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Post by Deleted on Oct 12, 2018 9:37:03 GMT -5
Just curious if any women prefer to return to their birth names, or consider it, especially if they associate their married name with an unhappy marriage.
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Post by misssunnybunny on Oct 12, 2018 9:44:45 GMT -5
I did. I like my maiden name better, felt it as a way to shed negativity from my SM, and return to me again.
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Post by workingonit on Oct 12, 2018 9:57:52 GMT -5
I have thought about this. I am still married, obviously, so this is theoretical. I think I will keep my last name because it is the same last name as my children. It is our family name.
I may have a unique situation though as my last name is made up. My h did not want to keep his fathers name and did not want to take mine so we made up a new name when we got married.
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Post by elkclan2 on Oct 12, 2018 11:39:56 GMT -5
I never changed mine in the first place.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 12, 2018 16:54:36 GMT -5
I’m keeping my married name because I want to share the same name as my kids. It’s hard enough for them that their family is fractured. Figured they didn’t need name weirdness too. “Is that your mom? But she has a different last name.” Then kids have to explain...
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Post by choosinghappy on Oct 12, 2018 18:34:37 GMT -5
I’m keeping my married name because I want to share the same name as my kids. It’s hard enough for them that their family is fractured. Figured they didn’t need name weirdness too. “Is that your mom? But she has a different last name.” Then kids have to explain... Ditto. Planning to keep my married name so it remains the same as my son’s.
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Post by javba on Oct 12, 2018 22:18:16 GMT -5
In an easier way of happening She never took my last name.
So kids and I are family name she's not.
Funnily tho some people refer to me with her last name. Ah Mr Smith.
I'm like why not I'm fucked after all
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Post by bballgirl on Oct 13, 2018 12:02:22 GMT -5
I kept my married name. I wanted the same name as my kids. I like my married name better. After 23 years of marriage the name was who I am independent of being married to him or not.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 13, 2018 12:37:07 GMT -5
I like my married name better. After 23 years of marriage the name was who I am independent of being married to him or not. Agree. 100%. On both counts. I don't associate the name so much with the failed marriage as with the memory of a family. And the family is the best thing I got out of the deal. No need to throw the baby out with the bathwater.
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Post by surfergirl on Oct 13, 2018 15:12:50 GMT -5
I kept my married name because I’ve had it longer than my birth name. Also, I want the same last name as my kids.
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Post by warmways on Oct 13, 2018 17:15:34 GMT -5
I don’t have children and will definitely change my name back to my maiden name.
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Post by greatcoastal on Oct 13, 2018 18:48:33 GMT -5
After 25 yrs of marriage, and all 6 kids having my last name, my ex changed back to her maiden name ASAP. The topic never came up. My guess? All about Money. Her investments, new accounts, hidden accounts, IRA 401k etc... There's a lot of things I no longer ask why? about.
Just the other day when my daughter had surgery all the female nurses kept saying to my ex, " you're the mother?" So you're her mother?" Then they looked at me when they had too and said " you will be the one driving her home?" Never, " so you're her father?, You brought her here? You will be taking care of her?" Nothing. Name didn't matter to them at all.
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Post by tamara68 on Oct 15, 2018 8:19:49 GMT -5
I changed back to my maiden name. I feel uncomfortable every time I see his last name. Unfortunately at work it was to much trouble to change my login name so I keep seeing that name every day. My daughter of course has her dad's last name.
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Post by shamwow on Oct 15, 2018 20:15:26 GMT -5
I wish my ex would change back to her maiden name.
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Post by ironhamster on Oct 18, 2018 10:56:26 GMT -5
I'd be more than happy if my ex did. It is an oversight on my part. The divorce agreement allows her to change her name, but it does not require it.
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