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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2018 14:22:11 GMT -5
As of this morning at about 10:30 US Central Time, I became a Divorcee.
Yuk.
This process was way worse than I had anticipated. My wife devolved to levels I was not expecting.
In the end, it became weekly requests for the previous 12 years of my business's financials, phone calls asking me what I was spending $18.50 on at Chipoltle, and constant made up stories to my 17 year old twins. Neither of them are well equipped to separate the crazy from the almost true.
In my state, a "Normal" Divorce settlement judgement is 12-15 pages. Long ones are 30 pages. Mine was over 40. My wife had items to contest this morning after 3 pre-trial hearings and a binding pre-trial hearing where all the matters were supposed to be settled.
I feel like I just left my father's funeral. Actually, this is worse.
Things start getting better now.
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Jul 25, 2018 16:35:10 GMT -5
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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Jul 25, 2018 16:35:10 GMT -5
This is a huge milestone @creelunion. Congrats!. It will get better.
Sage advice I once heard from a friend.
You know why divorce is expensive?
Cause its worth it.
All the best!
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 25, 2018 16:58:18 GMT -5
@creelunion
I’m so sorry it was a tough divorce but her behavior through the whole process is just reinforcement that you made the right decision.
I know for sure you have better and happier times ahead in Opposite Land.
Continue to focus on yourself and enjoy this new chapter of YOUR life!
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Post by northstarmom on Jul 25, 2018 17:11:09 GMT -5
CU, i'm sorry it was so arduous, but I hope you are relieved to be no longer married to such a woman.
Condolences on your dad's death. This has been a rough past year or so for you. I hope you are doing things to reduce your stress and stay healthy.
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Post by shamwow on Jul 25, 2018 17:23:48 GMT -5
As of this morning at about 10:30 US Central Time, I became a Divorcee. Yuk. This process was way worse than I had anticipated. My wife devolved to levels I was not expecting. In the end, it became weekly requests for the previous 12 years of my business's financials, phone calls asking me what I was spending $18.50 on at Chipoltle, and constant made up stories to my 17 year old twins. Neither of them are well equipped to separate the crazy from the almost true. In my state, a "Normal" Divorce settlement judgement is 12-15 pages. Long ones are 30 pages. Mine was over 40. My wife had items to contest this morning after 3 pre-trial hearings and a binding pre-trial hearing where all the matters were supposed to be settled. I feel like I just left my father's funeral. Actually, this is worse. Things start getting better now. Sorry to hear that it was such a nightmare. You really discover who you were married to when whst passes for protective coating of till death do we part is stripped away. As far as things getting better? All the divorce gave you was the OPPORTUNITY for things to get better. It is up to you to seize that opportunity. But I think you'll find that just not having to breathe the same air as your ex by itself makes things better. Welcome to the other side, brother! |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2018 18:13:48 GMT -5
I am very proud of you for walking gracefully through the fire. It’s the only way out.
And not to trivialize your pain, but today I was thinking of divorce like a remodeling project: it always looks worse before it looks better. I am sure it’ll look better soon! Hoping the same for myself.
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Post by beachguy on Jul 25, 2018 18:25:06 GMT -5
This is far better than your father's funeral. I'm sure he never treated you that way. Congratulations on starting your path out of the Hell your psycho ex tried to put you in. But in the end she failed. And eventually your sons will learn the TRUTH.
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Post by baza on Jul 25, 2018 18:57:30 GMT -5
Time was your enemy in your ILIASM shithole Brother @creelunion .
Time is now your friend.
Congratulations on reaching this "official" landmark.
You'd be well justified in taking a bit of time off just for yourself if you could swing it.
Just to do something self indulgent and de-compress a bit and have a bit of "me" time.
I think these processes load more stress onto us than we realise in the moment.
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Post by choosinghappy on Jul 25, 2018 19:36:15 GMT -5
Congratulations. I’m sorry for the way things went but I am happy for you that you can now look ahead to the future.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 25, 2018 19:56:53 GMT -5
Here's to new beginnings, and a brand new start!
Stars can't shine without darkness. As difficult as it seems, there is a place and a time to find joy in tribulations.. You are going to be an inspiration and a pillar for others in the future (including your precious daughters)
Now that the MAJOR unsolvable problem is in the past you can gain strength in combatting your new solvable problems!
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Post by workingonit on Jul 25, 2018 20:58:50 GMT -5
onward and upward! You have suffered enough. May you find the strength to connect, love, enjoy and flourish!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2018 23:21:22 GMT -5
This is a hige milestone @creelunion . Congrats!. It will get better. Sage advice I once heard from a friend. You know why divorce is expensive? Cause its worth it. All the best! If you get what you pay for, I got a really fine divorce. Only the best. Aged to perfection. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2018 23:27:29 GMT -5
Time was your enemy in your ILIASM shithole Brother @creelunion . Time is now your friend. Congratulations on reaching this "official" landmark. You'd be well justified in taking a bit of time off just for yourself if you could swing it. Just to do something self indulgent and de-compress a bit and have a bit of "me" time. I think these processes load more stress onto us than we realise in the moment. I'm kind of thinking along these lines. Where to go for a few days? |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2018 23:30:32 GMT -5
I am very proud of you for walking gracefully through the fire. It’s the only way out. And not to trivialize your pain, but today I was thinking of divorce like a remodeling project: it always looks worse before it looks better. I am sure it’ll look better soon! Hoping the same for myself. @elle, I wasn't so graceful through this thing. I wish I had done better in that regard. |
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Post by flashjohn on Jul 26, 2018 9:13:09 GMT -5
I am so glad it's finally over. At least you know that now she can't do this kind of thing any more. My mediation date is 8/9/18, and I am hoping that mine gets resolved. If so, then just one more final hearing and all is done.
Congratulations! You got out with most of your sanity intact.
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