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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2016 19:22:22 GMT -5
Laugh if you want, but I think things like the Law of Attraction, positive thinking, etc., really can work. I started studying up on stuff like this around the beginning of the year. I was at the end of my rope; I felt awful. Somebody, I don't remember who, recommended that I read "The Secret." It's not that you just visualize what you want and it appears. It's a little more complex than that, and the path to what you may not be smooth; there may be detours. But you know what finally sold me on this? When I practice the positive thinking methods, I'm in a better mood. It would be worth it for that, even if nothing else happened. Kat, guess how I found my refuser? Lol I'm pretty sure the Law of Attraction works, but you have to be careful what you wish for. Btw, I've used it a few times, and things have materialized. My refuser; a gorgeous man who was younger than me, but I have nice memories of the weeks we spent together; my dream home, which I still miss terribly; even used it to find clothes I wanted at the right price. I'm not good at visualization, so I use "feelings." I can feel as though I already have something. Thing is, the depression has overshadowed my ability to feel like this. I find it takes constant mental energy and focus to "feel the law of attraction," energy which I didn't have up to now. Im getting a sense of it, but the sadness I feel from EP closing makes it hard to muster positive magnetism at the moment. Yet, I feel like I can do it, if I can get my head right. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2016 19:26:52 GMT -5
We're all ears, Jasiri! :-) I reposted on EP.  |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2016 19:40:27 GMT -5
I started studying up on stuff like this around the beginning of the year. I was at the end of my rope; I felt awful. Somebody, I don't remember who, recommended that I read "The Secret." Dunno if that was me, but I'm a fan of The Secret. They have a video version as well. For others... the premise being, if a) you clearly define your desires / goals, b) keep your goals in mind, and c) share your goals with others... you will be gradually working toward your goals constantly, even if it's just tiny steps. Others will help you reach your goals simply because they can; but if they don't know, they can't help. I'm mentoring a guy at work; just general career guidance. Well, it turns out he has an interest in changing career path to field XYZ and also wants to move to the US. It so happens that my team is a flagship for XYZ, so I'm hooked into a ton of related groups, including an internal apprenticeship program with residency, etc. Will it all come together for him? Who knows. But if he hadn't voiced his desire, the connection could never have been made, and resources that will help him with his goal would never have been presented. As I say about goals... it's amazing how much you can achieve in life if you define your goals, and how fast the years go by if you don't. It's knowing when to say something, and when to keep your desires secret. The example you gave is one where sharing one's goals is helpful, but there are other goals and desires that are better not shared. This is how I see it, DC. It's like a magnetic force from your being to the universe, and there are fragile threads attracting your desire (or something similar) to you, but if those threads are broken by negativity (like someone says, "that doesn't work," or "you'll never achieve that," then no matter how much you try to ignore it, the stone has been cast, and caused a negative ripple in the thread. Those magnetic threads/feelers going out to the universe is coming from your mind, so you have to maintain the positive thoughts/magnetism/feelings for it to attract what you want. The last thing you need is negativity from others about your desire. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2016 17:16:09 GMT -5
Laugh if you want, but I think things like the Law of Attraction, positive thinking, etc., really can work. I started studying up on stuff like this around the beginning of the year. I was at the end of my rope; I felt awful. Somebody, I don't remember who, recommended that I read "The Secret." It's not that you just visualize what you want and it appears. It's a little more complex than that, and the path to what you may not be smooth; there may be detours. But you know what finally sold me on this? When I practice the positive thinking methods, I'm in a better mood. It would be worth it for that, even if nothing else happened. I feel like I responded to your comment, Kat, but I don't see it. Maybe I started then got distracted so never posted. Anyway, it did not work, which is not surprising seeing that I never left the house that weekend. lol He's not going to come knocking on my door that's for sure. I did see a few men walking by from my window. Not just walking by, but stopping on the bridge overlooking the creek ( I can see from my window). They were out enjoying the sunshine, and I thought if I were out there now maybe I'd strike up a conversation. It's very pretty here, so when the weather is nice all kinds of people are walking by or standing looking at the water. Maybe I'll get out there this weekend. Last summer, I wasn't ready for any kind of relationship or dalliance, (I was only weeks out) but maybe this summer I'll feel like a practice run. |
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Post by mathdoll on Apr 23, 2016 11:01:44 GMT -5
I think that there is adifference between positive thinking and the 'law of attraction'. Developing optimism and reducing negative thinking have been shown to be helpful in lost of ways. The way that you habitually think also has an impact on your feelings and behaviour - both positively and negatively. When I can I try and replace my negative thoughts with more reasonable or positive ones. I also work on my posture and appearance as they also have an effect.
As for The Secret etc? In my mid twenties I had a period of reading about and practicing a lot of creative visualisation (the precursor to The Secret) and I certainly felt better and more optimistic. I am concerned however about the implications of believing wholeheartedly in the law of attraction. Barbara Ehrenreich's book Smile or Die is a good place to start with that.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2016 16:27:29 GMT -5
I think that there is adifference between positive thinking and the 'law of attraction'. Developing optimism and reducing negative thinking have been shown to be helpful in lost of ways. The way that you habitually think also has an impact on your feelings and behaviour - both positively and negatively. When I can I try and replace my negative thoughts with more reasonable or positive ones. I also work on my posture and appearance as they also have an effect. As for The Secret etc? In my mid twenties I had a period of reading about and practicing a lot of creative visualisation (the precursor to The Secret) and I certainly felt better and more optimistic. I am concerned however about the implications of believing wholeheartedly in the law of attraction. Barbara Ehrenreich's book Smile or Die is a good place to start with that. I did post this with a bit of tongue in cheek. While I know the law of attraction can work, and also positive thinking, I never forget that both have a positive and negative side...as does everything. More than 26-years ago, I utilized the laws of attraction to meet a partner in life. He came along. We got married. He had most of the attributes I had written down in my affirmation statement. I still have that by the way. As it turned out, my dream come true was also my refuser. I used positive thinking to get me through 25-years of hell, however, it can actually keep you in hell because you keep focusing on all the positive things in your life, and knowing that others had it far worse than me. I could have been living in a hut with no plumbing in a war torn country. Yes, I had to think positively, and frequently tell myself that it's not so bad. It could be worse. The problem with that "positive" thinking is that it's a lie. Trying to compare myself with someone in a third world country is not realistic. I should have compared myself with someone in a happy marriage. So while positive thinking and hope can be good things, they can also be bad things when we put blinders on and don't face reality. |
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