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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Mar 7, 2017 13:54:30 GMT -5
This is probably true... My H is exceedingly picky about what he doesn't like in bedroom attire, no straps, corsets, leather, red, etc etc etc... I think if I had the choice I am probably more of a cosplay kind of gal. Like give me a princess Leia golden bikini, or a barely there poison ivy. |
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Post by hopingforachange on Mar 7, 2017 14:20:19 GMT -5
This is probably true... My H is exceedingly picky about what he doesn't like in bedroom attire, no straps, corsets, leather, red, etc etc etc... I think if I had the choice I am probably more of a cosplay kind of gal. Like give me a princess Leia golden bikini, or a barely there poison ivy. Maybe our spouses are related.... |
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Post by unmatched on Mar 8, 2017 0:20:09 GMT -5
This is probably true... My H is exceedingly picky about what he doesn't like in bedroom attire, no straps, corsets, leather, red, etc etc etc... I think if I had the choice I am probably more of a cosplay kind of gal. Like give me a princess Leia golden bikini, or a barely there poison ivy. 'I can't possibly have sex with you - the leather corset and red boots are putting me off.' That is actually almost funny. |
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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Mar 8, 2017 3:56:34 GMT -5
This is probably true... My H is exceedingly picky about what he doesn't like in bedroom attire, no straps, corsets, leather, red, etc etc etc... I think if I had the choice I am probably more of a cosplay kind of gal. Like give me a princess Leia golden bikini, or a barely there poison ivy. 'I can't possibly have sex with you - the leather corset and red boots are putting me off.' That is actually almost funny. It is! Well, funny not funny I suppose. One time I found this "little miss muffit" costume (and what I thought would be his color palette )... Had the peek a boo booty, push up the ladies, hair in grab-able braids, my sexy skinny heels and these thigh high tights that I (stupid me) used the straps to attach them to the outfit. Dude literally walked in "you know I'm not a fan of straps"... Me:*Confused face* " It's cute, but maybe next time"... |
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Post by hopingforachange on Mar 8, 2017 7:10:09 GMT -5
'I can't possibly have sex with you - the leather corset and red boots are putting me off.' That is actually almost funny. It is! Well, funny not funny I suppose. One time I found this "little miss muffit" costume (and what I thought would be his color palette )... Had the peek a boo booty, push up the ladies, hair in grab-able braids, my sexy skinny heels and these thigh high tights that I (stupid me) used the straps to attach them to the outfit. Dude literally walked in "you know I'm not a fan of straps"... Me:*Confused face* " It's cute, but maybe next time"... Alright, that's it. We are swapping spouses! Sexy costumes and your pocket/ fun sized. FYI: I am ordering another suit today.😉 |
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Post by darktippedrose on Mar 8, 2017 15:26:35 GMT -5
'I can't possibly have sex with you - the leather corset and red boots are putting me off.' That is actually almost funny. It is! Well, funny not funny I suppose. One time I found this "little miss muffit" costume (and what I thought would be his color palette )... Had the peek a boo booty, push up the ladies, hair in grab-able braids, my sexy skinny heels and these thigh high tights that I (stupid me) used the straps to attach them to the outfit. Dude literally walked in "you know I'm not a fan of straps"... Me:*Confused face* " It's cute, but maybe next time"... oh boy. I wore lingerie underneath my wedding dress ( it actually a skirt/dress combo that i bought from an African store). After I got home, my husband started laughing/making fun of other women who are religious and wear lingerie. and basically thought it was stupid and pointless. I felt sooo ashamed so I took all my wedding lingerie and threw it away before he came back home. He went to go pray, his friends told him to go home and spend time with me, but he was like "no, I don't worship my wife" le sigh  I don't even know why these men wanted to get married in the first place. |
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Post by hopingforachange on Mar 8, 2017 15:46:33 GMT -5
It is! Well, funny not funny I suppose. One time I found this "little miss muffit" costume (and what I thought would be his color palette )... Had the peek a boo booty, push up the ladies, hair in grab-able braids, my sexy skinny heels and these thigh high tights that I (stupid me) used the straps to attach them to the outfit. Dude literally walked in "you know I'm not a fan of straps"... Me:*Confused face* " It's cute, but maybe next time"... oh boy. I wore lingerie underneath my wedding dress ( it actually a skirt/dress combo that i bought from an African store). After I got home, my husband started laughing/making fun of other women who are religious and wear lingerie. and basically thought it was stupid and pointless. I felt sooo ashamed so I took all my wedding lingerie and threw it away before he came back home. He went to go pray, his friends told him to go home and spend time with me, but he was like "no, I don't worship my wife" le sigh I don't even know why these men wanted to get married in the first place. wow, that is an !@#$!@#$ thing to do. My wedding night/ honeymoon was horrible to. I found out later that she didn't want to consummate the marriage on our wedding night but did it out of duty. At the time I though it felt disconnected because we were both so tired. Our hotel room even had an outside hot tube, that she didn't want to get in. The next morning we drive to where we had our honeymoon. After we got there, she was an emotional wreck and was on the phone in the bathroom with her mom for hours. I think we had sex 1 other time during the 5 day honeymoon. Looking back, maybe those should have been red flags too. |
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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Mar 8, 2017 17:07:29 GMT -5
oh boy. I wore lingerie underneath my wedding dress ( it actually a skirt/dress combo that i bought from an African store). After I got home, my husband started laughing/making fun of other women who are religious and wear lingerie. and basically thought it was stupid and pointless. I felt sooo ashamed so I took all my wedding lingerie and threw it away before he came back home. He went to go pray, his friends told him to go home and spend time with me, but he was like "no, I don't worship my wife" le sigh I don't even know why these men wanted to get married in the first place. wow, that is an !@#$!@#$ thing to do. My wedding night/ honeymoon was horrible to. I found out later that she didn't want to consummate the marriage on our wedding night but did it out of duty. At the time I though it felt disconnected because we were both so tired.  Our hotel room even had an outside hot tube, that she didn't want to get in. The next morning we drive to where we had our honeymoon. After we got there, she was an emotional wreck and was on the phone in the bathroom with her mom for hours. I think we had sex 1 other time during the 5 day honeymoon. Looking back, maybe those should have been red flags too. That's... I just don't even... Both of those are absolutely awful. Not at all what you would ever expect of a newly married couple. To be fair my mother is a refuser and she always said "he will never leave you alone, he will hold it over your head and ask for it all the time.." joke's on me. Why even bother going on a honeymoon? |
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Post by hopingforachange on Mar 8, 2017 19:04:38 GMT -5
wow, that is an !@#$!@#$ thing to do. My wedding night/ honeymoon was horrible to. I found out later that she didn't want to consummate the marriage on our wedding night but did it out of duty. At the time I though it felt disconnected because we were both so tired.  Our hotel room even had an outside hot tube, that she didn't want to get in. The next morning we drive to where we had our honeymoon. After we got there, she was an emotional wreck and was on the phone in the bathroom with her mom for hours. I think we had sex 1 other time during the 5 day honeymoon. Looking back, maybe those should have been red flags too. That's... I just don't even... Both of those are absolutely awful. Not at all what you would ever expect of a newly married couple. To be fair my mother is a refuser and she always said "he will never leave you alone, he will hold it over your head and ask for it all the time.." joke's on me. Why even bother going on a honeymoon? And the wife wonders why we didn't renew our vows or go anywhere for our 10 year. I wanted to go on a 2nd honeymoon but, I can be just as refused at home. There is the possibility of hotel/ vacation sex ...... If I pried it out of her. |
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Post by Dan on Mar 8, 2017 19:46:45 GMT -5
'I can't possibly have sex with you - the leather corset and red boots are putting me off.' That is actually almost funny. It is! Well, funny not funny I suppose. One time I found this "little miss muffit" costume (and what I thought would be his color palette )... Had the peek a boo booty, push up the ladies, hair in grab-able braids, my sexy skinny heels and these thigh high tights that I (stupid me) used the straps to attach them to the outfit. Dude literally walked in "you know I'm not a fan of straps"... Me:*Confused face* " It's cute, but maybe next time"... Please tell me you have an unmarried sister... A bit older than you... Who lives on the east coast... And has the same taste in playful wear! |
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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Mar 8, 2017 23:08:19 GMT -5
It is! Well, funny not funny I suppose. One time I found this "little miss muffit" costume (and what I thought would be his color palette )... Had the peek a boo booty, push up the ladies, hair in grab-able braids, my sexy skinny heels and these thigh high tights that I (stupid me) used the straps to attach them to the outfit. Dude literally walked in "you know I'm not a fan of straps"... Me:*Confused face* " It's cute, but maybe next time"... Please tell me you have an unmarried sister... A bit older than you... Who lives on the east coast... And has the same taste in playful wear! 2 of the four haha! It does make you wonder what actually can peak interest when a nearly naked, dripping wet woman in standing in front of you and you literally say nah... After it has been 6 weeks... and all of your prerequisites have been met... We all know the list of prerequisites that we have to achieve before initiating! Sound off! Dishes, child asleep, at night, before midnight, at least one day after exercise, never the week of ovulation, nor the surrounding week of auntie flow, shall we continue?! Any other good ones out there? |
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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Mar 8, 2017 23:12:15 GMT -5
That's... I just don't even... Both of those are absolutely awful. Not at all what you would ever expect of a newly married couple. To be fair my mother is a refuser and she always said "he will never leave you alone, he will hold it over your head and ask for it all the time.." joke's on me. Why even bother going on a honeymoon? And the wife wonders why we didn't renew our vows or go anywhere for our 10 year. I wanted to go on a 2nd honeymoon but, I can be just as refused at home. There is the possibility of hotel/ vacation sex ...... If I pried it out of her. That's a pretty serious expense for a little poon. Seriously, I think some high class arm candy would be cheaper. Also, why? Why would she even want that? I'd call it a vacation, I would never phrase it as a renewal of vows/2nd honeymoon/honeymoon etc knowing full and well you do not intend to participate in any of the activities associated with those titles. I'm going to fork out the cash and time to go spend a week skiing, but really I'm just going to use that time to sit in the lodge and enjoy Netflix. Logic. |
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Post by hopingforachange on Mar 8, 2017 23:28:45 GMT -5
And the wife wonders why we didn't renew our vows or go anywhere for our 10 year. I wanted to go on a 2nd honeymoon but, I can be just as refused at home. There is the possibility of hotel/ vacation sex ...... If I pried it out of her. That's a pretty serious expense for a little poon. Seriously, I think some high class arm candy would be cheaper. Also, why? Why would she even want that? I'd call it a vacation, I would never phrase it as a renewal of vows/2nd honeymoon/honeymoon etc knowing full and well you do not intend to participate in any of the activities associated with those titles. I'm going to fork out the cash and time to go spend a week skiing, but really I'm just going to use that time to sit in the lodge and enjoy Netflix. Logic. I wouldn't mind doing a vow renewal of the relationship was in that place. but at this point I am closer to sleeping on the futon in the basement. She just doesn't get that her rejection still continues. It can be from the simple things like controlling exactly where my hands can be placed when we cuddle. She will move them if they are 1/2" to close to get breasts or PJ waist band or the wrong part of her tummy. It's like playing a game of operation just to be near her. At this point I am growing colder to her, the crap is getting old. And she thinks she is trying. |
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Post by hopingforachange on Mar 8, 2017 23:38:49 GMT -5
Please tell me you have an unmarried sister... A bit older than you... Who lives on the east coast... And has the same taste in playful wear! 2 of the four haha! It does make you wonder what actually can peak interest when a nearly naked, dripping wet woman in standing in front of you and you literally say nah... After it has been 6 weeks... and all of your prerequisites have been met... We all know the list of prerequisites that we have to achieve before initiating! Sound off! Dishes, child asleep, at night, before midnight, at least one day after exercise, never the week of ovulation, nor the surrounding week of auntie flow, shall we continue?! Any other good ones out there? How about, the sheets are to dirty, so the next day you change them and the excuse is, but these are fresh sheets. I almost lost it that night. I did go get cookies and eat them in bed, and tried to get crumbs everywhere, out of spite. The refusers can come up with anything. |
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Post by darktippedrose on Mar 9, 2017 1:49:44 GMT -5
2 of the four haha! It does make you wonder what actually can peak interest when a nearly naked, dripping wet woman in standing in front of you and you literally say nah... After it has been 6 weeks... and all of your prerequisites have been met... We all know the list of prerequisites that we have to achieve before initiating! Sound off! Dishes, child asleep, at night, before midnight, at least one day after exercise, never the week of ovulation, nor the surrounding week of auntie flow, shall we continue?! Any other good ones out there? How about, the sheets are to dirty, so the next day you change them and the excuse is, but these are fresh sheets. I almost lost it that night. I did go get cookies and eat them in bed, and tried to get crumbs everywhere, out of spite. The refusers can come up with anything. That is funny. on the EP sexless marriage forum, there was a guy, I don't remember his name, after his wife had a baby she got soooo mad at him for having the stomach flu. She would not quit harping on him. He didn't do it on purpose. So he brushed his teeth with her toothbrush and when she got it, she didn't say a thing lol sometimes i'm surprised at my stupid petty pleasures when it comes to Mr. Grumpy and yes, its kind of sad about not having a great wedding night. |
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