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Post by beachguy on Jul 12, 2017 12:18:10 GMT -5
Maybe sex negativity is the latest ultra-liberal political correctness? What's also interesting about your observation, is how a ultra "christian" conservative, far right wing, can be indoctrinated with sex negativity. I'm not Christian, I'm the other white meat LOL. But I always thought that that was heavily indoctrinated in many sectors of Christianity, and certainly Catholicism, which is the root of Christianity? |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 12, 2017 13:28:11 GMT -5
None of that mumbo jumbo even really matters, though. All that matters is the last sentence: "Are you both happy with the amount of sex you are having?" If the answer is yes, you are not here on this board. Bingo! Most on this board have read and researched everything we could from medical to psychological but you have spoken the fundamental truth. I have often thought (and she has said in actual words) that my wife just doesn't want to believe that it's "just about sex", that something else should be the "real" problem. Nope, pretty much just the sex (or a kiss, hold hands, hug). It is so unimportant to her that she can't imagine it being important to me. |
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Post by beachguy on Jul 12, 2017 14:07:05 GMT -5
None of that mumbo jumbo even really matters, though. All that matters is the last sentence: "Are you both happy with the amount of sex you are having?" If the answer is yes, you are not here on this board. Bingo! Most on this board have read and researched everything we could from medical to psychological but you have spoken the fundamental truth. I have often thought (and she has said in actual words) that my wife just doesn't want to believe that it's "just about sex", that something else should be the "real" problem. Nope, pretty much just the sex (or a kiss, hold hands, hug). It is so unimportant to her that she can't imagine it being important to me. I will always believe that anyone that doesn't want to believe "it's just about sex" is not truly sexual. By definition. Despite everything the sex negative media often try to make us believe. And for the most part, all our spouses here want desperately for us to believe that too. |
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Post by beachguy on Jul 12, 2017 18:43:47 GMT -5
None of that mumbo jumbo even really matters, though. All that matters is the last sentence: "Are you both happy with the amount of sex you are having?" If the answer is yes, you are not here on this board. Bingo! Most on this board have read and researched everything we could from medical to psychological but you have spoken the fundamental truth. I have often thought (and she has said in actual words) that my wife just doesn't want to believe that it's "just about sex", that something else should be the "real" problem. Nope, pretty much just the sex (or a kiss, hold hands, hug). It is so unimportant to her that she can't imagine it being important to me. A second thought on that. It's not just your wife, it's not just most or all the refusing spouses here. In fact, the entire couples counseling industry preaches this. And most of the sexless marriage advice drivel we read on the web from various self described experts. Which puts all the blame on the refused. |
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Post by lwoetin on Jul 13, 2017 1:33:23 GMT -5
What's also interesting about your observation, is how a ultra "christian" conservative, far right wing, can be indoctrinated with sex negativity. I'm not Christian, I'm the other white meat LOL. But I always thought that that was heavily indoctrinated in many sectors of Christianity, and certainly Catholicism, which is the root of Christianity? For average Catholics who go to church every Sunday, we don't get heavily indoctrinated with sex negativity towards our spouses. If it has to do with porn, adultery, prostitution, divorce, etc. then yes that is in the Bible readings and homilies. Sex is a tough subject to discuss during mass in church especially with kids around. Even during private confession with priest, I would tell him my disagreement with doctrine and he would inform me about what the Church teaches but doesn't tell me to go to hell. Of course I wasn't asking for forgiveness for acts I am not sorry for. Just voicing my opinion and hoping to gain understanding. My wife is not having sex with me because of church doctrine. She has her personal reasons. When she does have sex with me, it has a religious take to it. She says she will sacrifice herself. 🐑 |
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Post by McRoomMate on Jul 13, 2017 2:34:15 GMT -5
Maybe sex negativity is the latest ultra-liberal political correctness? What's also interesting about your observation, is how a ultra "christian" conservative, far right wing, can be indoctrinated with sex negativity. Not to get sidetracked . . . but ORWELL and a few others have postulated that supressing / repressing the sex drive by institutions is a highly effective tool at controlling people. So whether far left or far right, sex repression get people under control. |
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Post by McRoomMate on Jul 13, 2017 2:38:47 GMT -5
None of that mumbo jumbo even really matters, though. All that matters is the last sentence: "Are you both happy with the amount of sex you are having?" If the answer is yes, you are not here on this board. Bingo! Most on this board have read and researched everything we could from medical to psychological but you have spoken the fundamental truth. I have often thought (and she has said in actual words) that my wife just doesn't want to believe that it's "just about sex", that something else should be the "real" problem. Nope, pretty much just the sex (or a kiss, hold hands, hug). It is so unimportant to her that she can't imagine it being important to me. It may be "just about the sex" but it is EITHER only " no sex with you" (SPECIFIC AVERSION for whatever reason, but could be sexual with someone else) " OR "no sex with anyone" (GENERAL AVERSION for whatever reason does not want to have sex with anyone) |
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