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Post by nyartgal on Jun 18, 2018 17:03:23 GMT -5
Does anyone remember the guy who used to be on EP---must have left just as I arrived in 2012---who told every person who posted about their SM that their spouse doesn't love them? That guy was spot on. What was his name? He seriously cut to the chase!
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Post by misssunnybunny on Jun 18, 2018 17:20:56 GMT -5
I remember him, can't remember the name. Perhaps another survivor of the EP group will know!
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Post by baza on Jun 18, 2018 18:09:16 GMT -5
He had a few handles. AnarChristian was his main one. Also RonMcDong. On just about every story he'd say - "your spouse doesn't love you, get a divorce". Tagged - nyartgal misssunnybunny
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Post by misssunnybunny on Jun 18, 2018 18:19:19 GMT -5
I think I had that comment on a couple of my old EP posts!
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Post by nyartgal on Jun 19, 2018 5:46:04 GMT -5
He had a few handles. AnarChristian was his main one. Also RonMcDong. On just about every story he'd say - "your spouse doesn't love you, get a divorce". Tagged - nyartgal misssunnybunnyHaha yes! That's the one. I feel like I am becoming that guy.
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Post by shamwow on Jun 19, 2018 8:13:46 GMT -5
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Post by baza on Jun 19, 2018 8:17:37 GMT -5
Off the record, I believe that had people taken AnarChristians short but accurate advice - "your spouse doesn't love you, get a divorce" - as it was offered, his advice would have proven accurate and life enhancing 99 times out of 100.
Paradoxically enough (and as I recall) he got blindsided in his ILIASM shithole and his missus initiated the divorce.
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Post by nyartgal on Jun 19, 2018 9:41:52 GMT -5
Off the record, I believe that had people taken AnarChristians short but accurate advice - "your spouse doesn't love you, get a divorce" - as it was offered, his advice would have proven accurate and life enhancing 99 times out of 100. Paradoxically enough (and as I recall) he got blindsided in his ILIASM shithole and his missus initiated the divorce. Life enhancing is a hilarious and apt way to put it!
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Post by choosinghappy on Jun 19, 2018 13:10:17 GMT -5
Off the record, I believe that had people taken AnarChristians short but accurate advice - "your spouse doesn't love you, get a divorce" - as it was offered, his advice would have proven accurate and life enhancing 99 times out of 100. Paradoxically enough (and as I recall) he got blindsided in his ILIASM shithole and his missus initiated the divorce. I didn’t know this guy and wasn’t around then, but I disagree with his advise. At least for me (and I assume some, or maybe many, others) my spouse loves me but is just incapable of showing me in the way I need in order to feel loved. He has even acknowledged that before. It’s a shitty situation and I will be initiating a divorce but it’s not because my spouse doesn’t love me.
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Post by ironhamster on Jun 20, 2018 3:35:54 GMT -5
Off the record, I believe that had people taken AnarChristians short but accurate advice - "your spouse doesn't love you, get a divorce" - as it was offered, his advice would have proven accurate and life enhancing 99 times out of 100... I agree, and this is coming from a guy whose wife's lawyer is motivated to make me fund his boat payments. I actually prefer it to where I was a year ago.
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Post by flashjohn on Jun 21, 2018 11:27:58 GMT -5
He was absolutely right. Some people are not ready to hear this, but it is true. If a spouse loved you, he/she would be fucking you.
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Post by WindSister on Jun 21, 2018 12:35:54 GMT -5
I remember and received that advise. I believe it to some extent. There are many forms of love, though. For me, marriage must have sexual love included.
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Post by nyartgal on Jun 21, 2018 17:15:15 GMT -5
If your spouse knows you are desperately unhappy because of lack of sex and doesn't do anything about it, your spouse doesn't love you. Love means giving a shit about your partner's happiness. BASELINE DEFINITION.
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Post by choosinghappy on Jun 22, 2018 5:21:48 GMT -5
If your spouse knows you are desperately unhappy because of lack of sex and doesn't do anything about it, your spouse doesn't love you. Love means giving a shit about your partner's happiness. BASELINE DEFINITION. There can be extenuating circumstances though. For instance, my H was sexually abused as a child. Sex is traumatic for him. I didn’t know this until he told me. He’s been in therapy for PTSD but although he may someday be WILLING to be intimate again he will never actually WANT to. That is not enough for me so I am leaving. But he cares that I am unhappy and wishes he could change it. I know he loves me, he is just incapable of being the partner I need.
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Post by workingonit on Jun 22, 2018 6:16:21 GMT -5
Cmon people. This is too simplistic. People are complex. I can love someone but not be able to be who or what they need. Yes, sexual issues are complex for some people and may not be as trite as "if he/she loves you they would fuck you." If he/she wanted you enough, yes he/she would fuck you. Love is trickier.
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