Post by maxlonely on Dec 19, 2023 18:43:20 GMT -5
It’s been 3 years since my wife and I have had sex or even touched each other.
I’ve tried initiating but she’s just not interested and has actively said she doesn’t want me to touch her.
She doesn’t ever want to talk about the lack of sex and I feel she just has turned off me and sex altogether.
I would like to ask the group if I should just give up and move on. I’m starting to disconnect due to lack of affection.
Our family life is stressful and our kids are a handful. I can see the impact of my wife and I’s relationship is not good on them.
Is it better to move on for the sake of my wife and kids. I have lost all connection with her
What do each of you think a marriage is? What did you sign up for?
What kinds of things differentiate a married relationship from other close relationships - romantic or otherwise.
Consider: Parent/child, friends, roommates, amicable ex-spouse/co-parent, business partner, boyfriend/girlfriend.
Yes you had a wedding - but what would you both agree differentiates a marriage from those other relationships? Do you have those things?
Would you agree that whatever you have now is not really a marriage, based on what you agree a marriage to be?
If that's the case, where did it go off?
Is it that she knows something about you now or has seen something that she didn't before - something that has made her withdraw to the point that she no longer sees you as a viable sexual partner?
Is it more that she finds herself in a situation (marriage) that she doesn't actually want to be in, so it's the circumstance itself that makes her feel trapped with you as the jailor? Where did things fall off? 3 years ago - did something happen then? Think back to maybe 4-5 years, or even to the beginning of the marriage.
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Whats strange is that my business has really taken off and I have become alot more succesful with money and relationships. I almost feel like shes jealous in some ways. She always thought that she is smarter than me (shes a lawyer but stuck in a role she doesnt like).
I thought couples like when their partners do well. I feel I I'm getting the opposite of what this is..