Fighting the emotional dog

Words, particularly the ones we say to ourselves, are very important.
If you continually tell yourself - "I'll never meet someone else" - you are highly likely to be correct. If this is your true position, then you will be oblivious to any opportunity that might present itself, because your mind is closed to that possibility.
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On the other hand, if you are telling yourself - "It seems unlikely right now that I will ever meet anyone else but I am open to that possibility" - then should an opportunity arise, you are some chance of recognising it. Your thinking is open to that possibility.
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"Divorcing my refuser would destroy my family" is another example.
"Divorcing my refuser would severely disrupt my family" might be somewhat more accurate.
The former ascribes a connotation of irretrievable finality to the situation.
The latter suggests a manageable transition might be possible. 
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Or perhaps the old "No-one would want me" bit of self talk. Which assumes you have suddenly developed the talents of a fucking mind reader, able to discern what strangers are thinking.
"My self esteem is in the crapper at this point" might be a tad more accurate. And possibly this might be addressable.

Now, I am not about to go all "new Age" on you and start promoting "The Power of Positive Thinking" as the cure all for things, or that garbage book "The Secret" as promoted by Oprah (where if you wish hard enough whatever you wish for comes true) but I personally believe that what we tell ourselves can - and does - impact upon our thinking.
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It does no harm to challenge your thinking.
It does no harm to let a bit of emotional air out of the balloon.
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Both are valuable tools to employ in digging for your truth.
"Absolute" words, and highly emotive words are not particularly helpful in this endevour.