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Post by snowman12345 on May 1, 2016 17:38:32 GMT -5
How many of us are done with love?
I love my kids and grandkids so much - I not only would die for them, I would kill for them. They are probably the reason I am still in this SM. That and my own fear of being all alone. In a way I still love my refusing wife - you know the one that says she doesn't hate it so much any more and we should have sex more often (But that was weeks ago). Sometimes it is like living with a ghost - I can almost see and feel the former woman that I craved. But do I want her back? To go through the grief when she ultimately leaves again. For many years our life together was awesome, full of passion and everything I wanted. Then menopause hit and I was literally left alone and miserable. We had "The Talk". But you can't get blood from a rock - no hormones - no sex. After a while I decided I had had enough and sought sex elsewhere. Not love, but friendship and awesome sex. I think that if W discovers my philandering ways it will end the marriage. If that happens - so be it. But, I don't think that seeking out a new love relationship would be in the cards for me. Why go through that again? You know, I am content with the current way of things, but without the wife would I be much happier? Maybe, but for now, it is what it is.
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Post by misssunnybunny on May 1, 2016 17:43:44 GMT -5
For a long time during and after my SM, I was bitter and didn't want to think about falling in love, romance, having a happy and caring relationship. I'm still a bit bitter (or maybe it is realistic?), but I am starting to have hope that I can find a warm, caring, romantic partner who wants and desires me, and fall in love again. I don't think that I could ever marry again, as I don't want that legal hassle again, but a long-term, monogamous relationship I feel is definitely something in my future. Guess I've turned into a hopeful romantic, no longer a hopeless one.  |
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Post by Deleted on May 1, 2016 19:00:04 GMT -5
I would like to find love again. That's what I want. Call me an incurable romantic.
But, if it doesn't happen, it's not the end of the world. I've had one marriage, one long live-in relationship, and many other boyfriends. It's not like I've never had that part of life.
Besides, I know that it doesn't happen if it's all you ever think about, and if you get obsessive about it.
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Post by bballgirl on May 1, 2016 19:07:09 GMT -5
I would like to. I'm a hopeless romantic and I would love to have someone care about me as much as I care about them. Someone to go out and do things with and then at the end of the day come home and make love.
I don't need them to marry me or even live with me but I would like that higher more intimate level of companionship.
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Post by Deleted on May 1, 2016 19:33:17 GMT -5
I am a fucking idiot about love. I love my wife and no doubt would die for her. I love being in love. Without love I feel so lost. Like I say, I am an idiot.
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Post by darktippedrose on May 1, 2016 19:50:58 GMT -5
It depends on the day lol.
Some days I feel like L O V E is a 4 letter word used to manipulate people.
Some days i feel like I'll never find it, that I've never been meant for it, and no one could love someone like me.
Other days, I daydream that my husband is dead and that I have found my idea of a lover/best friend that actually gets me.
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Post by unmatched on May 1, 2016 19:52:50 GMT -5
It depends on the day lol. Some days I feel like L O V E is a 4 letter word used to manipulate people. Some days i feel like I'll never find it, that I've never been meant for it, and no one could love someone like me. Other days, I daydream that my husband is dead and that I have found my idea of a lover/best friend that actually gets me. I would go for door number C. (Only don't wait until he is dead!) |
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Post by bballgirl on May 1, 2016 20:18:37 GMT -5
I'm going to edit my answer:
I'm a hopeFUL romantic.
Sounds more optimistic!!
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Post by darktippedrose on May 1, 2016 21:18:48 GMT -5
It depends on the day lol. Some days I feel like L O V E is a 4 letter word used to manipulate people. Some days i feel like I'll never find it, that I've never been meant for it, and no one could love someone like me. Other days, I daydream that my husband is dead and that I have found my idea of a lover/best friend that actually gets me. I would go for door number C. (Only don't wait until he is dead!) I know I shouldn't, but it would be so convenient hehe   |
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Post by Deleted on May 1, 2016 21:24:08 GMT -5
When I think about love I think about the granny pantie thread and go read it again.
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Post by unmatched on May 2, 2016 9:04:41 GMT -5
I still love my wife to bits. It doesn't make it any better. Assuming we finally end up divorced, I really hope we can find a way to still be friends and still love each other without the intimacy part getting endlessly in the way. I don't know if it will happen that way and I realise there are a whole lot of possibilities for fucking it up, but if we can't it will feel like a stupid, heartbreaking, criminal waste of the bits of relationship we have built which are actually good. And I hope we both find other more compatible people to love moving forwards and can come to want the best for each other in that too.
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Post by wewbwb on May 2, 2016 10:37:49 GMT -5
I wish I could be "colder" - I can't - I tried. Even after all she put me through I still love W and I wouldn't want to see her hurt. Even if W and I part ways, I'd want us BOTH the find the happiness we desire.
I have hope that I can find a partner who can understand me.
I am a romantic - and it's painful at times.
A freaky little romantic.
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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2016 11:17:57 GMT -5
I still love my wife to bits. It doesn't make it any better. Assuming we finally end up divorced, I really hope we can find a way to still be friends and still love each other without the intimacy part getting endlessly in the way. I don't know if it will happen that way and I realise there are a whole lot of possibilities for fucking it up, but if we can't it will feel like a stupid, heartbreaking, criminal waste of the bits of relationship we have built which are actually good. And I hope we both find other more compatible people to love moving forwards and can come to want the best for each other in that too. This. This is how I feel about my husband and our futures. |
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Post by LITW on May 2, 2016 12:33:15 GMT -5
When I think about love I think about the granny pantie thread and go read it again. I regret writing that so much now .... lol ... I really don't want to be known as "That guy that wrote it" go see my edit ... |
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Post by LITW on May 2, 2016 12:45:03 GMT -5
I am not done with love, and I never will be.
It is actually love and a sense of loyalty that keeps me from leaving. Outside of the (lack of) sex issues, my wife and I are pretty compatible and great friends, and I really don't want to hurt her. That said, if this marriage were to fail, I would not remarry. I would like to fall in love again, but not remarry.
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