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Post by eternaloptimism on May 29, 2017 23:47:06 GMT -5
What id give for some mystical gluing right now. Sigh ..... What if I told you there was "mystical glue" on your chin? Hypothetically of course. Is it stuck in my hypothetical beard? Wax he he he! |
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Post by hopingforachange on May 29, 2017 23:50:34 GMT -5
What if I told you there was "mystical glue" on your chin? Hypothetically of course. Is it stuck in my hypothetical beard? Wax he he he!  |
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Post by neonspace on Jun 2, 2017 9:48:29 GMT -5
I tell you the weirdest feeling, absolutely being beyond desiring the roommate.... and yet lusting after strangers you drive past in a car. I've felt more sexual energy in a traffic jam than lying in bed with him. Mad!!! This! Every day. |
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Post by novembercomingfire on Jun 2, 2017 10:21:02 GMT -5
I just did a Search on ILIASM, and I can't find where anyone used this analogy. I apologize if I'm wrong, but this is the best way I've heard it put: Many refusers are wont to say that sex is the frosting on the cake. They are wrong, as sex is the egg in the batter that you mix to create the cake. Try to bake a cake without eggs and you get crumbs, like a sexless marriage. Very true. Or to switch the analogy, sex is a minimum entry fee to a relationship. Without fucking, you're fucked. With it, you either will make it or you won't. That's why people who aren't compatible can fuck well sometimes - they hit the low entry level, but not the higher. And that's also why people who say their relationship is thriving without the fucking are deluding themselves and/or others. The fucking always comes first. It is, to switch to Latin terminology, a sine qua non. I have been told that i needed to work hard to make an emotional connection before i could ever expect sex with my wife. This seems maybe about half fair. I feeel like this is just another excuse for choreplay. Another fucking hoop for me to jump through. So, for her, sex is completely secondary. Now, in reality what she wanted was an emotional connection without sex. Whatever the fuck that is. But in a sense, this is fair for her. She claims no emotional connection, no sex, and its my fault. So she feels. Nothing wrong with that for her. Any thoughts? |
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Post by GeekGoddess on Jun 2, 2017 10:50:24 GMT -5
Very true. Or to switch the analogy, sex is a minimum entry fee to a relationship. Without fucking, you're fucked. With it, you either will make it or you won't. That's why people who aren't compatible can fuck well sometimes - they hit the low entry level, but not the higher. And that's also why people who say their relationship is thriving without the fucking are deluding themselves and/or others. The fucking always comes first. It is, to switch to Latin terminology, a sine qua non. I have been told that i needed to work hard to make an emotional connection before i could ever expect sex with my wife. This seems maybe about half fair. I feeel like this is just another excuse for choreplay. Another fucking hoop for me to jump through. So, for her, sex is completely secondary. Now, in reality what she wanted was an emotional connection without sex. Whatever the fuck that is. But in a sense, this is fair for her. She claims no emotional connection, no sex, and its my fault. So she feels. Nothing wrong with that for her. Any thoughts? If she feels NO emotional connection then why is she staying? She should divorce you & gift you your freedom---it wouldn't "cost" her any emotional pain, if there is in fact no emotional connection. This counts as "spewing bullshit" on her part because she has put words together in any damn way that she thinks you will accept it & back off. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Jun 2, 2017 10:57:56 GMT -5
What id give for some mystical gluing right now. Sigh ..... What if I told you there was "mystical glue" on your chin? Hypothetically of course. Theoretically, and philosophically, she could tell you, "really? give me a big wet kiss!" |
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