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Post by darktippedrose on Dec 26, 2017 16:32:13 GMT -5
Having sex with a person that is completely uninterested. They lay there with there arms and legs out to the side. oh lol. my husband says that I do that. I'm not sure what exactly I'm suppposed to do when the sex hurts and he's not big on foreplay. I also hate being assertive during sex. So maybe eh's submissive too
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Post by wom360 on Dec 26, 2017 17:03:53 GMT -5
Having sex with a person that is completely uninterested. They lay there with there arms and legs out to the side. oh lol. my husband says that I do that. I'm not sure what exactly I'm suppposed to do when the sex hurts and he's not big on foreplay. I also hate being assertive during sex. So maybe eh's submissive too It’s hard to be a starfish when you’re on top, or on your knees. Just saying.
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Post by northstarmom on Dec 26, 2017 18:45:16 GMT -5
“my husband says that I do that. I'm not sure what exactly I'm suppposed to do when the sex hurts and he's not big on foreplay. “
If sex isn’t pleasurable because your guy is a selfish jerk who won’t listen when you tell him you need foreplay, he is getting the kind of sex that his behavior caused.
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Post by M2G on Dec 27, 2017 8:30:47 GMT -5
oh lol. my husband says that I do that. I'm not sure what exactly I'm suppposed to do when the sex hurts and he's not big on foreplay. I also hate being assertive during sex. So maybe eh's submissive too It’s hard to be a starfish when you’re on top, or on your knees. Just saying. It must be hard not to do that (starfish), when one's partner has no regard for anyone's pleasure but his own. I really hate to say it in this venue, but if it were me and I had a lover with a selfish attitude like that I would refuse sex entirely unless and until said lover showed some simple consideration. Most well-adjusted people will take as much (or sometimes more) pleasure in pleasing their partner than pleasing themselves. If they care nothing for their partner, then they don't deserve a partner - they can get a blowup doll or use their hand. Worse, it may be that the inconsiderate partner enjoys more the power over someone else - and the fact that they take what they want, whenever they want, whether or not their partner wants them or not. People like this tend to back away from active partners because they don't satisfy their need for control. Yours seems very narcissistic: Refusal when you do want it, and sex on demand even if you don't want it, and making you the brunt of jokes in front of others. Please don't misunderstand me - there's nothing wrong with enjoying a submissive sexual role. Personally I kinda like it myself from time to time ..however, there still needs to be attention paid each to other's needs. Your guy seems irredeemably bereft of empathy. Have you ever refused him? If so, what was his reaction?
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Post by darktippedrose on Dec 27, 2017 16:05:05 GMT -5
Technically speaking, I am a submissive, sexually and nonsexually. but that is safe, sane and consensual. and I don't count the sex with my husband as being THAT. He doesn't understand sexual submissiveness. NOt truly anyways. And I haven't had sex in 5 years, coming up this spring. So I really can't say. It’s hard to be a starfish when you’re on top, or on your knees. Just saying. It must be hard not to do that (starfish), when one's partner has no regard for anyone's pleasure but his own. I really hate to say it in this venue, but if it were me and I had a lover with a selfish attitude like that I would refuse sex entirely unless and until said lover showed some simple consideration. Most well-adjusted people will take as much (or sometimes more) pleasure in pleasing their partner than pleasing themselves. If they care nothing for their partner, then they don't deserve a partner - they can get a blowup doll or use their hand. Worse, it may be that the inconsiderate partner enjoys more the power over someone else - and the fact that they take what they want, whenever they want, whether or not their partner wants them or not. People like this tend to back away from active partners because they don't satisfy their need for control. Yours seems very narcissistic: Refusal when you do want it, and sex on demand even if you don't want it, and making you the brunt of jokes in front of others. Please don't misunderstand me - there's nothing wrong with enjoying a submissive sexual role. Personally I kinda like it myself from time to time ..however, there still needs to be attention paid each to other's needs. Your guy seems irredeemably bereft of empathy. Have you ever refused him? If so, what was his reaction?
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Post by orangepeel on Dec 27, 2017 18:14:22 GMT -5
Five years! Me too!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 27, 2017 19:39:18 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Dec 27, 2017 19:39:43 GMT -5
I can assure you orangepeel, I am not your wife.
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Post by RumRunner on Dec 27, 2017 20:45:22 GMT -5
For some strange reason the Pina Colada song from Rupert Holmes - Escape comes to mind. Well that song ended happily. Ha!
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Post by orangepeel on Dec 28, 2017 4:22:33 GMT -5
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Post by saarinista on Dec 28, 2017 4:24:55 GMT -5
For some strange reason the Pina Colada song from Rupert Holmes - Escape comes to mind. Well that song ended happily. Ha! That was exactly MY first thought! Hey, there's more than one way to fix a sexless marriage--perhaps reengaging with your partner on a sexless marriage forum is one of them! hah! Additionally, may I just say that there are far too many of us who have endured sexlessness for far too long? What the hey? No wonder this country is a mess! As I look at the time frames of how long we forum members have lived without sex (8 years for me) I must say that it's time for many of us to fish or cut bait. Married life should not be like this! Rant over. I'm not your wife, OP
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Post by orangepeel on Dec 28, 2017 4:28:46 GMT -5
For some strange reason the Pina Colada song from Rupert Holmes - Escape comes to mind. Well that song ended happily. Ha! That was exactly MY first thought! Hey, there's more than one way to fix a sexless marriage--perhaps reengaging with your partner on a sexless marriage forum is one of them! hah! Additionally, may I just say that there are far too many of us who have endured sexlessness for far too long? What the hey? No wonder this country is a mess! As I look at the time frames of how long we forum members have lived without sex (8 years for me) I must say that it's time for many of us to fish or cut bait. Married life should not be like this! Rant over. I'm not your wife, OP To be fair, I believe you: she’s asleep at this precise moment!
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Post by orangepeel on Dec 28, 2017 4:39:31 GMT -5
That was exactly MY first thought! Hey, there's more than one way to fix a sexless marriage--perhaps reengaging with your partner on a sexless marriage forum is one of them! hah! Additionally, may I just say that there are far too many of us who have endured sexlessness for far too long? What the hey? No wonder this country is a mess! As I look at the time frames of how long we forum members have lived without sex (8 years for me) I must say that it's time for many of us to fish or cut bait. Married life should not be like this! Rant over. I'm not your wife, OP To be fair, I believe you: she’s asleep at this precise moment! So we’ve established andie is my wife - clearly a woman of hidden depths - and saarinista is quite right: this is all mad, isn’t it?
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Post by orangepeel on Dec 28, 2017 5:16:43 GMT -5
Let’s do a deal: I’ll stop counter-refusing if you stop refusing. Tonight. Whaddaya say?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 28, 2017 6:20:25 GMT -5
Let’s do a deal: I’ll stop counter-refusing if you stop refusing. Tonight. Whaddaya say? Thankfully my aesthetician has an opening today. And she has a holiday special: extra hairy, no extra charge.
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