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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 14, 2019 7:49:51 GMT -5
Another question to ponder over the weekend: What are you busy doing today? Will it matter in a year? Things that matter? Giving and receiving again I give. I give compliments ( words of affirmation) to others. I assist others through words and actions. It will matter in a year, because they will also be inspired to help someone else then they help someone else, etc... ( domino effect) Sadly this can be wasted on a controller, a taker. They rarely give back to anyone. I receive. I help myself. I ask for help and I recieve it from others. ( ask and you shall receive). Taking my daughter out driving again, after her accident. Talking with my older son about buying his car. Meeting my sons friends and having them over to my house. Collecting thousands of shells on the beach with my girlfriend, spray painting them , and then lining my natural area in the front yard with them. Meeting with an advisor to prepare for court. Helping a friend with his fence for his new puppies. Applying online for another job. Meeting with my insurance agent to asses the hail damage to the house. Speaking with my neighbors about their damage. Ordering a sex toy. Having regular sex and intimacy with my girlfriend. All of these will matter a year from now. ( including , continually posting on here. Their is always the lurker who you might be helping. Ya' never know!)
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Post by northstarmom on Apr 14, 2019 9:30:52 GMT -5
“What are you busy doing today? Will it matter in a year?”
I’ve worked out (aerobics and arms), attended a half day silent retreat, had lunch with some interesting people, will have tea today with interesting women, and I’ve showered with my post sm partner (hadn’t done that for a couple of years) and made love bent over the bed in front of the mirror, adding some extra zing to the day and sex. strengthing relationships, helping maintain my inner peace and keeping bat wings at bay all are investments into the me of next year.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2019 15:00:49 GMT -5
What I did this weekend I do think in many ways will matter in a year. I broached the porn subject again with my H today AFTER having sex. Usual behavior would be to not rock the boat. Something happened and I felt I had to speak up - my mantra as of late - speak up and say something. I did. Regardless of whether we stay together or part ways, my actions this weekend are setting me up for peace and success and a more true-to-myself life in the future. All positive steps I take for me set me up for a positive and healthy future IMO.
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Post by angeleyes65 on Apr 14, 2019 18:28:09 GMT -5
Another question to ponder over the weekend: What are you busy doing today? Will it matter in a year? I was going to doctor appts and house hunting. Hoping the results from the doctors will be good and not matter in 10 years. Hoping the house hunting will matter In 10 years. Think he is putting an offer in tomorrow .
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Post by Handy on Apr 14, 2019 23:51:55 GMT -5
What I did today.
I decided to never invest in a "Real-estate Investment Trust" (REIT) again. The tax forms and entries (over 60) are not worth couple of hundred of dollars to justify over 8 to 12 hours of reading tax instructions (58 pages for form 1065) and re-doing my regular taxes so I can file an amended tax return.
On the plus side, my grand daughter works at McDonald's so I volunteered to take her home. We had a combo meal together after she finished her shift. I drove to the grand daughter residence and also visited with my daughter. Then I drove the grand daughter to her dad's house. Yea, one week with dad and the next week with mom.
I have 2 more days of being a mini-chicken rancher (14 chickens) until my neighbors get home. Chickens remind me of dogs, always looking for a treat and in this case the treat is cracked corn. A super chicken treat is a snack of dehydrated meal worms. Sorry chickens, I all out of that item. Egg count today was 5 eggs. Yesterday's egg count was 7.
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Post by sadkat on Apr 15, 2019 8:45:46 GMT -5
Question for today: What is the top priority in your life right now? Why?
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Post by angeleyes65 on Apr 15, 2019 10:51:05 GMT -5
My kids always even though they are grown and my new relationship. As for the why's because I love them and I want a happy , loving successful future for them and myself
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Post by flounder on Apr 15, 2019 10:54:46 GMT -5
Question for today: What is the top priority in your life right now? Why? Kids. I want them to be able to succeed at things even if I never could.
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Post by hopingforachange on Apr 15, 2019 11:21:57 GMT -5
Question for today: What is the top priority in your life right now? Why? My own happiness and figuring my own shit out.
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Post by workingonit on Apr 15, 2019 11:49:15 GMT -5
My kids and myself - our happiness, health and growth.
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Post by javba on Apr 15, 2019 12:23:37 GMT -5
Question for today: what personal characteristic do you struggle with the most? For me, I’m very sensitive- I tend to take things personally and get my feelings hurt easily. I’ve learned to manage it throughout the years but still have to be aware of this tendency when interacting with others. Acceptance. I need to stop accepting peeps for who they are - counter-intuitive but that leaves not much to change.
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Post by javba on Apr 15, 2019 12:29:21 GMT -5
Patience for me. (Definitely a struggle with a 3 year old ) :-) Get sleep, Keep her on a tight schedule - and learn deep breathing (just trying to be funny - this post is not primarily parental advice)
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Post by Handy on Apr 15, 2019 14:28:04 GMT -5
Top priority right now is I over stressed my L knee helping a friend install a light. Standing on a ladder somehow excreted extra stress on my knees. I didn't know it at the time but the next day that one knee was painful. Right now I am not putting any stress on it. I might even skip some of my exercises for a few days. I suppose I re-damaged an old meniscus tear injury, that I let heal over a 6 month period instead of having surgery. It was what my orthopedist advised at the time.
Why? Because my knee really hurts if I don't take it easy. Avoiding pain is a primary human function.
I remember a quote that said " If stupidity was instantly painful, almost no one would make stupid moves/mistakes."
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Post by h on Apr 16, 2019 15:38:23 GMT -5
Question for today: What is the top priority in your life right now? Why? My top priority for now is getting my W into a better paying job. That will be the key to paying off debts and reaching a level of financial security where divorce is feasible. Our income discrepancy is too high right now.
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Post by isthisit on Apr 16, 2019 15:55:21 GMT -5
Question for today: What is the top priority in your life right now? Why? I am tempted to respond in a similar way to the other citing the best interests of my children, as once they are known to be in utero they come first of course. So to answer the question a little differently after the children my priority in life is ........ me! For the first time in an awfully long time I am my priority to reclaim myself from my marriage. My best interests in terms of my time, energy and priorities are beginning to be informed by what I find fun, fulfilling, interesting and meet my current commitments. It’s taking a fair bit of getting used to but is pretty wonderful at times. I lost myself for quite a while there, and recently I have noticed comments from others (who are often unaware of my change in circumstances) telling me that something seems different... you seem brighter/lighter/ more relaxed .... ? I am finding myself again and it’s pretty great. 😃
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