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Post by richards on Jun 8, 2018 6:40:40 GMT -5
Yes, after 3 and a half years or so, of course everyone start thinking about marrying. But I have had some examples of friends, who have gotten married thinking it will resolve things. I do have that very clear, if we don't fix this I wont get married. Thank you all. I've like you guys to read the post about my current situation, I know it's long and boring, but I think, maybe as you guys have more experience, could give me your thoughts about it. Thank you all for your words. After 25 years of marriage (and 5 years of living together before that), I would agree with everyone who tells you to work it out now. Your sex life is not going to “get better” and its absence will corrode everything else that you love about your partner. Jobs, mortgages, children, in-laws—all of these can hold a sexless marriage together for a long time, but you will sacrifice what you like most about ... yourself. Get counseling or get the ground rules straight (i.e., sex outside of marriage) at the outset. This is not something that you can postpone, evade or compromise on by hoping that things will improve; they won’t. If you truly love each other, you will be able to work it out; if you can’t, then you are “settling,” not marrying—which is all too frequent (and leads to websites like this one). I don’t want to sound too grim; there are lots of different ways to be married. But you should not be afraid to think outside of the box and create the best life possible for yourself. (Believe it or not, most everyone who has been married—happily or not—totally gets this.) Cheers.
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