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Post by jim44444 on May 11, 2016 16:28:52 GMT -5
Nothing creative just -
No.
I don't want to.
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Post by beguiledcinderella on May 11, 2016 16:34:56 GMT -5
You know, I never got any refusal words so... Same with me - no excuses, no words at all, just a complete lack of reaction. I guess he couldn't even be bothered to make an excuse. The last time I kissed him, he put his palm on my chest and pushed me away from me, gently, but still. Words were unnecessary at that point. I never get those words anymore. That was back in the day. Then he developed new tactics where I could never even get close enough for him to refuse. Go to bed super early or super late. Sit on the couch surrounded by stuff so I couldn't sit near. Now I've taken notes on those tactics and I use them myself to avoid interacting with him My husband has always let me kiss him, but he remains completely passive. It's like kissing-- I don't know what. He doesn't reject, he doesn't push me away -- he just doesn't reapond |
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Post by ggold on May 11, 2016 18:23:16 GMT -5
You know, I never got any refusal words so... Mine I guess would be, "zzzzzzzzzzzz" (asleep on the couch) and once I was told to continue vacuuming (when I stopped to make a move on him) That's all I got! Really? - because all that is going through my mind is: "Hey if you want to suck something up...." And I'm sorry for being a perv. LOL!! Yea, that was the response I was looking for at the time! So, I just kept on vacuuming! |
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Post by angryspartan on May 11, 2016 18:48:16 GMT -5
I sat too close to the sewing machine
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Post by deleted on May 11, 2016 22:17:27 GMT -5
You know, I never got any refusal words so... Mine I guess would be, "zzzzzzzzzzzz" (asleep on the couch) Same here. Fall asleep on the couch or in bed as I was trying to initiate something. It's a shitty feeling. You aren't even worth staying awake for... When I finally asked, she said, "sex isn't something that I ever think about." |
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Post by ggold on May 11, 2016 22:19:54 GMT -5
You know, I never got any refusal words so... Mine I guess would be, "zzzzzzzzzzzz" (asleep on the couch) Same here. Fall asleep on the couch or in bed as I was trying to initiate something. It's a shitty feeling. You aren't even worth staying awake for... When I finally asked, she said, "sex isn't something that I ever think about." Mine and yours would have a blast together! Snoozing!! |
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Post by deleted on May 11, 2016 22:23:45 GMT -5
You know that!
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Post by LITW on May 12, 2016 12:44:50 GMT -5
You know, I never got any refusal words so... Mine I guess would be, "zzzzzzzzzzzz" (asleep on the couch) Same here. Fall asleep on the couch or in bed as I was trying to initiate something. It's a shitty feeling. You aren't even worth staying awake for... When I finally asked, she said, "sex isn't something that I ever think about." My wife has uttered those exact same words many times. Years ago she told me that if I wanted sex, I had to ask for it, because she never thinks about it. But whenever I brought it up, there was always some reason why she couldn't, so we would reschedule, but it never happened then either. I eventually gave up asking because the chance of it actually happening was too low and I didn't want to get my hopes up only to be disappointed. |
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Post by SweepyBear on May 12, 2016 12:48:47 GMT -5
I have a wife that sleeps pretty much 20 hrs a day with painkillers etc etc, so I built a guitar man cave, I just lock myself in there, so the point of refusing sex never arises, because there is never the situation
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Post by westsideblues1 on May 12, 2016 15:16:52 GMT -5
What I can remember is *we don't go to bed at same time * even though at that time neither one of us worked, we were together 24/7 for 3 years!!! he said I slept on wrong side of the bed, some times he would blame me, saying i was sick (I had migraines back then )
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Post by darktippedrose on May 12, 2016 17:52:32 GMT -5
The first time my husband rejected me was after 2 weeks of marriage. My husband worked 30 hours a week and liked to spend the rest of his stuff studying religion with his friends.
he said something like "I don't got time to stay at home f**king you all day. I'm a man. I'm not a boy toy. I'm a man. I got better s**t to do"
so many days later he admitted that he got most of sexin out of his system with his ex wife. yeah. that really made me feel awesome as a new wife.
over the years he's said various things.
one time, after he wanted to take another wife and was traumatized by my reaction, said I looked at you-know-what like a starving Ethiopian and after that he gradually didn't let me look at him.
Most of the time, he just said that he wanted time to relax. I was interrupting his relaxing time. I'm at home 24/7 but he gets more "relaxing" time than I do.
Another one i go was that I was distracting him from religion. When HE wanted sex, it was a religious matter, but not when I wanted it.
i no longer get those comments because I don't try anymore. I guess I don't feel safe. not like he'll hurt me. just like having sex will open up deep wounds.
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Post by Deleted on May 12, 2016 17:56:54 GMT -5
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Post by darktippedrose on May 13, 2016 1:44:51 GMT -5
CreelUnion, yeah I know
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Post by 3000more on May 13, 2016 14:40:40 GMT -5
My back hurts I have a sinus headache I have an upset stomach I'm full It's too late at night (between 9 and 10 PM) The cats are in the room You look tired I hate the "YOU look tired." My most prevalent have been "I'm tired" and "you look tired"
But 'ol "Bruce" is a damn Ironman tri-athlete, he's always ready! ha ha ha ha ha ha
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Post by wewbwb on May 13, 2016 14:50:12 GMT -5
I hate the "YOU look tired." My most prevalent have been "I'm tired" and "you look tired"
But 'ol "Bruce" is a damn Ironman tri-athlete, he's always ready! ha ha ha ha ha ha
I know - "YOU look tired" - "I am tired - of not getting sex so I'm getting a red bull." |
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