Have you found someone?

The original post (and poll) could be read as regarding being in a new relationship as being the *ideal* result.

I doubt that that was Brother @shynjdude 's intent, but it could be interpreted that way.

But like Sister WindSister says - "Nothing wrong with being single".

!Perhaps if the poll had asked - "For People Who Have Been Out Of Their ILIASM Deal For At Least A Year"....
Are you -
(a) - in a better place than you were whilst in your ILIASM deal
(b) - in a worse place than you were in your ILIASM deal

To me, THAT'S the question.
Whether you are in a relationship now, or what sex you are does not seem particularly relevant, to me.

In fact, I'll go further.
If you are judging your metric of "success" upon nowadays being in a relationship, you are setting yourself up for a world of hurt.

An example.
I've known Sister WindSister for at least 5 years.
Her growth as a person has been phenomenal. She's sorted so much of her shit out, and continues to challenge her thinking, continues to strive to be a better person still. Drops the ball now and then (like we all do) and then picks it up and has another go.
She presents as a terrific person, and her run of stories is a tale of success as she's grown.
It is a big success story in my opinion.

Co-incidently, nowadays, she is in a great relationship.

Her relationship did not make her into the well rounded individual she is today.
She made herself into this well rounded individual by hard work. With very little instant gratification or reward.
The benefits kicked in later.
In this case, the achievement of becoming the authentic WindSister was a huge HUGE success.

On top of that (or perhaps what the authentic WindSister presented as being was very attractive to people) a great relationship came her way as a bonus on top.