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Post by merrygoround on Dec 31, 2017 7:45:50 GMT -5
heavyheart i've been reading through your back story, and although I've been on the other side now, 6 months post divorce, so much of what you've written resonates with me, a lot of it very familiar. That shit cuts deep. I recognise that all too familiar pain in your words and I just wanted to say work on you. Take care of you. Whatever path this all leads you down, there will be some "residue" of what went before so working on yourself now is essential. It the old cliché of "you can lead a horse to water....". Until he takes responsibility and you realise that he is the only one who can do this, which is painful enough to face, you give yourself the respect and care that YOU deserve and find that strength. Hugs x
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Post by elkclan2 on Dec 31, 2017 11:06:25 GMT -5
heavyheart - this sounds similar to my story, in some ways -right down to entertaining a house full of people without much help. My refuser wasn't big on helping either. Holidays were on me. All kinds of stuff was on me.
I'm late 40s and fat. I know there are a lot of people who wouldn't find me attractive. But I also knew some did.
My marriage is mostly over (bar some legalities) and certainly we haven't lived together for 2.5 yrs. I have a new partner who I ADORE. He is hotter, smarter, nicer and fitter than my ex. He is helpful, loving, good company and highly sexed.
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Post by Dan on Jan 4, 2018 21:41:04 GMT -5
For Christmas he gave me pyjamas - like something a grandma would wear. I fought really hard not to burst into tears in front of him and our daughter. I don't know if I am being sensitive and overreacting but long sleeved, full coverage grey and white pyjamas? Please send them to me. I am very creative; somewhat skilled in the sartorial arts. I'll pull out my scissors and sewing machine, and work up one of these for you: ...maybe I shouldn't bother anymore? With pajamas? For your husband, it probably won't make a difference. But on behalf of the next man you are with: let me give you an encouraging YES to that one...
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