email, pseudonym, etc) as its own online presence, and don't reveal and personally identifiable information in your posts here (or anywhere online where you use that identity). |
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Post by unmatched on May 18, 2016 17:23:37 GMT -5
Already available: "members can delete a whole post of theirs". (Use the "gear" icon.) According to this, there is no way for me to allow: "members can delete a whole thread if they started it". I guess that means there wouldn't be an easy way to delete all your posts without going through them all one by one? |
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Post by Deleted on May 21, 2016 13:50:15 GMT -5
Two words: block function
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Post by Deleted on May 21, 2016 14:02:03 GMT -5
Oh lala. Helen is back!!
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